So, background - ds2 has severe developmental delays, gets middle rate DLA, likely genetic condition, currently in a clinical study to work out what is causing his issues. Had regular physio, SALT, brain MRIs etc etc.
He's been at nursery in a funded 2 year old place since January.
He's very recently started to begin walking. Holding on until last week, now can walk short distances unaided.
Now to the bitch.
A month ago at picking up time he walked towards me holding a staff members hand. They said very excitedly that he'd been walking a lot. Another mother butted in saying "oh! He just needed some time away from mum!"
I was more than a bit 
but thought maybe it was one of those things where you say something without thinking.
Today, two members of staff were telling me he'd walked between rooms on his own and been really proud of himself. He saw me, crawled towards me. Again she popped up and said "But he starts crawling when he sees mum! Haha"
Wtf? Is she unhinged?
AIBU?
To tell this woman to fuck off next time?
duckyneedsaclean · 04/06/2015 21:52
Does you son look have physical symptoms of his disability? Does she think he is neurotypical and so she is being smug at the perceived late development? If so maybe next time a deadpan stare and saying "my son has a genetic disorder which has delayed his development" might get her to STFU (if you feel comfortable sharing that). Otherwise maybe mention is to nursery and ask them to have a word?
We'll done to your son and to you too 
If there's a third time I will definitely have have have to say something. I did think about asking the nursery to have a word (as someone suggested upthread) but I'd rather see the snug smile wiped off her face personally. 
I did similar when a rabdom wonen told me she would rather have 4 dcs very close together. I had 4 in 10 years i said well thats what 2 ectopic pregnancies and several mis carriages does.
She sounds utterly ignorant and oblivious to anyone else's circumstances. Sadly, there's plenty of them about. Ds was non verbal until 3 and I heard no end of stupid comments.
I'd be tempted to silence her with a cutting remark, but really, she's not important, your lovely, walking ds is.
im sorry . don't mean to hijack but netmums classic???????????? 
my word!
I thought the same as Twinkie. Some people babble if they feel awkward or confused - and there's a long tradition of supposing children with unusual behaviours do it to manipulate their parents. One of those things that comes out from your brain's store of crap things your grandparents said, like "Hasn't he grown?!" and "Congratulations, was it planned?" 
Might be best to say, matter-of-factly, "That was unkind." If she doesn't change the tune afterwards, rip her that new one!
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LEM forgive me I have sinned, I meant mumsnet!! I didn't realise what I done, it took me a while to realise my mistake!
Is that a ban-able offence?!
I vote kill her right in the face, where do people get off being such twats? Well done on your ds walking, you must be very proud. I remember one mum shortly after taking pfb dd to reception, sidled up and made small talk, then went on and on how her dd was best reader in the class, and how marvellous she was . What fuels these people? Pure bullshit?
She wasn't best reader BTW, very odd
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