to wonder WTAF Davina McCall is thinking here?

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www.telegraph.co.uk/news/celebritynews/11640553/Davina-McCall-You-must-keep-your-husband-satisfied-in-the-bedroom.html

As we know, men have affairs because of sex and underwear... its the woman's fault

I would hardly describe her as a vacuous bimbo even though these comments are ill judged.

'Matthew has strong views on underwear.'oh my god...
And “I want to stay as much as I can like the girl that Matthew married,” god forbid you age. This is awful.

I don't think she said anything that awful. Well certainly not so bad as to generate three pages of venom about it.

I think it's a good mindset to have to try not to pack on the weight as you get older and let your sex life dwindle. I have recently had a succession of miscarriages and knew id put on weight. Did something about it and am back to the weight we were at when we met. DP had also put in some weight so I've made him make done changes (yes made him!) and he now looks tons better. Sex wise he has a low sex drive so isn't that fussed but plenty of men will start looking about if they aren't happy at home.

If you have made the effort to stay looking half decent and still have a good sex life then obviously that won't be the reason your husband left if your husband leaves.

thats just patently untrue. I know first hand of several marriages where appearance and sex was fine - in fact a bit frantic in some - and the relationship floundered

A man who loves and respects you won't go looking elsewhere for sex.

I prefer to have that as the basis of my relationship rather than whether I'm wearing matching undies and am up for it on demand.

My chap doesn't actually like matching underwear, or anything fancy schmancy. He actively likes plain cotton pants. I like a set of frilly drawers, so that's what I wear quite often. I don't think he would dump me because of this...and if he did well fine. I only need one arsehole in my knickers.
I think Davina sounds like she is heading for a meltdown. She is just too manic, too hyper positive, too FUN..

I don't think anyone needs to justify their underwear!!

Lol at ' dont you have sex naked?'

I'm sure I read somewhere that she said the things she was most proud of was giving her DH a son.

Which must have been lovely for her 2 older DDs to hear.

venom ?

I think there is more (implied) venom in Davina's words than there are from the respondents on this thread.

She is basically saying that if you don't dress up up for your husband and shag him whether you want to or not, don't surprised if he fucks off with another woman. Classic victim-blaming and handmaiden stuff. She should be ashamed of herself, no matter what her issues.

i think we are rather fond of her, on the most part.
not venomous.

I don't actually mind her at all. I started a thread only the other day, saying how fantastic she looks. Now Mykleen Ass/Shitsinger is another topic

Well working with a lot of French girls I can confirm they really like the fancy underwear.

You can only confirm that the girls you worked with really like the fancy underwear.

Just thinking, how much underwear must she have to make the fucking stuff match every day?

It's quite sad when you have to bring down your whole gender in order to maintain your fame.

sebsmummy1 if you think you made your DH lose weight, you're deluded.

No-one can make their husband or wife do anything, let alone lose weight.

You may have helped him come to the realisation that he should really do it, but that's it.

getting fat is bad for your health, and we should all make every effort to keep as healthy as possible.

but this is incredibly insulting to her husband as she is saying that he is only interested in the gap between her legs, and if she doesn't put out every single day he will instantly be off shagging elsewhere. It also says to me that she thinks all she has to offer is that one thing. How sad.

of course if he IS like that, she's picked a wrong 'un.

on a lighter note, doesn't she realise she needs to take the knickers off for successful sex???

So glad I wasn't alone thinking when I read her comments. She seems desperate and scared, which is sad, but frankly if that's how little self esteem she has and suggests that other women follow suit then she is deluded as well. I could just about tolerate her before, despite her mining her personal life so deeply for personal gain. Now I think she's an utter idiot.

What is with TV presenters who forget that their job is just to deliver autocue, and insist on regaling us all with the inner workings of their not particularly brilliant minds?!

Worra I stopped making breakfast for him . He isn't fussed enough to prepare any himself so he toddles off to work and instead has lunch and dinner. Worked very well, the double chin is no more.

sebsmummy, that is actually pathetic

your bloke sounds like a brainless wet lettuce

you stopped making breakfast for him and he lost weight ?

that is priceless, honestly

I think the image she presents through the media is one that helps sell her DVDs, books and hair dye. She has to be seen to be young thinking, vibrant and sexy still - even at 47!!!! We aren't allowed to have dry vaginas and grey pubes.

the only time I make breakfast for H is if its a cooked one, - surely you werent?

AF. Yep, that's how it went down.

'Oi, your getting fat, do you want to eat more healthy or shall we just reduce calories by cutting out some food?'
'I'm not eating salad'
'Ok, how about no breakfast and just have lunch and dinner on weekdays?'
'Alright'

Half a stone lighter and not a wet lettuce in sight.

Poached egg on toast.

1. I suspect the "article" was really taken WAY out of context and written so that it looked like McCall was preaching to all women (which would fit in with the Telegraph's general "we're shit old white men so let's get our so-called "women's writers" to indulge in some woman-shaming implying all women are competitive, catty thugs" attitude).

They probably told her the interview was about something something different (her presenting work), asked how her family was, and took a few loose comments and places them out of context.

2. Also, in my dating experience, I personally find men who can't get turned on without all the lace and whatnot twee and weird and lacking in masculinity? (probably the kind of men who own the Telegraph)

A healthy heterosexual man should be able to be sexually drawn to his partner/lover without needed her to dress up like something out of Ru Paul's drag race.

Never seriously dated a military officer who wasn't of the "grab and throw onto bed even if you're menstruating and hairy and haven't washed" school of thought.

Who would actually want the type who needs a library of props to get his Mr Winkie to stand to attention? I'm not attracted to fetishists but to men so I'd probably be quite glad to filter out with my plain pants.

brilliant