To want to go out for a nice meal without my family?

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Tonight I'm meeting up with some aunties & family I haven't seen for a few years.
My dad is also going & I think he will bring his kids & wife (all fine, I love them all, See them regularly)
I've not invited dh and my kids because in all honesty I want to catch up with them in peace!! My 2 kids will TORTURE me in the carvery so I'm going alone.

I'm a bastard bitch mother aren't I?

Everyone knows that family get togethers are much nicer without the family. At least you will be a relaxed and happy bastard bitch

No, not at all. You're not joined at the hip are you? Your DH won't starve the kids in your absence? All's fine then.

Last year my aunt came over from abroad. I left my immediate family at home and went away to the coast with her for the weekend. I wanted to talk to m aunt, not my kids. I can listen to incessant chatter talk with the kids any time.

Why thank you oh wise mumsneters

Everyone knows that family get togethers are much nicer without the family.

PMSL!

It's fine. There are lots of permutations of family. We have extended (all kids foster kids and grandparents). Full family which includes aunts and uncles. Family, which is foster kids and kids, and finally core family which is DH, me and birth children. Loads of different permutations for different events.

Everyone knows that family get togethers are much nicer without the family.

Absolutely. Peace, perfect peace.

If the object of the meal is to catch up with family members you don't see to often and if taking the children with you will make that very difficult then YANBU.
Enjoy a meal with a distinct lack of whinging and food and drink chucking. Well, that's what my two always do when I take them out for food!

No, you're not a bitch.

I don't understand all this motherhood guilt tbh.

I hate a carvery
misses point of thread entirely

haha! No op not being unreasonable! have a nice time!

We go out with dh's family for meals every once in a while, now his cousin always insists on bringing her little boy with her (6 months old) and she dictates where we all can and cant go to eat because they dont have the facilities she needs, and she insists on the time too. She is the only one with a child, no one will stand up to her and say "could you get a baby sitter?" She often leaves him with her DP's mum so its not a problem for her.

Even I feel a bit mean for wishing she would just come with her dp when we are trying to talk and all catch up and she is flapping about with him. D:

Oh I love any food that I haven't had to make myself.

Children don't have to be included in everything and nor do husbands. Its nice to catch up with family on your own as the person you were before you had children.
I used to do it and enjoy it.

I frequently go out without my DC or DH - always have a much nicer time . Yesterday I celebrated my DM's birthday - just me, DF and DM - lovely.

Dh is laughing at me for feeling guilty. He has a whole lovely evening planned with our kids.

He says..."go you nutter"

YANBU. the kids don't need to be at every single thing.

I might organise a family-free family get-together. I fancy sitting in a nice restaurant by myself for a few hours...