to think strapless wedding dresses aren't very flattering.

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They look so unflattering on most people, especially if the top bit is too tight, resulting in any back and side fat 'spilling' up and over the sides of the dress.
You see Brides spending the whole day hoicking the dress up every five minutes - not a good look on your wedding day surely.

Anybody else think that the more traditional dresses look better?

Lweji That was why I wore a lace shrug, which created "sleeves" in the church. My Gran was absolutely mortified that I had the "audacity to get married in front of Our Lord Jesus and not where a veil" ...She still hasn't let it drop to this day bless her heart!!

YABU - I had one (pre bingo wings) and it looked fine I thought!!!

I think they can look a bit wrong for a church wedding, especially if they show cleavage or require adjusting. They look good on some people but more people wear them than should!

Although we went to a wedding where the bride went backless. Looked fucking awful, it was an inch away from showing her butt crack.

I dunno I like boobs and cracks well covered at formal occasions!

YABU. Backfat overspill is now a wedding staple, like chair covers with sashes and themed table centres.

'It was a lovely wedding but the chairs were awful, the table centres were a bit plain and the bride had forgotten her backfat overspill'. 'Shame'.

Well, this policing of women by women is all kinds of fun isn't it?

Fucksake, are back fat and chubby arms or unfilled bodices really that fucking offensive? As long as the person wearing the dress feels awesome that's the important thing.

brother's SIL wore a strapless Dior or Westwood dress at her wedding - it looked good on her as she's about 5 ft 6, slim and small boobed. However, you could clearly see the white strapless bra at the top part and through the dress... I kept on thinking why the heck didn't you let me go underwear shopping with you with the dress!

My SIL wore a Middleton inspired dress and looked stunning (but she is anyway...)

friend wore a strapless gown for her wedding in Canada, she looked ok but really as she's quite slim she's also quite busty and her back/arms really needed more toning. She's very very pretty though so I think that distracted from the dress.

me - curvy hourglass 28FF boobs - never in a million years would I wear a strapless dress!

I'm getting married in August and had a nightmare in the bridal shops finding a none strapless dress.

I've ended up getting a beautiful v neck high street dress, we're getting married abroad so couldn't really have long sleeves.

My cousin got married last year and she has massive boobs and honestly in some of the pics the photographer must have photoshopped her nipple out, this was a church wedding too, hate it!

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You also need to think how it will look in the photos!

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I didn't wear a veil, though. :)

Not my cup of tea.

10 reasons your wedding dress looks cheap.

www.cosmopolitan.com/style-beauty/fashion/advice/a32236/reasons-your-wedding-dress-looks-cheap/

Purdiepie, you asked why strapless if you have big jugs?

Not all strapless dresses are sweetheart neckline, some are straight across and actually cover all of the breast area and also provide support to the breasts - mine certainly does. It was recommended by the dress shop I used. I was worried about it making me seem busty but actually this style seems to make my breasts look more in proportion.

I appreciate that it may not be to your taste but surely its about how the bride feels on the day rather than other people judging her for what they consider to be a poor choice, particularly if they have never met the bride or seen the dress.

If I ever get married I'd wear something like this.

I'm not keen on strapless dresses personally but on the right person and perfectly tailored they can look amazing.

Monsoon have some beautiful wedding dresses with sleeves if anyone is looking.

Loads of busty people look fine in strapless as long the structure and support is there. Properly fitted dresses don't have the quart in a pint pot appearance of big boobs in a badly fitting dress.

I wish I'd worn a proper wedding dress - I bloody love Say Yes to the Dress although not a fan of the Pnina Tornai see through look

I'm gonna be wearing something in a Greek goddess style. Maybe add some other colours. But yes, strapless dresses are not very good.

Seneca - I like your taste in dresses

When I got married in 2001 , strapless dresses were apparently compulosry . I visited several bridal shops where I was turned away at the door for asking for a non strapless dress .

As well as the shop which asked me if I was the mother of the bride or the groom ( I was in my late 30s ) .

I ended up sketching up something myself which was made up by a clever dressmaker . It was Ivory silk crepe, Column shape, cut on the bias with long sleeves , v neck and sleeves embellished with seed pearls .

This was perfect for a Christmas wedding . And also my figure - I was a skinny 5'5" , 7.5 stone with bony shoulders and collar bone . I woudl have looked shocking in a strapless dress

I'm prone to the odd spot (or 10) on my back area. I also have lots of moles on my back, so strapless would look horrendous on me as well.
and I have back and side fat

If I were going to wear a strapless dress, I would want it to look perfect. It wouldn't on me, so I would choose a different style.

Hmm, I got married 10 years ago. I had lost a lot of weight due to illness, which had left me with bingo wings and droopy boobs. I was mid thirties. Even before trying on any dresses I was adamant that it had to have sleeves, and I wanted integral sleeves not a bolero jacket. It was very hard to find! I started to phone wedding shops to check if they had sleeved dresses before making appt as I would often turn up and be offered a jacket. I eventually found a dress that suited me with long floaty chiffon sleeves, ideal for me.
Ten years ago (no idea now) the shops were full of strapless wedding dresses. As some of the wedding shops have communal areas where brides walk up and down in the dresses I and my best friend got to see a lot of other brides trying on strapless dresses. What was shocking was the poor advice being given to many of these women. They were being told that the strapless dress suited them. In all honesty (imo) if you are overweight, not tall, with largish boobs it is not the most flattering look. I speak as someone who has struggled with their weight all my life, being over 20 stone at one point. Not all dress styles suit all body types, surely this is obvious?

I agree though with numerous pp's that really if the bride is happy that is the most important thing. I truly believe shops were pushing that style at everyone, because it made up most of their stock not because it was the right dress for all who bought it. Some looked truly stunning in a strapless dress (plenty on this thread!). I blame the wedding shops and designers for their lack of originality in designing dresses for a wider range of body types.

And yes fashion has a lot to answer for. I have more than a few photos that prove that!

They make every bride look the same.

As pps have said, assistants in wedding shops do give shocking advice.
I stood there aghast as one particularly sycophantic woman told my sister - 5ft 4 and 20st - how beautiful she looked in a strapless monstrosity that didn't fit her at all.
Luckily my sister is made of strong stuff and didn't get taken in by the sales patter.
She ended up with an absolutely stunning 50s-style tea length dress with short lace sleeves and looked amazing.

The hoicking only occurs if the dress is badly made. A strapless garment should have a waist stay on the inside. Most dresses don't have this, because frankly, most wedding dresses aren't well made.

If you do own a garment which needs constant hitching up, you can get a waist stay added in. Or add your own if you sew. The difference is incredible.

Oh, and the reason shops push strapless frocks is that it's cheaper and easier to adjust a corset than to custom fit a dress with shoulders.

Some people do look lovely in them though.

Obviously, women should wear what they like, but as others have said, the strapless wedding dress is being presented as almost compulsory these days, and I do think as a result of its ubiquity, some women who would never normally wear dream of wearing a strapless dress to a big occasion, are essentially brainwashed into thinking that it's just what you do. Ie a wedding dress is long, white, and strapless. Whether or not it suits you. Whether or not it's cold. Even if you are someone who never even wears a vest top. Etc etc.

Unfortunately - and I'm basing this on comments overheard at a wedding where the bride wore a dress with sleeves and comments on a celebrity wedding where the bride wore a quite covered-up dress with sleeves - there also seems to be some unhelpful assumption that sleeves imply a lack of body confidence - 'a fat girl's choice' was one of the charming remarks I heard - and are the wedding equivalent of wearing a burqa.

YAnbu I don't understand why so many people love them so much. They suit very few people. Willowy folk with SOME bust to boast look great in them but the large of knocker don't....nor do the small chested women...

I don't know about fat arms.

I have usually preferred to wear sleeves because I have bony shoulders and skinny arms.

Uncovering is not about body confidence. It's about what suits and what doesn't.

enormous

Now that is a beautiful dress. Elegant and classy.