To overthink the meaning of this..?

[Littlecat11]

If your OH says to you:

"You're the most beautiful girl in the world to me"

Would you take this to mean:
A) you're not the most beautiful girl in the world, so don't get ideas above your station.
Or
B) you're the most beautiful girl in the world.

Aibu? How does your OH tell you you're beautiful? X

'I do think the OP's OH may be chipping away at her self esteem & subtly undermining her in ways it may not be easy to explain, hence her apparent 'overthinking' of what, on the face of it, is a nice complement.'

I think that's a bit unfair - perhaps he is, but so far there's nothing in any of the OP's posts to corroborate this. Perhaps the OP does have insecurity about her looks - that could have come from previous partners, school bullies, parents, etc. Why is the man paying the compliment automatically the bad guy?

Bloke tells girlfriend she's beautiful to him, she is insecure about her appearance, assumption is that he's subtly trashing her confidence?

My OH has never called me beautiful. If he said it in any manner I'd probably be pleased lol

My DH says he loves me, but doesn't fancy me because of my weight!

Well at least he's honest. Better that than being married to a liar. And it's far better than "I don't love you but stick around because I find you attractive."

If you are the same weight you were when you got together, then I think he's an arse, but if you've gained weight, he is allowed to find it unattractive. Imagine he grew a huge beard, or dreadlocks, or something else that turned you off.

If you care that he finds you unattractive because you've gained weight, then lose weight. (which I know is easier said than done)

If someone told me I was the most beautiful woman in the world would find it insincere, however well meant, as clearly I am not.

You are the most beautiful woman in the world to me is another way of saying I think you are the most beautiful woman in the world.

I don't get compliments. If DH said that to me I would think D: Who are you and what have you done with DH?

what where is the evidence that the oh is chippig away at her? The fact that he actually complimented her says that he isn't.

The fact is, is that if the OP has self esteem problems to this degree, her oh will most probably not be able to fix it. It's not in fact his job to fix her self esteem. No matter how much someone loves you or thinks you are amazing, if you have low self esteem, it doesn't help.

The OP clearly over thinks things and needs to take steps to resolve this issues herself, with the support of her oh.

I am pretty unbeautiful. I have never ever been described as the most beautiful and it is never going to happen.

So when my dh says I look lovely or I am beautiful TO HIM, I take it as a compliment - it say that I think you are beautiful.

On a first date, a guy said to me: "You are the most beautiful woman in this entire place."

Pause... I was a bit nonplussed and just looked at him blankly.

Then he said: "Oh wait...I didn't see that woman over there. She's gorgeous!!"

It was a joke - a very risky joke for a first date. I thought it was hilarious and we ended up marrying and having 2 kids.

DoJo

That song's great

Grumple

*On a first date, a guy said to me: "You are the most beautiful woman in this entire place."

Pause... I was a bit nonplussed and just looked at him blankly. hmm

Then he said: "Oh wait...I didn't see that woman over there. She's gorgeous!!"

It was a joke - a very risky joke for a first date. I thought it was hilarious and we ended up marrying and having 2 kids. grin*

Brilliant! I'd also have found the initial compliment rather nauseating, but the punchline bloody hilarious

My BF isn't one for expressing lovely-dovey stuff so he just regularly looks at me and goes "Phroarr!" I take it as a compliment

I think it's more personal if he says 'to me'. I only care what he thinks anyway. Luckily my husband has good taste, wasn't always the case though

YABU though I do agree the last two words don't need to be said however when DH says stuff like this to me I tend to be a bit "come on DH we both know that's not true, there's a lot of beautiful women in the world" he normally sticks to just telling me I'm beautiful though today he told me I was definitely in the top 100 hottest mothers (yes he said mothers) in the world. I may have laughed, he may then have changed it to top 1000

He's just telling you he finds you attractive op.