To be upset over what these so called Friends have done today?

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I've namechanged as I feel a bit upset and embarrassed.

A workfriend asked if I wanted to meet up this weekend at a soft play centre, and then said another colleague was coming too, which was fine with me.

Yesterday evening they each sent me texts saying that they can't go. One said she was ill, the other said her husband was off work so they were going out. Fair enough.

However one of them has just checked in on FB at a cinema, tagged the other one and said they're having "a great day out with the kids".

Charming!

I'm pissed off. The second colleague that was invited along cannot bear people to be friends with each other, she wants to be involved in everything, so I am assuming it was her doing.

Won't be organising anything with either of them again!

Cost of cinema ticket; £8.50. Cost of popcorn; £3.29. Getting out of a soft play visit with a two-faced lying bitch; priceless. For everything else there's MasterCard.

Saucy, that is genius!

Do what saucy suggested!

It sounds to me as if they've done it on purpose so you'll see it. I've had people like this try to upset me OP, and it did, until I realised that I don't want to associate with such childish nastiness. I distanced myself and invested more in the couple of wonderful friends I do have. These people are not your friends. Delete, move on. It is shit though we'll go to soft play with you

Feel lucky OP, you could have wasted some of your precious life with these arseholes.

Doesn't saucy's only work if you are the women at the cinema?

I wouldn't post on FB, but I would keep a distance from them, now they've shown their true colours

Sod them.

I think you did the right thing op. Your fb like and comment pretty much says "fuck you I do not actually care. "

Best response to this nonsense.

Continue in this vein. Hold your head high even though it hurts, do not let them see you give a fuck.

How horrible for you to be on the receiving end of such bitchy mean behaviour.

You did the right thing with your comment, they know you've seen it, I would just be very cool with them now. Just colleagues, not friends. Rise above it and keep your dignity.

What nasty behaviour. You're better off without frenenemies like that OP.

There's a mum at DDs school like that. Hates someone she is friendly with having other friends. It's weird!

What dansak says. I know how tempting it is to comment but they are colleagues and you're stuck with seeing them every day so don't.
They're twat bags and deserve none of your energy.

Agree to block on FB (or defriend or whatever the term is.you can tell I don't do FB or Twitter)

If she asks you to meet up (and she arranged the soft play) either say "No, I don't think so" and walk away or agree to meet and don't turn up (petty I know but I bear grudges)

Have they replied or acknowledged it at all?

Don't reply on Facebook. Ask them each individually at work tomorrow how they enjoyed the film.

When something like this happens it is easy to think that there is something wrong with you and to feel justifiably hurt.

The temptation is to analyse the behaviour to try and work it out and to make those who have wronged you (and you have been wronged) explain their behaviour and apologise.

There is a very good saying that goes something like ... When someone shows you who they really are, believe them.
These two have shown by their behaviour that they are not people you want to have in your life.

Don't try work it out, don't try make them pay or make them feel guilty or try to get them to explain because they won't. They have shown you who they really are, now believe them. Dont waste your time or energy on them, they are certainly not worth it. Delete them from your friends list and do something nice for yourself to boost your self esteem. Laugh at the immaturity of them and the lucky escape you have had from being involved in any of their future petty playground behaviour.

Jesus. Do people actually behave like this?!

They're acting like a pair of spiteful little girls! Fine example they're setting for their children

OP, you ever heard the saying: What's for you won't go by you?

These two aren't for you. Let them jog the fuck on by. I would block them and have no more to do with either one of them.

And don't get upset about it. See this as a positive - at least you now know what they are really like. These people aren't worth your time or your upset. Do something nice for yourself today and forget all about them

These two aren't for you. Let them jog the fuck on by.

I concur.

thats horrible ,what cows!

What horrible people. I would definitely comment on FB.

Wow what horrible people.

I too would be incredibly hurt by that - I would probably ignore the FB thing, unfriend and be cool at work. If they invite you out again, I think I'd give a Paddington bear stare and "I don't think so."

I can't believe they were stupid enough to tag themselves. Or was this actually on purpose?? I would put something PA like 'glad you're better'. They should know you realise how awful they are.

All this nonsense about passive aggressive comments on their FB posts or ignoring it and acting normal is just as childish as their behavior IMO.

Just call them on it, in person not on FB, 'What you did this weekend was a bit weird and hurtful' and move on. Unfriend them on FB and keep the relationship professional at work.

FWIW I think they're total dicks. So tell them that and forget about it.

Thinking of you OP.

Did you see either of them at work today? I hope they had the grace to explain/apologise.

Not only are they rude, they're also really stupid!!

Not the kind of people you need in your life OP. Hope you had a lovely sunny day without them.

I agree with Purplemunkey. I would ask the person who invited you in the first place, why she then lied to you about the event being cancelled while posting about it on Facebook.