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to ask for advice re gender fluid son

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Fooshufflewickbannanapants · 12/05/2015 22:13

Ok, posting here in the hope that someone can point me in the right direction, one of my sons has his promise coming up and wants to wear a dress with high heels.

I have no idea where to find a dress that will be cut to suit him, he is medium height but slender and obviously flat chested ( although he's not averse to 'getting' booms for the night.

Is there any where I can take him to shop or are there any online shops that cater for him? I've tried googling but getting nowhere.

Thanks

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ItalianLemons · 19/05/2015 21:39

Wow, he is actually stunning, what a gorgeous face! I like the look as it is and think flat chested looks great. He rocks this look!

chinam · 19/05/2015 21:48

I know I'm late to the party but I wanted to say that I think you are doing a great job with your son. It's wonderful to see someone being accepted just the way they are. I hope he has a great time at the prom.

Talismania · 20/05/2015 03:45

He looks stunning. What a great dress!

Chipshopninja · 20/05/2015 07:44

He looks awesome and very confident.

TheCunnyFunt · 20/05/2015 07:59

He looks fabulous, he will look amazing all glammed up for the prom! I think a flat chest works well with that dress.

Brantano do womens shoes up to a 9 so maybe try there?

Hope to see a pic of him on prom night, love the idea of a Jessica Rabbit style hair do!

OrlandoWoolf · 20/05/2015 07:59

Considering some of the views on MN at the moment by some people, it's really nice to see positive comments on here.

I hope he had a nice time - and that he was treated well by the other people at the prom.

TheCunnyFunt · 20/05/2015 08:00

Orlando the prom isn't until July :)

OrlandoWoolf · 20/05/2015 08:03

Ok - I hope he will be treated well by other people - or not subject to abuse and bullying by them. Luckily the children of today are much more open and tolerant and aware than previous generations.

DragonWithAGirlTattoo · 20/05/2015 08:08

Aw he looks fantastic

*I'm a bit late to the party, but for next time check out forever 21 I love their stuff

Well done mum

OrlandoWoolf · 20/05/2015 09:21

Do his friends at school know? Do other people know?

I hope he realises the potential consequences of having a picture of him wearing a dress posted on the Internet. I'm sure he does and you do - but some children (and some adults) can be incredibly cruel - been there, done that and suffered the consequences. Posting a picture of yourself wearing a dress can have unforeseen consequences with bullying.

Mrsstarlord · 20/05/2015 09:26

OP has already said that he is very happy, has lots of friends and is very open and confident - so no worries there Smile

OrlandoWoolf · 20/05/2015 09:39

Missed that post.

We live in different times Grin

Original poster
Fooshufflewickbannanapants · 20/05/2015 10:05

Orlando thank you for your concern, he really is very happy with himself as he is and has a plethora of amazing friends who support him. If I had any doubts at all about his safety or emotional health I wouldn't have posted, he is a very articulate and welll rounded boy and I did reiterate that once a pic is out there it's out there, but he came to the conclusion that he is happy to post the pic. I do appreciate though that he is in a privileged position by having amazing friends and not everyone has that support.

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Mrsstarlord · 20/05/2015 10:06

We do, it's great isn't it? My stepson avoided coming out because he didn't know what the reaction would be, which was really sad as he spent a few years worrying unnecessarily (as we already knew and weren't remotely bothered by it, although in fairness his stepdad was a dick).
This is how things should be.

Mrsstarlord · 20/05/2015 10:07

Sorry, cross posted as got interrupted in the middle of typing!

mrstiggy · 20/05/2015 10:11

He sounds like a real credit to you OP. The dress looks fabulous and I hope he has a wonderful time. Smile

spiderlight · 20/05/2015 10:20

He looks amazing! Love his hair.

ConfusedInBath · 20/05/2015 11:03

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TheWernethWife · 20/05/2015 20:49

He looks absolutely fabulous, what a brilliant mother you are and what a great group of supportive friends he has. He looks better in a frock than I do.

helenahandbag · 20/05/2015 21:01

That dress is amazing, he is rocking it!

queeneileen · 20/05/2015 21:23

Oh he looks amazing in that dress, it suits his frame perfectly.

I agree with red hair and accessories.

He's going to be (even more) stunning on the night!

TheSkyIsAwake · 20/05/2015 21:43

What a lovely thread! Hope he enjoys his prom.

Shonajay · 20/05/2015 22:20

You can get pants on ebay quite cheap that give you a bum, you could pad them at the sides to give him hips too maybe- if he's up and down shaped. Hope he has a fab time.

VelvetRose · 20/05/2015 23:03

Your son looks absolutely fantastic! I hope he has a completely amazing time at the prom! Smile

chiruri · 20/05/2015 23:08

He is a seriously good looking boy. He's going to be drop-dead gorgeous at the prom. I'd definitely vote for pillar box red heels and nails. Maybe go for a deep red on the hair to make it more sophisticated and less cartoony than pillar box.