to STILL be angry about that troll from the other day?

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MNHQ, I hope it's OK to post this. Please feel free to delete if not.

The thread has been deleted now, but it was started by a woman who said she found some incriminating emails between her husband and an ex-colleague of his. They were very graphic. She also said that he was saying very spiteful things about her (the OP). She talked about having 2 small children and was worried about what she was going to do. She went into great detail.

It all turned out to be bullshit.

The thing that upsets me, is that MN'ers were so helpful and took time out of their day to post and offer support. Some people even offered to go to her house! It makes me want to cry when I think about how caring everyone was, how generous of spirit, towards someone they don't know.

I don't believe the OP was mentally ill, I guess she was just bored and felt like doing something nasty. Like a child making a prank call.

It has upset me very much and it was days ago. Does anybody else feel the same?

Try not to get too invested in MN, on the whole it's a wonderful place but it's also a magnate for trolls.

Maybe take a MN holiday for a bit?

It is frustrating when people give up their time to post and share personal details but unfortunately that's the nature of online forums.

I like to think that hopefully someone else who actually needs the help might have read it, and therefore it's not a complete waste.

You have to learn to let these things go, I'm afraid

He/she wasn't the first to troll MN and won't be the last. At least on this occasion MNHQ were on the case very quickly, and nothing happened - unlike on other occasions where posters did actually go and meet the troll.

Console yourself with the fact that there was some really useful advice offered on that thread, and if anyone was reading who was in a similar situation that it could have been very helpful to them.

I rarely get involved in threads on the relationships board but this one sucked me in. People can be utter twunts.

Please don't let a bad apple get you down, it's what they want.

I didn't read that particular thread, but yes, it is really irritating when you invest time giving constructive advice and then it all goes poof.

It doesn't matter whether it was MN or RL, it was still people, kind, caring people, offering help to someone who was just cheating them.

It makes me angry, that's all.

I am now singing Let it go, let it go!

Focus on the fact that, despite trolls, a bunch of strangers will always come together to offer support and advice to people who need it.

She...or he! I suspect he to be honest.

Whatever the sex, they are some sad sack of shit but it still won't stop people helping others, will it?

The only consolation might be that perhaps someone in the actual situation but not ready yet to post read that message and took some of the advice in.

Ohhhh was that bullshit?

My trolldar was going like mad I have to admit. It was way too salacious....

In RL I don't give my friends advice. They don't generally like it.

On MN I give my opinions all the time. People don't have to like my views/advice etc. Maybe someone else will. Maybe not. It's the nature of an online forum.

Try not to let it get to you.

Why do people troll? I thought that thread was real :(

there was a massive troll on another forum I use, they managed to convince a lot of people that they weren't this troll, but in the end the past caught up with them.

YANBU - I was furious when I found out.

What a sad individual that was.

Peoples' advice may still have been useful to others who are in similar positions though. It is annoying, but there's all kinds of weirdos on the 'net and you never know when somebody is trolling if it's a convincing thread.

OP, take comfort in the fact that you must have a pretty great life if loonies on t'internet are a big enough irritant for you to start a thread about.

I always love MNHQ warning posts telling people not to give more of themselves than they can afford to. It's a sad lesson to learn but ifyou find yourself getting too emotionally invested in a thread you need to step back. Regardless of whether the other person is genuine or not.

If in doubt, hide thread.

They were a very clever troll.

there is enough misery in this world without making stuff up

I think you just have to remember what a sad individual they must be, and how empty their life to spend so much time making stuff up for a bunch of strangers.

Was that the one where she had toddler twins?

I don't know if they were twins, Fluffycloudland77. They were quite small though. Well, they probably weren't, because they probably didn't exist .

The point of the troll is to make you upset over nothing. The troll would be loving the fact that you were so upset and most likely it would encourage them to do it more in the future. You aren't doing yourself any favours by caring.

Hang on - was this the one where the OP had 2 daughters, one at university and one doing A levels?

Oh, no, sorry just seen your post OP, a different one - good because I read the one I was thinking of and felt really sorry for the poster, I'm glad it wasn't that one!

Or at least, not glad that it happened but you know what I mean I hope!