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Please tell me am I being over sensitive??

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rubyroux · 22/05/2015 11:40

I'm in the process of buying my first house and boyfriend (of 18 months) knew I was going to put in an offer on one I love this morning. I usually text him every morning (when I'm not with him of course) saying 'morning' but didn't today as I've been so nervous/ excited. Anyway my offer has just been accepted (Grin) and the bloody [removed at OPs request] hasn't even bothered to text me yet today asking how it's all gone. He KNEW I was going to put the offer in first thing and it's 11.37 and still no text. I am having extreme PMT which is causing me to be slightly over sensitive so am I being a crazy bitch or am I being reasonable in feeling slightly annoyed?

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Velociraptor · 22/05/2015 11:42

I think YABU. Just text him and let him know the offer has been accepted. Don't spoil a good day with a silly argument.

TheGirlOnTheLanding · 22/05/2015 11:45

You are being over sensitive and completely U for using the term 'fucktard'.

Congrats on your house purchase. I'm sure your DP will celebrate with you tonight.

curlyweasel · 22/05/2015 11:45

YABOS (also please don't use that word as it causes offence - which I found out to my own embarrassment).

yorkshapudding · 22/05/2015 11:48

In the nicest possible way I think YABU. Maybe he is just busy at work? Maybe he is just waiting to hear from you about the offer and didn't want to add to your nervousness by badgering you for updates? I agree it would be silly to ruin a happy occasion by getting annoyed with him when he hasn't really done anything.

WorraLiberty · 22/05/2015 11:48

Does anyone ever phone and speak to anyone these days?

YABU. If you want contact with him, just do it.

19lottie82 · 22/05/2015 11:48

I think you're right to feel like that, but that's men I'm afraid.

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rubyroux · 22/05/2015 11:49

Didn't even realise I'd caused offence sorry!! Okay I'll stop being silly and text him. I think I'm just annoyed because I always contact him first and just wanted him to message me first for once on a big day!

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NerrSnerr · 22/05/2015 11:49

You are being over sensitive!

londonrach · 22/05/2015 11:51

Yabu. Congratulations x

curlyweasel · 22/05/2015 11:52

I didn't either ruby - got an email from MNHQ explaining. I know better now (it was obvious I suppose really). x

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rubyroux · 22/05/2015 11:54

Thanks curlyweasel, I'm horrified now that anyone will be offended by what I said. I just didn't think (which is NOT a good enough excuse).

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rubyroux · 22/05/2015 11:56

Anyway I've just texted him and told him. I think I need to change my pill, I cried last night because he's seeing his friend tonight and Friday's are usually 'our' night Blush I'm only this horrible 1 week out of the month I promise.

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curlyweasel · 22/05/2015 11:57

You could ask MNHQ to delete the thread. Anyway - congratulations on your new house. Anyway - agree with Worra - just pick up the bloody phone and call him. x

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rubyroux · 22/05/2015 12:00

I will report and ask. Now we've all got a mostly unanimous that BU!! Can't phone him at work but I've sent him a text Smile x

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AwayAndRunUpMaHumf · 22/05/2015 12:02

What word? The f-t??

AwayAndRunUpMaHumf · 22/05/2015 12:04

Oh, and congrats on your house op! FWIW, I'm quite over sensitive hot headed and I would be irritated too. But then I know I am be v unreasonable!

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rubyroux · 22/05/2015 12:04

I presume so Away, was horribly unsensitive of me!

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rubyroux · 22/05/2015 12:05

Thanks Away! Yes I'm hot headed too, the amounts of stupid arguments I've had by just blowing things completely out of proportion Angry

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Lolipoplady · 22/05/2015 12:05

This is the kind of thread I could have started myself! Something very similar happened to me yesterday afternoon - I broke down by the side of the road and had to get recovery service out. I had texted DP to let him know, and then I heard nothing from him till I phoned him in the evening about 5 hours later. I was so cross that he hadn't texted or phoned to see what was happening, I felt like he didn't care about me. I shouted at him Blush

I am very hormonal atm so I had a feeling I was being a bit unreasonable but just couldn't help it.

Just wanted you to know that you're not the only one who feels like this sometimes! And congratulations on the house!

OfaFrenchMind · 22/05/2015 12:07

fucktard is an offensive word now? Aww, I like this one, I can even pronounce it correctly!

EugenesAxe · 22/05/2015 12:10

Lolipop - I think yours is a bit different; you were in straits and he should have known to check in on you.

ruby - people get excited about different things. I would almost certainly be lalala about something like this and could easily not remember to text to ask. But you had your answers :)

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rubyroux · 22/05/2015 12:10

Thank you Loli!! That's very reassuring that I'm not the only one Blush. Hope you got your car sorted. I was an hour late home from work the other night because of traffic and I got in and he was in bed watching TV. He hadn't thought to text and ask why I was late. I think it's just men are like that!!

Yes, I can see why now FrenchMind but I just completely didn't think before.

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rubyroux · 22/05/2015 12:12

Yes Eugenes, I'm probably going to post another AIBU in an hour or so asking if I'm being unreasonable to be annoyed that he hasn't replied... steps away from computer and goes to shop for crisps

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mrsgooglemad · 22/05/2015 17:32

Please forgive my ignorance but how is that offensive when posters are allowed to use the word c**t??!! Seriously.....just curious!!

NerrSnerr · 22/05/2015 17:38

Because cunt is a word for genitalia, the word in the OP is a mashed up way of saying retard.

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