to be pissed off with my able bodied neighbour?

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A neighbour of mine, a lovely elderly lady, who I was very fond of, passed away last Feb. Her daughter 40 ish, moved back in with her about a year ago. The elderly lady quite rightly, had a disabled badge on her car. Thing is - since her passing her perfectly able-bodied daughter has been driving around in her mums old car and has kept the on disabled badge and is even parking in Disabled parking bays. WWYD?

If you think she is misusing her dead mothers blue badge report her to the LA they can proscute her.

I just cannot get worked up over a parking space, it's nothing that even crossed my mind before I was disabled.

It's so hard to get any benefits or a BB, and to have someone report you because they are jealous - and I am really hard pushed to believe anyone is so righteous that they believe it's 'the right thing to do,' it's jealousy pure and simple. Of a bloody parking space!

The issue with reporting it is it is SO stressful going through assessments / interviews to 'prove' your disability. Why would anyone want to do that to someone on the off chance 'they were right all along?'

It's such a horrible mindset.

Emmeline - she is judging her by looking at her and judging whether she deems the neighbour worthy of a blue badge.

emmelinelucas- of course she is judging. How is she possibly not?

It's less the fact that a woman may, or may not be, fraudulently using a blue badge, and more the assumption of hers, (and you can't deny that...it's clear as, well, the words "able bodied" in her OP....) that no-one can be disabled if they aren't in a wheelchair (for example)

And the small mindedness of someone who actually has the thought "oooh, nasty able bodied neighbour with her fraudulently acquired blue badge, oh let's dob her in" going round her head, that I find, quite frankly, eyerolling.

Because to even think it, let alone starting a MN thread and considering reporting it, must make a very very small mind indeed.

Laughing at the thought of some one who's having a 'good day' not using the disabled parking spot. On a good day my husband might feel great and happily walk into the supermarket, but five minutes after we go in he might suddenly feel ill, tired or in pain. If we didn't use the spot on a 'good day' we would have been in trouble on the way back to the car.

OP, if you're convinced the card is being used fraudulently, then report it. If she's genuine then it's not a big deal and if she isn't then serves her right. I've seen too many out of date badges on cars to not realise that this happens.

Does anyone know whats happens if some is reported? Do the council just check their records, see she has a valid badge and close the file? Or would there be an investigation into whether the badge should have been issued in the first place?

Well, I agree to disagree.
If there were no "small minds" no-one would be reported for anything, ever.

I'm getting re educated Bollocks to you, you antagonistic arse. I need 'correcting' for being pissed off about someone who isn't entitled to a disabled badge taking advantage and depriving a genuine disabled person of a parking space? She isn't disabled in any way OK. I know the default response by so many people on here is to assume that anyone with a complaint or a concern is a nasty, curtain twitching, prejudiced, Daily mail reading wank bag. But that says more about you I'm afraid! Another neighbour who has known her since childhood told me today she asked her about it and she told her she's has been 'meaning' to return the badge but can't be arsed. She found out by tactfully asking if she was selling her mums car before she moves? She rolled her eyes saying oh yes I've got to, do you know anyone who wants it?

All I was asking is, who do I report this to? But you enjoy yourselves judging me if it helps?

Another neighbour who has known her since childhood told me today she asked her about it and she told her she's has been 'meaning' to return the badge but can't be arsed.

What a coincidence.

But I'm betting the OP will come back, having read all these sad responses, and simply say 'you're all bitches and you're wrong because...drip, drip, drip'

You don't happened to know next week's lottery numbers do you Whiskwarrior?

Oh my. That's a rather...grumpy post. Who's it directed at though?

I do like a nice drip feed. Always a lovely coincidence when posters say where's your evidence and, lo and behold, they come back with some.

Great stuff.