To be furious and devastated

[LuckyLeo28]

That I found out via Facebook that my brother and his wife are expecting another baby!
They told my parents and sister prior to posting it (you can tell by their comments) but have said nothing to me, if it wasn't for my husband having a look through Facebook I still wouldn't know (I'm no longer on Facebook).
I'm so upset, we have never had a close relationship and have quite a few falling outs but we are on good terms at the moment (well I thought we were).
I'm devastated!

Genuine question - why does it matter how you found out? As long you are pleased for them, isn't that all that matters??

ApeMan I was fuming. So was DH who is incredibly laid back and rarely gets annoyed at anything. He was really looking forward to going home and posting the status and first photo of our newborn as well as telling people that mother and baby were both ok (and he rarely bothers with FB). To see it was already thoughtlessly put on there by a person I wanted to share it with privately was incredibly irritating.

ollieplimsoles yes exactly. It did hurt a lot to find out that Facebook friends of nearly 1000 people knew about my nephew before I did. It didn't seem to be a priority to make sure that family knew first.

There is another baby due next month. I'm avoiding FB around that time because the same thing will happen again.

What gets me is I don't think certain relatives would have been particularly happy to find out that way.

That reminds me when I found out I was pregnant for the second time. My dad and brother were at my house. I told them. My dad said he was going to message our other brother and tell him. Cue a jokey race where literally had to text the words "I'm pregnant" to my brother out of the blue just so I could be the one to do it. At the time I was laughing along caught up in the giddiness of being newly pregnant having only been TTC for 1 month rather than the 3 years it took with DC1 but when I look back I am really pissed off that I had to do it that way.

I doubt we're having anymore but if we do I'm keeping it between me and DH for as long as possible and outright telling people they aren't to put anything on FB plus deactivating my account temporarily. My friend wanted to tell people the sex of her new DC and expressly told people who knew not to put it on FB, I had to hurriedly message her when I saw someone had put it on. She was not happy given she was explicit in her instructions.