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guy came out of his house and started swearing and shouting for using a few ft of his drive to turn around

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pettywitchinlondon · 02/06/2015 14:07

Had to pop out at lunch in the car. Was to a new place, so made a wrong turn. As the road was empty I turned the car around using mostly the pavement and a few ft of someone's wide drive. Just as I was about to complete and drive away a guy thumped my car and started shouting at me for using his drive. I said sorry, but didn't even wind down the window but he saw me mouh it. Was shocked and just drove off.

Was I in the wrong? I did no damage and was barely on his drive for 10 seconds.

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LazyLouLou · 02/06/2015 14:09

It happens.

Maybe it happens a lot to him and he is bothered by it.

You'll never meet him again, so sod it!

Basically, meh!

Icimoi · 02/06/2015 14:09

Of course you weren't in the wrong. Except maybe in saying sorry!

Pagwatch · 02/06/2015 14:10

He should not have shouted at you.

Was his drive in a location where this may happen a lot. Because if it is and he has people doing it all the time I can vouch for the fact that it's fucking irritating.
I got gates in the end.

VivienScott · 02/06/2015 14:11

Technically you were trespassing, but morally, unless you stopped and parked up, no. He's just probably hacked off with people doing it, people do it on mine and it really irritates me (though not enough to have a go!)

Lemonylemon · 02/06/2015 14:11

Both of you were in the wrong.

coffeetasteslikeshit · 02/06/2015 14:16

He's a knob, move on.

sunbathe · 02/06/2015 14:17

People are always doing this on my drive. It is irritating and potentially dangerous, as they come in past the gate posts.

Must get gates.

CatsCantTwerk · 02/06/2015 14:20

I have a yard and people actually drive on it to turn round, it is just cheeky.

He is probably sick and tired of people using his drive.

SomethingFunny · 02/06/2015 14:21

I'd have been annoyed too if I was him.

RiverTam · 02/06/2015 14:22

so you went up into his drive to turn? Or you used a bit of the lowered pavement in front of his drive to turn?

RustyBear · 02/06/2015 14:22

If you were only on his drive for 10 seconds, then he got there pretty quickly to thump on your car. Maybe he was on his drive, you didn't see him and he was worried you were going to reverse into him?

littlepeas · 02/06/2015 14:23

There is someone like this near us! The house is near the train station with a big, wide sweeping drive and he has obviously had enough of people turning in it - there are signs telling you not to. One of dh's friends did it once and the bloke came out shouting and swearing. There is also an elderly man who lives on the road the dc's school is on and if anyone parks 1cm over his driveway he waits by his gate to tell them off - once I saw him shake his fist at someone because they drove off before he could shout at them. I think life is too short to get into a tizz over such a little thing, but I suppose they have been worn down by years of people doing it? Or possibly they are just wankers.

DoJo · 02/06/2015 14:25

I agree with Rusty - was he actually on his drive when you drove on it? Because I could imagine being annoyed if someone used my drive to turn around while I was using it myself, especially if, as it sounds, you hadn't spotted him there. If the road was empty, why did you need to use his drive rather than just turning in the road?

MrsNextDoor · 02/06/2015 14:26

I don't want people doing that in my drive....I have children. They can suddenly pop out from behind a bush IN THEIR OWN FRONT GARDEN and some idiot is there..."turning round" and knock them over.

molyholy · 02/06/2015 14:27

This exact thing happened to me. I turned round and happened to touch a bit of this blokes drive. I parked up further down the road and he come running down the road bashing on my window. I wound it down and he really gave me what for. I apologised, said I didn't realise and it wont happen again, but he carried on letting me have it. He was that angry he must have burst a blood vessel, because he got a nose bleed. I told him and that shut him up. If I was a 6ft bloke, built like a brick shithouse, there was no way he would have spoken to me like that. Sad bastard.

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pettywitchinlondon · 02/06/2015 14:28

No he was on his drive. I did use my mirrors to check at all times it was clear. A bit away from any bushes or anything so a child or cat couldn't spring out.he was inside his house. He ran out without any shoes on. Must of been waiting watching for a very second I used a tiny part of his drive.

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pettywitchinlondon · 02/06/2015 14:29

Not on!

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SoldierBear · 02/06/2015 14:30

Why didn't you drive until you could turn in the road without using the pavements? A child could come running out of their house and turn onto the pavement in a second. Pavements are for pedestrians, not cars.

dixiechick1975 · 02/06/2015 14:30

He is probably absolute sick of it. We have a large drive that people turn on and even park on regularly (there is a park next door) I have tried making it look like ours - plants, bench no effect. We've now got signs to put up. Hope that works. It is ours - we have to maintain and repair it. So far dh has been polite but getting the car owners to come off the park and move is hassle. They huff and puff and trample over my gravel (the gravel I paid for and spent hours shovelling) they also park so close to our cars to risk damage. Dh has half jokingly suggested clamping, if it carries on may look into it - could be holiday money!

EponasWildDaughter · 02/06/2015 14:31

For me it would be a real last resort to drive onto someone else's property to turn my car around. I have done it - but only when the alternative is reversing miles down a teeny lane. Other peoples gardens aren't a public right of way!

My mother puts notes on cars which park a cm or two over the edge of her drive. She herself doesn't have a car, but if anyone is visiting it's damn hard to swing the car in or out of the drive if there's anyone parked even a little bit over it, as the road is so narrow. And people do it all the bloody time.

TwerkingSpinster · 02/06/2015 14:34

10 seconds has shrunk to a tiny second now Hmm
I hate people turning in my drive, it stops anything I'm doing as im wondering if they are visiting us ordelivering etc. Then when they just drive off it makes me really angry!!!!

Jengnr · 02/06/2015 14:34

He's a bellend. Ignore, forget.

RiverTam · 02/06/2015 14:35

so you went over the lowered bit of the pavement and up his drive? I've used lowered pavements before but not actually up someone's drive (that sounds rather rude, does it not Grin). Well, I think you were a bit in the wrong but he was too, so call it quits and no real harm done.

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pettywitchinlondon · 02/06/2015 14:37

I didn't say tiny second. I said a tiny part of his drive!

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BabyMurloc · 02/06/2015 14:38

Although I wouldn't come out and scream at you I HATE when people use my drive. It winds me up. Luckily we don't get it now but used to get it LOTS (last house in a cul de sac) Mostly people did it when there was NO NEED. (plenty of space to turn round in the road without going anywhere near anyones drive) I never went out but I may have banged on the front window to get attention and then made some hand gestures you don't see on Something Special... Blush

I NEVER use someones drive to turn round unless I literally have NO OTHER CHOICE (eg dead end and the road blocked by stupidly parked cars.)

I think it's rude and totally unnecessary in 99% of cases. I drive further on and either cut back or turn in a side road.