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AIBU to think that charging rent from a child whilst in finL year of A-levels is not on?

110 replies

Pony74 · 08/05/2015 21:13

Is this normal? Thank you.

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Pony74 · 08/05/2015 21:16

Bump

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AnyFucker · 08/05/2015 21:17

which part are you playing in this scenario ?

6031769 · 08/05/2015 21:17

Depends on situation, if they had a job then maybe a small amount to teach the value of money

SoonToBeSix · 08/05/2015 21:18

Yanbu

GobbolinoCat · 08/05/2015 21:20

no its not on.

ashtrayheart · 08/05/2015 21:21

Dsd is 17 and at college. She earns a decent amount from her part time job but we wouldn't charge her rent until she is working f/t and no longer a student.

Lunastarfish · 08/05/2015 21:21

how old is the child? At 17 it may perhaps be a little mean depending on the circumstances but if the 'child' is actually an adult then that's different

CupidStuntSurvivor · 08/05/2015 21:22

You bumped after 3 minutes? Give it a chance.

Pony74 · 08/05/2015 21:27

Anyfucker, it's my daughters friend and I'm trying a sense check on how I feel about it. The child is 17/18 and in the final year of school.

Don't have a massive go at me I'm just trying to work out if IABU about this?

Do I really need to bang on about how long I've been on mn. Lemon drizzle etc?

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Pony74 · 08/05/2015 21:28

Cupid, I bumped because the thread wasn't showing until I did that. Sorry.

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Corygal · 08/05/2015 21:28

It's mean.

Pony74 · 08/05/2015 21:32

Thanks. I guess I'm just trying to gauge how I feel about it because to me it feels so wrong. Can you really charge a child rent whilst still at school, even though it's a levels?

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CupidStuntSurvivor · 08/05/2015 21:34

Depends on the circumstances anyway. It can teach a young adult (17 years old?) about budgeting and bills so can be useful for a teen that's not great with money. Also, some parents do this as a way of getting the teen to save up money for themselves for uni indirectly.

Akire · 08/05/2015 21:34

Only if the family are really skint and his money is paying for the basics, or he's earning loads and it's a small %. If he's just on min wage and already paying for all his own clothes and phone bill and then rent is bit much.

Pony74 · 08/05/2015 21:37

She's only got a call centre job to supplement a levels.
I personally think this is awful but posted here to get another point of view.

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amybear2 · 08/05/2015 21:40

Her parents are still getting child benefit and child tax credits for her.She should not be working at thye moment either.She needs to be concentrating on her exams.

AuntyMag10 · 08/05/2015 21:41

Definitely not on.

Tequilashotsfor1 · 08/05/2015 21:47

I don't think it's any of your buisness really ( in a nice way!)

I had my own place at 16 and learned how to manage money very quickly.

Dd1 had a part time job while at school and she had to (after a discussion) give me a small part of it for savings. If I wasn't financally secure I may have used it towards food ect...

It's all a learning curve.

Alisvolatpropiis · 08/05/2015 22:08

It's completely unresonable.

todayisayesterdaystomorrow · 08/05/2015 22:14

Unreasonable unless extremely hard up.

Tequilashotsfor1 · 08/05/2015 22:18

Why? Why is it unreasonable to contribute to the family home / regardless if your rolling in it?

hidingfromthem · 08/05/2015 22:19

its hugely mean indeed.
unless - the whole household is on the knife edge of being sent to the workhouse - otherwise it does seem incredibly grabby.

Norfolkandchance1234 · 08/05/2015 22:22

I personally would never charge rent in this situation but I don't know the full facts of the situation from either party so can't really comment.

Alisvolatpropiis · 08/05/2015 22:23

I think it is unreasonable to charge your child rent when they still at school.

Pay for their own phone/clothes/hair cuts etc yes absolutely. Rent? No.

Wantsunshine · 08/05/2015 22:27

Really mean as the parents would probably be getting child benefit too. Sounds very grabby.