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Would you go through severe morning sickness for a third child? If..

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GlitteringJasper · 28/05/2015 21:45

I know I'm v likely to have it as it's got progressively eworse during the last two pregnancies.

I honestly thought I was going to die during my last pregnqncy, I couldn't stand up, felt faint and nauseous all the time, work up in the night time to be sick etc etc

I have one boy and one girl so some people would be a bit Hmm as to why I'm putting myself through pregnancy again!

I'm 36 so I need to decide quickly! I keep dithering about this question! MN is the only place I can talk about it as there's no one in RL I can talk to without seeming silly.

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FeijoaSundae · 28/05/2015 21:46

Your title has an 'if' at the end, but there doesn't appear to be an 'if'...

No way, I wouldn't. But you wouldn't be unreasonable if it was something both of you really wanted.

DixieNormas · 28/05/2015 21:48

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WoonerismSpit · 28/05/2015 21:49

It's difficult isn't it. Pregnancy is difficult enough without crippling sickness, I can't imagine how hard it is for you. I'm probably being a bit silly, but is there nothing a GP can give you to help?

TheCountessofFitzdotterel · 28/05/2015 21:49

I did but it was the kiss of death to my career, so the price I paid wasn't just the months of misery. Ds2 was worth it though.

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GlitteringJasper · 28/05/2015 21:49

Oh yes, sorry about that!

I suppose if there's is an 'if' it'd be if coping with a baby and a two year old would be a real challenge due to sickness!

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BolshierAyraStark · 28/05/2015 21:49

Nope, quite selfish towards the rest of your family as well really as would impact on them.

WaferInMyCoffee · 28/05/2015 21:49

Yup, I did. Horrific. But I got a beautiful daughter!

SpiceAddict · 28/05/2015 21:50

I wouldn't, but I'm happy with my 2 DC. Depends how much you want a third child

Wishful80smontage · 28/05/2015 21:50

No I wouldnt

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GlitteringJasper · 28/05/2015 21:50

woon I got meds during last pregnancy but they made me feel drunk most of the time, I still felt so sick but just less aware of it!

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AnyFucker · 28/05/2015 21:51

I wouldn't, and didn't

No regrets here

caffiene99 · 28/05/2015 21:51

I don't think I could. I suffered severe mornkng sickness with my first child and only started to feel better after he was born.

I'm currently pregnant with my second and, although I still throw up every morning (at 25 weeks pregnant), I'm a lot better than I was first time around.

No way could I look after two other babies whilst struggling with illness like that again - I understand what it's like to feel so bad you just wish you would die. So a definite no from me.

sassytheFIRST · 28/05/2015 21:51

No. Had hyperemesis in two pregnancies, hospitalized, drips, medication throughout etc. vile. I always wanted 3 children but have stopped at two.

Skyland · 28/05/2015 21:52

I did and it was really tough. I marvel at myself managing to keep going all those months feeling like death. I would never put myself through it again but I knew I wanted three and had to get on with it.

Vanimal · 28/05/2015 21:53

I did too. Hyperemesis for the 3rd time was horrendous with a 2 & 4 year old.

But she is amazing. Aged 2 now and the trauma has worn off just about

If you ache for a third like I did then go ahead. But if it's a meh decision then no, no, no. Very tough time.

Icimoi · 28/05/2015 21:54

I did, but my sickness got slightly better with pregnancies 2 and 3, and when I had DC3, DC1 was 7 and DC2 was 2.10.

Gennz · 28/05/2015 21:54

I don't think I would. I didn't have HG but was violently ill every morning up to the day I had DS. Also had SPD and debilitating sciatica in the last few weeks. I always thought I wanted three but the experience of actually being pregnant changed my mind about that pretty smartly. I still like the idea of 3 but can't imagine gong through pregnancy 2 more times. The thought of doing it even once more makes me queasy...

TheFallenMadonna · 28/05/2015 21:55

I didn't. it wasn't the only factor, but it was a significant one.

eeyore2 · 28/05/2015 21:55

I did. The sickness was even worse... Then I found out it was twins!

BitOfFun · 28/05/2015 21:55

I think you'd probably end up selling your two young children short and be unable to care for them. Some things just aren't meant to be, sad though it is. I'd have had more children if circumstances had been different, but I got my head around it not being realistic and counted my blessings- it can be done.

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GlitteringJasper · 28/05/2015 21:55

With dc 2 I swore that I was so traumatised I could never go through it again.

DD is almost 6 months now, an absolute joy! Couldn't wish for a more chilled, calm baby and I just wish for a big family of our own for her. We have no family around so we're a small gang and I just feel 3 children would be a nice busy household.

Cons:
We can afford 2
We have the space for 2, ie a bedroom each
We have one of each sex
Slightly biased but our children are delightful!

Pros
don't want to put the baby stuff away

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dietcokeandwine · 28/05/2015 21:56

I did, came as a complete surprise though as I had had only 'typical' sickness (ie felt rough for first trimester then fine) for DS1 and had no sickness at all with DS2.

I felt absolutely dreadful for pretty much the entire pregnancy with DS3, constant nausea and regular vomiting until the day he was born. That said, he was worth every minute of it - but it was hard on the other two. We always wanted 3, though. I suspect I would have gone ahead even knowing about the awful sickness; I'd have rationalised that I only had to do it for 9 months and then all would be fine (which it was-DS3 was delivered and I stopped feeling sick!).

It all hinges on how badly you want that third child (not another baby - do you want a third child, a fifth member of your family, another person in your house) and if you do then I would say go for it. Good luck with whatever you decide to do.

BrianButterfield · 28/05/2015 21:58

I wouldn't. I had heartburn first time and second time it was much worse and made the last few months of pregnancy awful, and that has very much put me off a third.

cheminotte · 28/05/2015 21:58

Not a very long pros list there!

BikeRunSki · 28/05/2015 21:59

No. Hyperemisis the first time was bad enough. Hyperemisis with a 2 year old to look after was ghastly. I couldn't step out of my dc's lives for a few months again. I couldn't face hg again for anything or anyone.