To Object to the Garden being used by our neighbours.

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When we brought our house we brought it because of its corner plot and large garden.

We get on well with our neighbours, they kindly asked if they could have a party at the end of our garden as they do not have the space in theirs.
We allowed them to use our garden because we wanted to keep the relationship good.

Yesterday I saw her put up a washing line in our garden!

Neighbour must have thought that we were out, because dh took the teens on a day trip and must of thought I was out with them.

I am not happy that our land is being used and treated as an extension of their garden. We were kind enough to the leave the gate between our fences open in case their dc kick the ball over. Put this is taking the piss. She didn't even ask me.

It's - it is, it has, Beryl :). So, it's been a nice day or it's so hot in here. Its - possessive. E.G., The bird has eaten its dinner or I'm putting it back in its box.

Is the washing line still up? You need to take it down straight away and establish boundaries. Let us know how,you get on.

I would just ask her not to use your garden without permission and make it clear the party was a one off. When you saw her putting up washing you should have gone up to her and told her that you weren't happy with her using your garden as an extension of her property.
If there is a gate that locks you'll have to lock it, and get several spare keys.

It's is short for It is.

Its means belonging to it.

It's its tail = It is the tail of it.

HTH!

That does help, thanks. I used to know all this shit, I just forgot somehow.

I would take the line down, and yes keep the gate locked from now on. I would never have the face to ask a neighbour if I could use their garden for a party in the first place. She's being willfully ignorant to think because you helped her once she has carte Blanche.

In the first flat I lived in with my ex our bedroom opened on to a flat roof, we had a washing line strung up so we could dry clothes. It was quite private as we couldn't see the neighbours and they couldn't see us, in fact when our bedroom blind was broken during a party we didn't bother to replace it right away. I was getting ready to go out one day putting make up on in the mirror and saw my new neighbour hanging his washing on our line behind me. I was so shocked I didn't say anything, but I should have done, it was really creepy. He must have been out looking in to our flat to see it as you had to get out onto the roof and turn a corner.

The best and most adult way to deal with it would be a conversation along the lines of "I saw you hang your washing in our garden. Please don't do it again. I expect you to ask each time you want to use our garden, and never to assume permission."

The way I would probably deal with it is lock the gate and say nothing

I would start the conversation stated above and if you catch her again lock the gate.

I don't think I would be all that adult about it either tbh.
I would have either gone storming out immediately, channeling my inner fish wife. Or lock the gate and set booby / boobie traps, but say nothing.

I'd have waited for her to leave her washing & then locked/blocked the gate so she'd have to ask to get her clothes back.

It's can also mean it has.....

E.g. It's not arrived, it's been raining etc.

bluebanana never mind, we're all human make mistakes personally I think 'the' garden would have been easier to read!

Sorry hooby missed you had said it has further up!

Just lock the gate. Problem solved.

It sends a message without having to pull the neighbour about her behaviour.

If it happens again, even with the lock, then say something.

I think I would have gone out with the hose pipe, to ensure clothes were soaking wet when she went to collect them. But then I'm not mature or grown up

YANBU. We are in an end terrace and there is a gate between us and NDN that they installed to access their garden despite having no right of way!! I got fed up and padlocked it, later build a greenhouse and vegetable patch in front of it.

I was only going to post to gleefully correct BlueBanana's apostrophe abuse, but I see several people have got there before me. I love it when a grammar twat gets hoisted by their own petard.

If the child asks for the ball back say yes at 7 pm each day we will send it back over the fence. He will improve his ball skills so win win.

Don't chuck it back over, lock the gate or go round to speak to her.

Bring the washing in. It forces her to initiate the uncomfortable conversation. You just need to say that you assumed DH had hung it and you brought it in as it looked like rain. Then ask very directly why she's hanging her washing in your garden and why she hasn't asked.

Order some of this!

FFS, stop the bullshit comments about the apostrophe, who gives a shit? I think you have done more harm re derailing this thread than an actually factually correct comment. And its really boring

*it's really boring - in the interests of being factually correct!

Oh yes, definitely bring the washing in!

Nip this in the bud.
Our next door neighbour plays football on their neighbours front lawn (no physical boundary iyswim)so that they don't scuff up their own immaculate lawn.
It winds me up & it's not even happening to me!

Yes nip it in the bud. Nicely of course.

Very much enjoying the grammar debates.