Pissed off at being called fat

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I'm 11 weeks pregnant with my second baby so almost 3 months and am still wearing size 10 clothes, your meant to show sooner with second pregnancies aren't you? Before I got pregnant the first time around I was bulimic and would puke up every single thing I ate and take loads of laxatives and was very skinny and ill, as soon as I found out I was pregnant I stopped, it was hard but I wouldn't harm my baby in any way. Anyway it's took a lot for me to get here and I feel healthy, I don't think size 10 when 3 months pregnant is that bad but the doctor I went to see today made me feel absolutely shit saying "because you're overweight" I just think that it's comments like that that would have probably started me off being sick again if I wasn't pregnant.

I am pretty disgusted at some of the responses on here. I think that for someone who has had an eating disorder, the fact that her bmi Is around 25 is a positive sign. For goodness sake, op is fine.

Op, yes the Dr was stating medical facts and figures, but the whole picture is far more important. You're well, you're sustaining another life and you're doing just great. If you want to do gentle exercise, then do it to strengthen your body and to make yourself feel good.

wow there is a lot of stealth boasting and insensitive responses on here, and I personally don't think the fact that it is posted on AIBU is an excuse for that. people saying things like "I used to weigh 9 stone and I looked disgusting" should think twice about what they're posting, it's very insensitive and disrespectful. don't transfer your own body insecurities by making someone else feel "disgusting". I weigh 10 stone at 5 foot 3-4, and am a size twelve. so I guess I must be "disgusting" too (my bmi is just inside the healthy range though thank you)...

OP please ignore the insensitive comments on here. the comments from your doctor have obviously triggered difficult emotions for you, which is completely understandable and IMO the doctor should have shown more awareness of your history and how this should be dealt with sensitively. "overweight" said by a GP is just a medical term so try not to hear it as "fat". I would strongly suggest you go back to see a different GP, make sure they know about your history with eating disorders, and ask for more supportive advice. congratulations on your pregnancy and good luck with everything

Agreed sin, a fuckload of stealth boasting.

"Oh well, OP. Do you know how fucking gorgeous I am though?"

AIBU isn't a fighting pit. You can post sensitively. You won't lose bitch points for being nice.

I out on three stones with both my pregnancies (im 5 feet 7 and a bmi of 18ish) and lost all the pregnancy weight Quickly so id worry less about pregnancy weight if you are eating sensibly x

That wasnt supposed to he a stealth boast btw! I was sent to the dietitian with both pregnancies. My intention was to say pregnancy weight will go, as long as you are sensible. 3 stone i think it a lot to put on but it wasnt an issue. Babies keep you active x

I also know LOADS of people who weighed less when their first baby was 1 year old than they did pre-pregnancy x

I am 5 foot 7 and weigh a bit over 11 stone, BMI under 25 I think, but not much under. I wear a size 14 (rarely a 12, I have never been a 10). I don't think I look especially fat or thin, just somewhere in the middle with a bit of a wobbly muffin top (LOL) which I don't show in public if I can help it.

I put on over 4 stone with each of first 2 pg (I lost most of it in between), 3.5 stone with pg3. The point here being that over weighing when pregnant is a bit futile - your body will do what it needs to do to nurture a baby. Eat what you want, be kind to yourself. If there are any details that need sorting out after, you can do it then.

After baby 2, I went to see a GP about the progesterone only pill and was told I couldn't have it as I was 'too fat and too old' - about 11.5 stone at the time and 34 years old. Which goes to show what tw*ts some doctors are.....although I have DC3 as a result which is truly a blessing.

OP, I bet you look lovely :)

If she is BMI 25 that sounds just about okay and not sensible to worry about. Has she said her weight?

With my first I had morning sickness and did not even tell people at work until I was 5 months pregnant because it did not show. People do differ. I went from 9 stone to 12 with the twins who were born at 40 weeks on the dot and back to 9 stone 4 by the time they were 7 months old.