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guy came out of his house and started swearing and shouting for using a few ft of his drive to turn around

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pettywitchinlondon · 02/06/2015 14:07

Had to pop out at lunch in the car. Was to a new place, so made a wrong turn. As the road was empty I turned the car around using mostly the pavement and a few ft of someone's wide drive. Just as I was about to complete and drive away a guy thumped my car and started shouting at me for using his drive. I said sorry, but didn't even wind down the window but he saw me mouh it. Was shocked and just drove off.

Was I in the wrong? I did no damage and was barely on his drive for 10 seconds.

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BitOutOfPractice · 02/06/2015 17:44

We are virtually related IKnowIAm Grin

IKnowIAmButWhatAreYou · 02/06/2015 18:34

"Encroaching" now OP

You little devil you!! Grin

IKnowIAmButWhatAreYou · 02/06/2015 18:36

It does when the poor blokes address comes up when you click the link.....

But you can see every house in the UK on there Confused - it's no more at risk than any other house in the UK....

BitOutOfPractice - virtually!! Not been back to Sarf Woodham for many moons though, probably changed out of all recognition!

Icimoi · 02/06/2015 18:36

But Rhiana, you can see addresses when you walk past houses. Or indeed on Google Earth.

TedAndLola · 02/06/2015 18:38

I've never been able to work out why, but a ridiculous number of cars come down our (dead end) road to turn around. At least ten each evening and dozens over the course of a weekend. My only theory is that sat navs send people down here erroneously? There is nothing else about the road configuration or local area that makes it likely so many cars would come down here by mistake.

Anyway, it's irritating at night because their headlights shine right into our living room but I would never go out and shout at them for doing it. Even if it was my drive rather than the bit of road outside my house (no pavement) I wouldn't feel the need to tell them off.

CatsCantTwerk · 02/06/2015 18:38

It is nothing like looking at a house on RM. I think it is really bad form that op is slagging off someone on a public forum then posts his address.

schokolade · 02/06/2015 18:41

Christ I had no idea people got so het up about this. I wouldn't even notice someone on my drive, let alone care. And if I did start to care I would get gates.

YANBU OP.

Icimoi · 02/06/2015 18:41

But people have, for instance, been slagging off David Walliams all over this public forum. Surely posting someone's name when you slag them off is worse?

sadwidow28 · 02/06/2015 18:48

TheChandler Tue 02-Jun-15 16:26:36

I think you need to re-read my post that you are referring to - your follow-up makes no sense to me at all.

My solution to my problem is that I don't stay in my brick house very often - the dog and I are currently in our holiday home again! Grin No drives, no roads, total quiet!

Icimoi · 02/06/2015 20:38

I turned in someone's driveway just this evening. Widish road but parked up on both sides, traffic coming up and down intermittently at around 25 mph. To turn in the road and avoid the parked cars I would have had to do at least a 5 point turn, which would have obstructed the traffic and might have been dangerous if drivers weren't keeping a proper lookout. I judged it safer and less obstructive to do a quick turn by backing into a driveway. If I passed the threshold of the house in question, it would have been by a matter of inches and for a few seconds. So if anyone had shouted at me it would probably have been a quick two fingers before I went on my way.

DoraGora · 02/06/2015 21:03

Some people live in convenient turning places and spend all day looking out of the window for drivers who change direction. My drive is like that. I don't mind people turning in it (why would I?) But, I do get upset when people block it (and everybody blocks it) because it's the only place to unload in our road. So, lorries turn up, pull up in my drive and start unloading things for the neighbours. Sometimes, when I bang on the side of the van, they do this really surprised thing, that there's actually a house here. The best one was a carloader, who asked could I wait on the school run while he finished loading up. To be honest, I think he knew what my reply was going to be.

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pettywitchinlondon · 03/06/2015 06:20

Funy thing is on another thread about a shag I had people want to know all the details and for me to post his pictures.

Yet here posting a link to a google map where you can see the outside of a house and some are outraged.

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TrojanWhore · 03/06/2015 06:49

Yes, because in this case you are invading someone's privacy, not just joking about doing it.

If you had actually posted pix of a third party on the calendar thread, there would have been a similar reaction.

Basic netiquette.

But like not needing to go beyond the confines of the public highway is basic driving skills.

BitOutOfPractice · 03/06/2015 07:10

The problem that posting that picture gives you though is this. I know someone that lives in that street. I live nearby myself. My friend may well know this guy. He may read this thread if she directs him here.

Can open, worms everywhere.

By the way, I have no intention of asking my friend. But that's only because that would out me and I don't want that because, well, this is an anonymous forum. Which is why we don't post identifying details like pictures of house. If you get my drift

SoldierBear · 03/06/2015 07:17

Huge faux pas in posting a pic of his house.
So he objected to you using his drive - that's fair enough. It's his drive.
You look very very petty to "out" somebody like this just because you can't turn your car in what local residents say is a wide road.

IKnowIAmButWhatAreYou · 03/06/2015 07:28

OK, it's a wide road - we get that.

You could probably carry out a turn in most roads in the UK - when they're empty.

When there are cars parked on one side it becomes harder, or if there are other vehicles behind you it's actually quicker & easier for all concerned to use a drive or similar, rather than blocking it for all.

Next time I'm stuck behind some arse doing a 17 point turn on the main drag I'll give them the MN Salute as it'll probably be one of you lot!!

IKnowIAmButWhatAreYou · 03/06/2015 07:30

Some people will do anything to keep you off their drive -

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CactusAnnie · 03/06/2015 07:32

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sharonthewaspandthewineywall · 03/06/2015 07:42

I can see why people get so angry about it. I know of a couple who's little boy was killed by a lorry turning on his drive.

sharonthewaspandthewineywall · 03/06/2015 07:44

Ffs children shouldn't be allow to play on their own property now in case people can't help but turn on their drive?

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pettywitchinlondon · 03/06/2015 08:46

Next time I'm stuck behind some arse doing a 17 point turn on the main drag I'll give them the MN Salute as it'll probably be one of you lot!!

Exactly its safer to complete it by using a few inches of someone's drive.

Accidents are caused by unsafe drivers regardless of what they are doing. I did this manoeuvre carefully and safely by insuring there were no blind spots and going at a slow speed in case a cat or something did run onto my path.

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ragged · 03/06/2015 09:12

In my driver training (another country) we were actually taught to use other people's drives (strangers' drives) to turn around. This was the safest option, we were told.

Was nattering to relatives about the time in Britain when 7yoDS puked all over self so we pulled over to clean him off. This was out in middle of absolute nowhere (deep North Norfolk), but I suppose we were technically about 3' onto someone's 120' long drive, only house in sight was end of it.

Guy immediately runs out of the bushes and agitatedly asks what we are doing there and when are we leaving. My step-mom still remembers how creepy & aggressive it felt. I thought he was a junior Tony Martin & looked for shotguns.

Icimoi · 03/06/2015 09:15

I can see why people get so angry about it. I know of a couple who's little boy was killed by a lorry turning on his drive.

Awful though that is, if a small child is left to play unsupervised in a driveway they're actually more likely to be killed or injured by people legitimately using the driveway to visit the house.

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pettywitchinlondon · 03/06/2015 09:51

That sounds horrible, but I can totally believe someone would do that in the uk! Strangely possessive and unsharing.

What country was that they taught you to do it in? Seems like common sense.

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echt · 03/06/2015 09:51

Awful though that is, if a small child is left to play unsupervised in a driveway they're actually more likely to be killed or injured by people legitimately using the driveway to visit the house.

In Au it's usually their parents. No fencing of drives is part of the issue. It's invariably as they reverse out of the drive. Most Aussies, in my experience drive into the drive, and reverse out. That's when they kill their children.

The combination of no fencing and reversing out is too often fatal.

Here's my theory for Au: it's easy to drive in, so they do. I see many instances of very fast/dangerous reverses out.

On my street, I'm the only person who reverses into their drive: narrow but fenced off from the garden. I sound the horn and proceed very slowly indeed to the road when gong out. Anyone reversing is blind for ages. So many rush straight out. Very scary.

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