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donating my benefit

119 replies

robynhood · 10/05/2015 14:06

regular poster maybe a permanent nc? Who knows.

AIBU to donate my benefits to people worse off than myself, foodbanks, school breakfasts etc, disabled friends, local stories making papers when the shit hits the fan.

Now before anybody jumps on the idea that it must prove people don't need their money, this isn't the case.
I don't know anybody else in my position as it is quite unique and is due to multiple factors from being born when I was to the way I have lived my life, choices etc.

I decided not to leave the benefit unclaimed as it would only serve the fat cats and won't go to those who need it.
Unless the new gov scrap it of course/ change criteria it should still equal approx £75 per week. Obviously sometimes I will need to keep it if we have to pay for doctors etc.

So AIBU, and can anybody think of any other groups that may like donations.

OP posts:
magimedi · 10/05/2015 14:08

YANBU.

DH always gives away his annual heating allowance to Age concern or local hospice.

MrsCampbellBlack · 10/05/2015 14:08

Personally I just wouldn't claim it. We're entitled to DLA for my eldest child I believe but I won't claim it as we don't 'need' it.

Aeroflotgirl · 10/05/2015 14:08

YABVVU that benefit is for you. If you can afford to do that, than you don't need it.

Aeroflotgirl · 10/05/2015 14:08

Don't claim it, and let somebody who does need it have it.

ThroughThickAndThin01 · 10/05/2015 14:10

robynhood' the mind boggles. Do you think as much of yourself as that implies?

Give it away, but don't make such a song and dance about it.

WorraLiberty · 10/05/2015 14:11

Dear god how many more crass threads are we going to get about donations or food banks?

Just donate quietly. You don't need a pat on the back and a bunch of flowers surely?

WorraLiberty · 10/05/2015 14:12

X posted with ThroughThick

Viviennemary · 10/05/2015 14:12

Very noble. Don't know what benefit it is. But sounds as if you don't need it. So presumably you aren't one of those that are going to starve to death under this new government. I so disapprove of this silly type of scaremongering.l

Floralnomad · 10/05/2015 14:12

I agree with pp who say you just shouldn't claim it ,my youngest dc is entitled to DLA and we just don't claim it as we dont ( fortunately) need it .

Creatureofthenight · 10/05/2015 14:12

YABU, if you don't need it don't claim it.

DinkyDye · 10/05/2015 14:13

If you dont need it why are you claiming it?

Whether you like this or not, you sound like a poster for the Tories for why they can cut 12b in benefits!

fairyfuckwings · 10/05/2015 14:13

To be honest 75 quid is not exactly a huge amount. Can't you just spend it on vodka? Or donate it if that's what you wish. Either way it's not gonna make much of difference is it?

paxtecum · 10/05/2015 14:13

I would claim and set up DD to the local hospice, Shelter, the local homeless hostel, local women' refuge and maybe keep £10 to donate to another charity each week.

I'd avoid looking at Crowd funding or don't be fooled by the tricksters on there.

Oldraver · 10/05/2015 14:13

I think I would say if you dont need it then dont claim it. I got as far as filling in the DLA forms then thought ...fuck it I dont need the money, and was only putting it in as I had been nagged by other people that I was entiltled to it. Same as I gave up on my claim for JSA (or whatever it was called then)

Its your choice though, you may think you are doing better claiming then passing it on...I preferred the not answering to anyone

WorraLiberty · 10/05/2015 14:15

Whether you like this or not, you sound like a poster for the Tories for why they can cut 12b in benefits!

Yep and one that just happened to name change...

manicinsomniac · 10/05/2015 14:15

I think that, if you genuinely don't need it, you just shouldn't claim it.

But you wouldn't be unreasonable to claim it and give it away. Or to claim it and keep it.

NerrSnerr · 10/05/2015 14:16

I think if you don't need it you shouldn't claim it, but if you do and want to donate then don't make a song and dance.

Do you want us to applaud you or something?

paxtecum · 10/05/2015 14:17

Robynhood has come on here anonymously so she's not really looking for a pat on the back.

Of course £75 is a lot of money. Hospices survive on lots of donations of varying amounts. Every penny counts.

OttiliaVonBCup · 10/05/2015 14:17

YANBU to donate it.
YABU to advertise it.

SoonToBeSix · 10/05/2015 14:19

If you don't claim dla for your child because you don't need it have you considering claiming and saving it for your disabled child's future . The money is for your child not for you and nothing is going to get easier for disabled people.
Also claiming dla is not just about money it is often used as " proof" of disability.

robynhood · 10/05/2015 14:20

I don't think much of myself at all, and there are times we will need the money as we do now.
There is no fraud, it's completely legal and benefit to which we are entitled.
The nc is because of the nature of the proposal not that I am dealing in huge amounts and will make a big difference. But every little helps.

I did consider not claiming it anymore, but when we do need it I will have shot myself in the foot, so to speak. Plus, it won't go to those who need it as they are losing out.
Amongst others I aim to help a friend a sp who is disabled and will lose out/ has lost enough already.

We won't starve as we have workers in the family, but may well need it sometimes for prescriptions, nhs if we have to pay etc.

We are just not as poor as some and I would prefer to help people than save for a holiday or other luxury.

So some suggestions as to some places to donate, or save it to donate. Thanks

OP posts:
robynhood · 10/05/2015 14:25

worra

No, No, No.
I voted Green because I live in a safe labour area.
lived through con gov before.
I hope this is enough.

I also said, I don't know others in my position it isn't necessarily conventional that's all. Sometimes we will need it, depending on what gov decide to cut.

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RandomMess · 10/05/2015 14:30

What about donating to some specific charities that help the disabled:

Dogs for the Disabled (and presumably most of the other assistant dog organisations are all charitable and rely on fundraising to train the dogs)

Children Today - Helping disabled children and young people live a life of greater freedom. Children Today provide grants for vital, life-changing equipment for children and young people with sickness and disability across the UK.

LyingWitchInTheWardrobe2726 · 10/05/2015 14:32

Then get on with it, it didn't need a thread. Lots of people give money quietly and without fanfare. Your posts sound very disingenuous.

ItMustBeBedtimeSurely · 10/05/2015 14:38

You're not going to have to pay for a doctor. Don't be so hysterical.

And if you don't need it, don't claim it. Obviously. No one needs a one woman campaign to right the wrongs of the government Hmm.