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The toiletries bag (light hearted)

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ollieplimsoles · 06/06/2015 18:23

A stand- off is happening in my house.

I was unpacking the shopping in the kitchen when we came home and all the bath/ shower things were in the one Morrisons bag. I asked him to 'take this bag of toiletries to the bathroom'. He did, when I went upstairs however I chuckled to myself to see that he had simply put the large bag down on the floor of the bathroom and not actually unpacked it (classic DH). I told him I thought it was funny and that he should have unpacked it. He replied with 'you never asked me to unpack it.

Over the following days the bag has remained on the floor, only DH has taken what he needs out of it as he needed it! So I started doing the same! Now only a few items remain in the carrier bag that has been on the floor for almost two weeks.

Dh won't move it because...he doesn't want to. and I won't because I unpacked all he other bits of shopping!

We are both well aware of the bag and tension around it is building, who will crack first? I know I didn't tell him to unpack it, but who leaves a shopping bag unpacked on the floor!

AIBU to ask for your similar stand- off stories?

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Littleorangecat · 07/06/2015 08:31

A few weeks ago someone in my house did a particularly poor job sweeping the bathroom floor, as there was still a dead moth which was directly in view when sat on the loo.
I did mention this, but no-one swept the floor again.
I was determined I wasn't going to do it, so it stayed there for about 2 weeks.
To my own annoyance I gave in and hoovered it up after 2 weeks.
I missed that little moth, when he was gone!
However I'm quite sure only I managed to 'see' the moth even though it was plainly in view and it didn't bother anyone else in the slightest!
I think you may end up moving that bag OP Wink

BlueStarsAtNight · 07/06/2015 08:54

I bet he'll end up taking the shaving foam out of the bag when needed, and then he'll be in the right as it will only be your stuff left in the bag so it will be your responsibility to unpack it.......I'd take everything except his shaving gel out!

ememem84 · 07/06/2015 09:00

Mines the washing basket stand off too. If it's not in the basket it doesn't get washed.

We had an incident the other week where dh had taken it upon himself to wash his work shirts. They sat in the washer all weekend. On Monday morning he wanders about looking for shirts.

They are still in washer. Still wet. We had words. Apparently him saying "I'm doing washing" required me to issue a certificate and/or medal. And for me to remove from washer and hang up/dry. He only said he'd do he washing part...

Guess who had to wear a wet shirt that day...

OstentatiousBreastfeeder · 07/06/2015 09:01

This wouldn't be a stand-off for us. He'd see absolutely nothing wrong with using things out of a carrier bag in the middle of the floor.

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ollieplimsoles · 07/06/2015 09:04

Some.of these replies are amazing! Grin

My dh actually mentioned the bag last night! He asked when I'm going to move it after it snagged on his foot, he dragged it (tripping over) along the landing floor. He then removed it from his foot and placed it BACK on the bathroom floor! I shit you not.

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Pipbin · 07/06/2015 09:09

When I was a student (and dear god we were grim) there was a lump of poo stuck to the inside of the toilet bowl.
No one was going to clean that as it was the responsibility of the person who did the poo.
It stayed there all year until we moved out. It may be there still.

This reminds me of a ladder that is against the wall of a temple somewhere in the Middle East. One faith says they won't move it as the bottom of the ladder is on the other faiths land and the other faith say they won't move it as it leans against the first faiths temple. It's be 40 years or so.

Pipbin · 07/06/2015 09:14

Here it is. The immovable ladder of the church of the holy sepulchre. It's been there since the 1700s!
en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Immovable_Ladder

Roussette · 07/06/2015 09:14

I might win this competition!

You know what it's like after Christmas when you put all the decs away but you miss one? We missed a twiggy hanging bauble robin thing. It's on a chest on the landing upstairs. I have asked DH more than once to put it up in the loft. No, hasn't happened. I ain't doing it! He walks by it all the time and it isn't small but is very festive if it were December!

We've just got to get past 25th June (halfway to Christmas Day - nearly there!) and there won't be a lot of point in putting it away.

I had a NDN in the other day to look at the flooring in our bathroom - she never made a comment about it. Nor did I. Grin

MrsTedCrilly · 07/06/2015 09:15

This has made me laugh! My DP is exactly the same. I really don't think some men see these things.. Like when there is some rubbish on the floor somewhere where we walk through a lot, I always leave it there for a while and he never picks it up. Why am I the rubbish picker!? Angry

OstentatiousBreastfeeder · 07/06/2015 09:25

My friend's DH once dropped a peanut in the middle of the living room floor. It was there three weeks later. Apparently he once stepped on it, lifted his foot and flicked it off before carrying on walking - from then on he just walked around it.

Eventually she snapped and picked up the peanut. He was confused. He'd had no idea of the inner turmoil the peanut had been causing in his wife Grin

Pipbin · 07/06/2015 09:31

He'd had no idea of the inner turmoil the peanut had been causing in his wife

This is the problem though. I don't think they do it maliciously. I think they genuinely don't see the problem.

MrsTedCrilly · 07/06/2015 09:34

We should do an experiment! We should all leave the same item on the floor and report back when it gets picked up Grin

Roussette · 07/06/2015 09:37

I agree they don't do it maliciously but I am a bit baffled as to why my DH would think I want a not small festive Christmas decoration up in June!

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ollieplimsoles · 07/06/2015 09:44

The funniest thing about the bag is that my DH is annoyed by it being there, but he still won't pick it up, its amazing.

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Roussette · 07/06/2015 09:59

Is it a battle of wills for both of us maybe ollie? I'm bloody stubborn when I want to be!

The only thing I know is - I am not going up in the loft with the little robin on a twig with baubles decoration. No sirreee. However, my DH does have to go up in the loft today to find a box but this scenario has happened before and not led to robin being put back up with the rest of the decs so I don't think it's a foregone conclusion Grin

iwouldgoouttonight · 07/06/2015 10:02

Our washing machine beeps when the cycle has finished and the door can be opened. And if you don't open it straight away it will continue to beep each minute until you do. I think it is the most annoying sound known to man. But I genuinely believe that its a specific frequency that can't be heard by DP. He just sits there blissfully unaware while I'm seething with each beep thinking surely he must be getting annoyed with it now. But no, I always give in because I just can't relax with the beeping going on.

I did once in a passive aggressive type of way say 'I wish I knew of a way of making that annoying beeping stop'. DP got up, opened the washing machine door, and sat down again. Confused

paddypants13 · 07/06/2015 11:16

ememem84 - this sounds like my DH. He won't use the laundry basket and I won't pick dirty clothes up from the floor. When DH inevitably runs out of clothes he always seems puzzled. He eventually puts them in the washing machine. Does he take them out when it's finished? Does he heck! I once asked him to remove them because I needed to use the machine. "Oh" he said " I thought you would have taken them out and put them on the clothes horse." Why? You can't be bothered to use the laundry basket, you do your own laundry!

The thing is I love doing laundry and quite happily do all ours. If he just used the laundry basket I'd be happy and he would have clean, dry clothes. Sigh...

Pipbin · 07/06/2015 11:19

I like the idea of all putting the same object on the floor and seeing who's DH snaps first. Or is it a bit cruel.

CadleCrap · 07/06/2015 11:22

We had towel gate for about a week, where DH left wet towels around the house after a bath. I had a thread about it and lovely MN pointed me towards towel origami, so I had elephant, swan towels around. Made me a lot less irritable.

You must remove your stuff and leave his shaving foam in it, so he is the last one to "use" the bag.

Iloveonionchutney · 07/06/2015 11:30

This sounds like my husband, especially the beeping washing machine, I'll ask him to sort out the beeping and he will switch it off, doesn't think about emptying it ever.
When he does the dishes of there's any to be put away he puts them on the counter above the cupboard they go in and I usually end up putting them in their place, it's like he just doesn't register that part of drying the dishes is putting them away!
He will take things for the bathroom that he needs out of the bag that I put by the stairs but wouldn't think to put the bag even in the bathroom Angry

Gigglebunny · 07/06/2015 12:12

We had a big splosh mark of coffee that my dh had sloshed onto the floor in our kitchen. We have pale cream ceramic floor tiles so you couldn't miss it. I left it there for 3 weeks to see if he'd clean it up, and even mopped the rest of the floor around it, but he never cleaned it up!

HappenstanceMarmite · 07/06/2015 12:31

Washing machine beep-sufferers heads up. You CAN programme the machine so that it doesn't beep! Google your brand/model asking how to turn it off and you will find a forum somewhere advising you how to get rid. I did and it changed my life!!!

Iloveonionchutney · 07/06/2015 12:36

Haha Happenstance that sounds like a great idea but I'd probably end up forgetting about it too then!

Sgtmajormummy · 07/06/2015 13:38

DH and I have this stand-off twice a year when it's wardrobe changeover time (like yesterday!). My point is that he needs to do it himself, so he knows what he's got, where it is, and takes the opportunity to send what he doesn't want to the charity shop. Plus, he's an intelligent, able-bodied adult.

He grudgingly accepts but leaves the job to the last minute Hmm, makes such a fuss about everything, asking my advice and telling me where each piece came from Confused that I might as well have done it myself. And he knows it! Grin

Eminado · 07/06/2015 13:46

Omg ive found my people! Or rather my dh has.

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