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AIBU?

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Fakeness on mumsnet

79 replies

Agreeabletoeverything · 08/05/2015 19:39

AIBU to think that at times some people on mumsnet are really fake? I don't find it as bad on AIBU threads as they are so anonymous but I've noticed it is awful on threads where ppl have built up rapport.

Like, rather than be upfront on a certain subject, I find vast majority of ppl will be like "OMG, that is so awful, totes agree with you, you poor thing" etc etc without even trying to consider the other side to the story. Or reading into the posters post which quite often is self centred and bratty, even on the surface. I find women amongst friends have a real inability to be honest and it's tiresome that women who don't even know each other/will prob never meet each other can't even be frank with one another and a group will just spew the same rubbish and paraphrase what the poster above has said. Defeats the purpose of posting for opinions because it just looks like 1. The poster wants everyone to agree and 2. No matter what, no one will even be honest. Sick of seeing ppl demonise the "baddie" in the posters tale without a second thought. And yes, I think women are particularly guilty of this in life whilst men have the guts to be more honest.

And that's that really.

OP posts:
WendyTorrance · 08/05/2015 20:59

I LOVE Friday nights on Mumsnet.
Totes love it.

missingmumxox · 08/05/2015 21:00

Oh I love you Op you are the gift that keeps giving...

Yes I know you are you said you are now what am I? Not said that since year 5 GrinGrinGrin
Please stay it would be totes amazing

FenellaFellorick · 08/05/2015 21:01

Honest?

FlaviaAlbia · 08/05/2015 21:01

FenellaFellorick I'm both horrified and impressed at that image Grin

morethanpotatoprints · 08/05/2015 21:01

wtf does totes mean?
Is it a conservative thread? Grin

Agreeabletoeverything · 08/05/2015 21:03

I'm not staying, you've all really hurt my feelings for not agreeing with me. It's not fair.

OP posts:
Royalsighness · 08/05/2015 21:05

Choke on this Biscuit

WendyTorrance · 08/05/2015 21:05

Oh, OP, you ok pet?

AtomicDog · 08/05/2015 21:07

2/10 for "it's not fair"

Aermingers · 08/05/2015 21:08

YES! I completely agree with you. It really gets my goat. Not all posters are like that. But I would say a majority tend to agree with the OP without thinking of the other side of the story. Especially it's a woman complaining about a man.

My husband always jokes about it. He says there was a thread on Mumsnet where a woman said 'Last night I went out and spent the evening with my lover drinking and carousing. When I returned home my husband had cleaned the entire house, emptied the dishwasher, done the children's homework with them, bathed them, put them to bed, made me a three course meal and run me a bath surrounded by rose petals. But I went downstairs and he'd gone to bed and left a dirty butter knife in the sink. What should I do'?

And everybody on Mumsnet says LTB

AtomicDog · 08/05/2015 21:08

Missingmum- that would be 'totes amazeballs' surely?

BigRedBall · 08/05/2015 21:10

Oh sweetie darling I completely and totes agree with you on that. You are absolutely right. Bummer eh?!

Aermingers · 08/05/2015 21:13

Oh hang on. I've just realised I've just done exactly what I was complaining about! Haha.

FastWindow · 08/05/2015 21:19

cutted those totes are totes amazeballs hun.

SoleSource · 08/05/2015 21:20

Tote, I loved my pink pair.

CrapBag · 08/05/2015 22:45

We are giving you a taste of actual MN, not the fantasy MN you seem to have in your mind.

And generally, posters don't like text speak. It's annoying and most people won't bother to read it. Tough tits if you think it's awful to point that out.

I did originally think you may be male, now I think you are young, as in not an adult. It's not fair? Really?

Claralikessage · 08/05/2015 22:58

You have a point OP, mumsnetters do tend to take a one sided view and the male is often at fault.
Aerminger, your DH hits the nail on the head!So you will be ordered to LTB!

katese11 · 08/05/2015 23:02

"honest" is the first word that springs to mind re AIBU

BastardGoDarkly · 08/05/2015 23:10

bang Jeremy Kyle in McDonald's on a pile of fruit shoots Grin .

Freestripe · 09/05/2015 00:33

Why does the sex of the poster matter? Confused

timelyreminder · 09/05/2015 00:50
Biscuit
freelanceconundrum · 09/05/2015 05:30

I often wonder about the other side of the story. Especially in Relationships.

popalot · 09/05/2015 07:48

oh the irony of the poster who wants everyone to agree....

londonrach · 09/05/2015 08:01

I hate that word fake that some people use on some programs to decribe people. It says more about the person using the word fake in that context. The word fake should never been used to describe a person. Grrrr.

dangerrabbit · 09/05/2015 08:10

YABU

Mumsnet is the least fake place I know