AIBU.. Hen weekend related

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My friend is getting married and is having a big hen weekend.

13 people have been invited and everyone has paid £200 towards a hotel, an activity, a meal and club entry.

There are around 2 individuals (myself and one other person) who only know the bride and noone else within the 'party'

There have been a few bumps along the way, and more expense for example buying two quite expensive outfits (including specific shoe styles) and then the cost of additional food / drink on the actual weekend. All fine i am happy to go along with as i adore my friend,

However.. I asked friends sister who is organising the whole thing about how the rooms are working, I've never done this before but another friend said when people had no link to anyone that individual would usually get given their own room.

She came back to me saying i would be sharing with someone, i replied okay that's fine aslong as it's a twin room as i would be very uncomfortable sharing a bed with someone I've never met on a hen weekend where this person would quite possibly be very drunk.

She's come back saying it's a double bed, AIBU to refuse to share and ask to be moved either with my friend that i know or to a room by myself..

A few of them have their own rooms, i.e. the ones who have organised, they all know each other so i feel very put out with the arrangements.

I will gracefully accept if i am wrong.. And go buy a blow up bed..

Dear god. YANBU. FUCK that. I would pull out. Your Bridezilla friend is being a total bitch.

'Unfortunately I think that you would have to offer to pay the extra for your own room and the extra for the other woman to have her own room. Or find someone else in the party who is willing to pay for themselves to be alone. Ideally they should have checked with you before booking.'

For real?! Does the word 'mug' mean anything to you? The fuck she has to offer to pay for the other person or make arrangements because the organisers are thick enough and mean-spirited enough to assume a person is fine with sharing a double bed with a stranger.

Get a spine, Do. 'Sharing a room doesn't work for me. I'm getting my own or I won't be able to make it.' End. The other person is their fucking problem. I'm actually amazed so many people go along with such Bridezillas.

YANBU

I wouldn't even have thought to ask, I would have assumed I wouldn't be required to share a bed with another adult to whom I'm not married.

I've shared a few times with strangers on these things but yanbu to not want to or not feel comfortable - it's not for everyone. Those who are close could share in this instance.

I got asked to a couple, and just said I couldn't afford it. I could have, but I'm not spending upwards of £300 with a bunch of people I don't know and being ordered about. How on earth people can afford it these days I have no idea. My husband recently went on one with his rich brother who paid for everything bar the flights, otherwise he wouldn't have gone. They flew to Cannes, had champagne on a yacht, meals out,, the casino on and on.

I got married 23 years ago and had a night down the pub, and wasn't allowed to buy my own drinks, with about twenty mates. Great night.

"Hm this is a tricky one as although it shouldn't be a problem for you to get your own room, the person you are sharing with will now have to pay extra two. Unfortunately I think that you would have to offer to pay the extra for your own room and the extra for the other woman to have her own room. Or find someone else in the party who is willing to pay for themselves to be alone. Ideally they should have checked with you before booking."

WTF???? No no no! What if the loony bridesmaids had said you had to share a dorm with a rugby team? Or a two man tent? No, the fuck no!

I refuse point blank to share with anyone - even the DH if I can get away with it!

I will always pay the single supplement and if that isn't possible I look for alternative accommodation nearby or don't go.

I'm totally with you Shonajay. I went on a really lovely day out with my best friend for her Hen celebration, a punt on the river and then dinner out. Mine was a meal and to the pub for drinks. Nowadays it's got totally out of hand.
Anyway the 2 very expensive ones I've been invited to I've politely declined. I don't care how lovely the Hen is I'm not spending hundreds of pounds that could go towards a family holiday on that. Hope it goes ok op, you are totally not being unreasonable.