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AIBU?

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To think drinking excessively at special occasions is just selfish?

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KorsILoveMichael · 24/05/2015 11:26

I was at a wedding yesterday and one woman drank about 3 bottles of wine and got drunk. Became very rude and aggressive and just embarrassed herself. This woman was in her late 30s so you'd think by now she'd know how much she could drink without getting wasted.

I was also drinking but I paced myself as I knew it would be a long day and I wouldn't want to get the point where I was so drunk I was ruining what is suppose to be a happy day.

I think when you're out in town having drinks its different. But I really think drinking excessively (way over your own limit) at a special occasion (weddings, christenings etc) is just really grim and selfish behaviour.

OP posts:

crustsaway · 24/05/2015 23:44

Anyway back to the thread. It happens, I'd like to think that no-one is perfect, that worries me more than people whom admit to a faux pas sometimes.

PlumpingThePartTimeMother · 24/05/2015 23:48

These alcoholic dusters, you've got to watch out for them

ilovesooty · 24/05/2015 23:50

I'm not prepared to continue this on the thread crustsaway

It would be discourteous to other posters and your previous issue with me is irrelevant to the thread itself.

Since the OP is seemingly no longer willing to engage with the thread she started she probably won't return to justify calling fellow posters "thick" either. I personally think it's offensive to level that at others because you don't like the responses you get when you start a thread.

ilovesooty · 24/05/2015 23:51

Plumping

ilovesooty · 24/05/2015 23:51

crustsaway · 25/05/2015 00:04

err ok sooty.

crustsaway · 25/05/2015 00:07

Rods up arses can be very painful, so can eating lemons.

AnyFucker · 25/05/2015 01:02

deary me

this thread turned into an odd little ditty

bullying, flouncing, sockpuppeting.....It has it all

crustsaway · 25/05/2015 01:12

Entertaining though rather than flat-lining and uppity perfection

ilovesooty · 25/05/2015 02:15

I think my point about the name change earlier has been borne out by the OP's behaviour on her other thread.

No wonder she didn't bother to come back to this one.

Ledkr · 25/05/2015 08:29

I've just spent an amusing ten minutes looking at the ops other threads and on each one she does the same thing which is to attack any poster who dares to disagree with her op.
It's actually pretty funny to read particularly as she professes that being 22!! Is some kind of reazon why everyone should just agree with her

ohtheholidays · 25/05/2015 09:08

We had the same at our own wedding My oldest Brother(he was 52),his girlfriend(59) and his 5 children(all adults and with young children of they're own)and 4 partners of his kids.And two of them had newborn babies with them.

They all got slaughtered the Fucking Morons not surprisingly myself,DH and 5DC have all gone NC with all of them and so did my Mum and Dad,My second oldest brother now has NC with them all as well and so have most of his 7 children.My parents informed my Aunties and Uncles so they've all gone NC with all of them as well and so have my cousins.

What made it so bad is,I'm by far the youngest(oldest brother is 15 years older than me)and it took ages for us to get married as I'd nearly died,became seriously ill and disabled and we have 2 disabled children.And all through my brothers life he constantly messed up and I was the one that got to pick up the pieces and I'd helped raise all 6 of his children and his girlfriend was my Mum's best friend and had known me since I was a child.

I don't think all people that act that way have a drinking problem I just think some of them are just bad people!

Waltermittythesequel · 25/05/2015 09:38

No wonder she didn't bother to come back to this one

I wouldn't be so sure...

NorahDentressangle · 25/05/2015 09:44

I would guesstimate half the british adult population have a drink problem - me included.

So far mine isn't bad enough to make me pass out anywhere but I have tried to give it up several times and failed so I have a drink problem.

VelvetRose · 25/05/2015 09:58

I've only read 3 pages but I agree with OP. It's bloody horrible when people get wasted at things like this and then become aggressive or lecherous or even violent. I really think some people have no idea how unpleasant they are when they are drunk. I don't think it's stuck up to actually mention how horrible it is to be around people in this state. Yes some people have drink problems, others may have had horrible experiences of being brought up around drunken parents who treated them really fucking horribly.

OurGlass · 25/05/2015 10:22

Fucking hell what the hell happened here

AnyFucker · 25/05/2015 11:03

advance search should give you a clue

butterfly133 · 25/05/2015 16:42

I don't know about the definition of drinking problem, but last time my best friend & brother went to a family do, they got so hammered, their parents were actually really ashamed of them. They like their family and enjoy getting together, they just think it's normal to be that hammered and to have to ask others "what happened?" they next day. They often do drink a lot. I think she drinks more on individual occasions now after having a baby because she says "I get out less" but that's actually nonsense - her partner is SAH so she is out drinking at least one night a week. I guess that's not enough...!

I guess we notice more depending on how people behave. Their behaviour is more embarrassing for them than anything else. Last time we had a party here, DP tried to persuade them to stay here because he thought they were too drunk to go home (which they were doing on the Tube). I told him he should let them be adults and do what they thought was right....and guess what...they went from here to a nightclub and continued drinking till dawn. Well, I knew they'd do that because I've known them years, but he was really amazed anyone would serve them.

I don't get why anyone wants to drink that much but I've learned not to comment, with several friends. That said, I have a thing now that with people who drink that much I tend to leave the party before they need looking after, or ring their partners. I have told them very bluntly that them drinking that much "for fun" isn't going to ruin my night.

Readingwritingandarithmetic · 25/05/2015 16:56

Did you really call someone 'thick'? Good grief.....you are an unpleasant individual ......ugh!

MrsItsNoworNotatAll · 25/05/2015 18:28

I agree with the op. People who turn aggressive when they've drunk too much are a pita.

Also irritating are the ones who turn weepy and need comforting. I had an Aunt who did this at every night out she ever went too. Fucking embarrassing. It would be going well then something, some memory from decades ago and off she'd go weeping away. Every. Fucking. Time.
My Uncle would go on one and tell her to get a grip, mum would be fed up as it was usually up to her to comfort her. It ruined a good night.

Honestly if alcohol affects so much you either want to fight someone or start beefing then you should seriously consider avoiding alcohol.

crustsaway · 28/05/2015 00:12

I think my point about the name change earlier has been borne out by the OP's behaviour on her other thread

So says a flouncer hypercritical posting is one thing that does want me to award a biscuit.

WhatsGoingOnEh · 28/05/2015 00:22

YANBU. Wine is such an understatedly strong drink. It's three times as strong as beer, but is considered socially "better". I don't get it.

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