to think smacking adults on the backside isn't OK, male or female?

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I have a friend who's very out going, a lovely person who does loads of volunteering and will help anyone who needs it.

She's not very bright, bags of common sense but doesn't have much education. I mention this only because I think, sometimes the things she does are down to not knowing any better.

Anyway we belong to a mixed sports club and when stretching etc, bottoms are stuck out or up in the air! She will quite often slap one, saying it was too good an opportunity to resit. No-one seems to mind, everyone laughs etc, but it makes me cringe. I'm particularly aware that if the men were to behave like this, the reactions could be very different.

Is this OK, or am I being a miserable old cow?

YANBU it's really weird to slap someone's arse because you 'couldn't resist'.

YABVVU to insinuate that its anything to do with her level of education. At what university do they teach Arse Slapping 10; The Do's and Don'ts?

101* not 10.

Hate it. Even my husband knows I don't like it

Sigh, I knew there was no way I was going to word that properly for MN mileend.

Perhaps she's not well-read would have been better? She really doesn't get that some things cause offence. e.g. when a new black man joined the club she asked where he was from (and she didn't mean where in the UK)

At what university do they teach Arse Slapping 101; The Do's and Don'ts?

I don't know, but I wish I'd been there ...

That's not about lack of education, but thoughtlessness (and possibly lack of empathy). My grandmother left school at 11, she didn't do this kind of thing. She had more dignity, for starters.

Neither example is ok, to me. The bottom thing appears to be ok with the people in the group at present, however, so your friend probably won't see a ny problem with it.

Since you are her friend, why not explain that she runs the risk of really annoying and upsetting other people with this stuff and should think more carefully?

Lurking, well here's the Karma Sutra of spanking if that helps!

DO NOT open this link if you're at work....

www.spanking.com/blog/the-kama-sutra-of-spanking-positions/

It's inappropriate and odd behaviour in anyone above the age of three!

AWholeLottaNosy thank fuck for incognito browsing...

I like to slap an arse, but only of the close friends who I know won't mind

Would never EVER slap the arse of a stranger

I don't think the uneducated are more prone to be unable to resist slapping an arse cheek though?

AWholeLottaNosy

This is assault and absolutely not okay!

OP, I suggest you explain to your friend that this is absolutely NOT acceptable behaviour, before she gets into serious trouble.

If she did this while volunteering, someone might make an official complaint.
Any smacking is assault; smacking on the backside could be considered very dodgy.
(consensual smacking, Karma Sutra art is fine !)

Totally unacceptable unless someone has asked for a good spanking - I mean really asked for it, not just had a bum you perceive to be potentially spankable. Boundaries!

How fucking immature she is. And yeah, I'd tell her that.

It's not very appropriate but if the people being slapped don't mind then I guess it's up to them

If anybody wants to smack my bottom, that fine with me. Help yourself. But It's really wrong to do it to others. She could end up in deep shit one day.

Brightness, Social awareness and education level are three different things.

That said its not appropriate, you need to tell her straight that you don't like it and she cant do it again.