AIBU to move G&T time to 5.30 pm? And to ask when you have your first drink?

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I have my first (alcoholic) drink of the evening at 6pm. It's always a large Gin & Tonic, followed by a glass of red at dinner. And maybe something else later if it's the weekend.

Honestly, I'm having such a miserable and stressful time at the moment and I seem to spend the time between about 4.30 pm and 6pm looking at the clock! I feel so much better after a drink, I instantly relax.

WIBU to bring the time of the first drink forward by half an hour, to 5.30pm? I dunno, it seems a bit early.

And may I also ask those who drink, what time you have your first drink?

Ta.

Sorry, OP, but clock-watching and needing alcohol to relax sounds like alcohol-dependence, as does your sensitivity on the subject.

One large G&T plus one (presumably) large glass of wine exceeds - may be double - the recommended daily limit of 2-3 units for a woman, [[http://www.alcoholconcern.org.uk/help-and-advice/help-and-advice-with-your-drinking/unit-calculator/?gclid=CLv2zPDZtsUCFYHJtAodY3gA2A
Units in Drinks]]

We can all Calculate Here if our weekly intake is within safe limits.

You can have a test at the doctor's to see whether you're still ovulating, keep. Eeek you don't want to learn the hard way that you are!

Thanks imperial- I may ask my GP.

no menopause symptoms, fit and healthy, v regular cycles

If that's the case then of course you can get pregnant. What do you think is causing those cycles. You are still ovulating you daftie! Unless you want a baby, you'd better start using contraceptives.

Fairenuff- !!!!! Am I a daftie? I have never heard of anyone getting pregnant at my age.

Maybe my OH is right. He tells me I still feel like a "fertile woman".

I had naiively assumed it just wasn't possible. Oops.

Don't ask your GP - go and buy condoms right now!

What time do I have my first drink? I had a pint of cider down at the quay last Tuesday evening and had a bottle of berries magners on Friday about 8pm ....dd 2 (9) looked at me on Friday and said "you seem to be drinking a lot these days" which makes me realise how little we drink and that it's unusual enough to mention. Did make me laugh though.

I do think a large gin and tonic and a large red every night (5-6 units in total?) Plus possibly extra is too much. But having someone we know who is not an alcoholic but a regular drinker like you, on the waiting list for a liver transplant, it hits home how much damage it does.

I'm having a glass of wine right now, sooo 4.30ish. I'm making risotto, and the activities just go together...

Just been googling this- 3 babies a week in the UK are born to women in their 50s.
I feel stupid now- I really thought this was impossible.

Coffee, how much was your friend drinking and how frequently?

Wideopenspace I so agree. I love cooking with a glass of wine on the go.
Perfect. It's the cooks prerogative.

Well, who'd have thought a wine o'clock thread would have been so informative. No more sex for you young lady until you get your contraception sorted

Errr...I've read the start and end of this.

My conclusion is that early drinking = risk of pregnancy?

Did I get that right?

Wideopenspace I did the same and have come to a similar conclusion

Imperial..sharing a,bottle of wine over dinner each night plus a couple of whiskies. He's not alcohol dependent but drinking every day for 40 plus years has taken its toll.

I know I have to watch my drinking, it runs in the family and could easily get out of control. I don't usually have a drink till the kids are in bed about 9.30pm at earliest and then maybe 3 nights a week. Right now I'm in the garden having an early summer drink but that's unusual. I think you need to think more about your drinking.

I've read this thread with lots of interest. It depends how you drink. I know heavy drinkers who are not alcoholics, and alcoholics who rarely drink. It's all to do with dependency, as other PPs have said, and I appreciate that you, OP, do not like hearing this (and have left the thread anyway). I started to de-stress by moving the time of my first drink forward half an hour, then half an hour more. I recall the day that I drank in the morning for the first time. I don't exactly recall but can now understand the slow (very slow) descent on the slippery slope to full blown alcoholism. No, it doesn't happen to everyone and no, it may well not happen to you. But watching the clock is certainly how I started, and I used to prove to myself that I could go for weeks/months without a drop - I once went for two years. I'm still an alcoholic though, which means I can't drink.

imperial, the test at the GPs won't confirm that you are never ovulating, just if you did or didn't that month, so you can't really rely on that.

For example, a friend of mine was diagnosed with (correctly based on repeated blood tests) premature menopause recently at the age of 39 after secondary infertility, went on to HRT, and 6 months later is expecting (a much wanted) DC5!

Anyway, with my endocrinologist head on, we advise women to continue contraception for 2 years after their last period if under 50 and 1 year if they were over 50, so, keep, don't quite abandon it yet!

I love the fact that this turned into a boozy shagfest after the OP left

A boozy teatime shagfest

We have half a glass of wine every Sunday at 6:30 pm. We share one of those mini bottles. That is as near as we get to an alcohol habit :)