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To get annoyed with attention seekers?

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MistressMeaker1 · 30/05/2015 20:47

Am I the only person who finds adult attention seekers very irritating and has no time for them?

I have just put a FB friend on 'hide' because of her constant vague, attention seeking behaviour on there. She is an old friend from uni so I don't see her much now, but she was always a drama queen and attention seeker at uni too, doing things like bursting into tears on a night out and refusing to tell us all what the matter was, or pretending to be ill to get attention.

Another friend that lives locally is also a complete attention seeker; she talks very loudly and will make sure, no matter what she has to say or do, that everything always revolves around her. She interrupts conversations by talking louder than everyone else, and brings everything round to being about her. Everyday occurences are a drama for her. I try to see her less now but it's difficult as we have lots of mutual friends.

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YouTheCat · 30/05/2015 20:53

I don't have any friends like this. There used to be one on facebook who would deactivate her account and then wait for concerned texts. Then she would reactivate and there would be the inevitable status and gushing from some of her friends. I don't think I gushed enough because I got defriended ages ago.

I have other friends who are perfectly able to deactivate their accounts without drama because they have rl stuff to be getting on with or because they fancy a break from it. I have no problem with them.

I can't be doing with attention seekers.

caitlinohara · 30/05/2015 20:55

This is why I am not on FB. Even the most reasonable, normal people come across as attention-seeking dickheads on FB, if dh's 'friends' are anything to go by.

Itwasasnack · 30/05/2015 21:04

I have the misfortune of working with a stupid cow woman like this....

Everything she does is for show, and attention.

She does things such as cook a full cooked lunch in our tiny office kitchen, using every appliance and pan possible, so that everyone goes to see what she's cooking.

She announces at work that she's not well, but won't go home and will instead do things such as 'nap' at her desk, and goes round and loudly asks everyone if they have any paracetamol as she's soooo ill.

She will suddenly do something attention seeking such as sing a song really loudly or start dancing.

She also gets attention by wanting to be besties with anyone that is having a bad time or a drama so that she is in on all the gossip.

EatDessertFirst · 30/05/2015 22:07

My future-SIL is like this. She makes PA comments about family, weddings (both of ours are currently being planned), children (behaviour, noise, naughtiness, SN, benefits etc etc). I still follow he because I am a nosy moo but I don't like or comment on any of these. Some of her friends get sucked in though. I can see their head-tilts and sympathy faces in my minds eye.

YANBU. Unfollow them or take what they say with a pinch of salt.

hiddenhome · 30/05/2015 22:10

One of my colleagues is like this.

It upset my other colleague who really is experiencing serious problems atm. I told her to ignore. Attention seeker is a sad sack who matters not.

Mintyy · 30/05/2015 22:12

Remember to feel sorry for them. It helps diffuse the irritation.

thenightsky · 30/05/2015 22:22

As I get older I find it easier to just do this face at them =>

lunar1 · 30/05/2015 22:27

I have a friend like this. It's so draining.

Aermingers · 30/05/2015 22:29

Some of these people sound like they might be ill....

zeezeek · 30/05/2015 22:29

Have got a relative who frequently puts up statuses claiming that they are at the Dr (implying it's something serious), A&E or will check in at the hospital...and are then really vague as to the reason why they are at the hospital, or whatever, hence inviting the "oh hun are you ok?" responses from the idiots who fall for this bullshit.

Fatmomma99 · 30/05/2015 23:48

I increasingly think FB is the work of the devil.

GoringBit · 31/05/2015 00:01

Oh, YA so NBU.

I have a facebook friend like this: absolutely lovely, but mad attention seeking, and other crap. He posted a news story about a vile crime. I hadn't seen the story, I didn't need to see the story, and the headline alone turned my stomach... weeks later it's stuck in my head. I did challenge him on it, and he sort-of apologised, but he'll not change, so I'm going to block him.

Another friend used fb to announce her DIL's pregnancy. Before her DIL had.

I'm going to start up a rival for facebook and call it LOOKATME!

FeelingSmurfy · 31/05/2015 00:05

Member of the family (annoyingly can't remove from friends without world war 3 starting) often checks in on Facebook at hospital and not write anything so that she gets lots of "OMG why? What's wrong? Are you ok? What happened? Is there anything I can do..." And 2 hours later she will reply saying she was just at a routine outpatient appointment - makes me think of the boy who cried wolf because whenever I see her post something like that I just ignore it and think she is attention seeking again

FeelingSmurfy · 31/05/2015 00:06

Zeezeek - cross post...I'm now wondering if we know the same person!

Clairej81 · 31/05/2015 00:32

I have a friend on FB who is very similar to PP. She regularly posts photographs of glasses of wine or G&T's. Don t know why she thinks anyone wants to know what she is having to drink on a Friday/ Saturday night.

Also, why do people post pictures on FB of their children when they are slightly ill in hospital. Getting attention on Facebook should be the last thing on their minds.

TaliZorahVasNormandy · 31/05/2015 00:34

I had a FB friend who used to have family feuds, long rants and talking about hospital appointments. It's like a soap opera. Lately though, theres no drama.

I have a RL friend who my tolerance for has decreased as I age. She is a 31 year old woman but has sulks that would reveal my teenage sister. I recently went on holiday with her, another friend and my DD. She just sat there sometimes with a vacant look on her face, as if she was waiting for me (Wouldnt happen) or my other friend to fawn over her asking what was wrong.

TelephoneIgnoringMachine · 31/05/2015 00:46

YANBU. I work with one of these. I'm thinking of hiding her PA, whiny posts on FB. It's bad enough at work... she came in the other day, clearly unwell, went round the whole department asking if anyone had paracetamol. No because she's already taken them, but muggins offered a throat sweet - she took the entire pack. Again. She needs to bring her own stuff in & stop sponging off everyone else.

FannyPlant · 31/05/2015 00:51

I had a friend like this. She has every illness going. Nobody gives a shit anymore yet still she plows on. Checking in at A+E at least once a week.

alwaysaskingquestionz · 31/05/2015 01:08

I had a friend like this. Oh the freedom when I realised I didn't have to give a shit about her nonsense anymore! Life's been so much calmer since I cut her loose

gofuckyourself · 31/05/2015 07:22

Facebook just encourages this behaviour, amongst others.
I started using Facebook way before any of my friends & family but deactivated it about 3 years ago now. Best thing I ever did. I didn't tell anyone I was doing it, I didn't make a huge song and dance I just got rid and so did my husband. Ahhh the peace. w

PicaK · 31/05/2015 07:49

Actually I am interested in what my friends are up to onFriday night. And I haven't blinked when they've posted about being in hospital with their kids. You cannot be on hyper alert 24/7 - and it's a long day in hospital when they're ill. FB messages can keep you sane in those situations.

TheCatCupIsMine · 31/05/2015 07:53

I kind of love this type of behaviour, in an odd way I don't let myself get drawn in, but find it fascinating to see how the same people post the same type of stuff over and over, and then the same people get drawn in.

ItsTricky · 31/05/2015 08:44

'Thank you to (lots of tagged friends) who are always there for me' type bollocks usually gets a hide from me. Puke.

thenightsky · 31/05/2015 10:43

Re the PA or attention seeking facebook posts, I just click 'like' but never comment.

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