DH has ruined Hen Do surprise

[jugglingmonkey]

DH completely let the cat out of the bag to my DSis last night. It's a one day activity, and he has given the game away. He tried to cover it up, but it was v obvious, and have had message from BIL to be to say that DSis knows and is a bit upset that the surprise is ruined.

I am fuming, this is classic DH. Over excited, not thinking... He would hit the f@cking roof if someone had done this to him or for a stag do he was planning. But all he said after they left was 'it's an accident and I don't want to feel bad about it'.

1. AIBU to be livid?
2. how do we fix? Does DH owe her an apology/extra surprise?

Of you stbsil was a good sort she would have pretended she hadn't heard and pretended to be suprised anyway.

Bil sounds tiresome.

Have you apologised to him for overreacting and deliberately making him feel like total shit over something that just absolutely does not matter very much?

No and I'm not going to! I've done nothing wrong except come on this board (wish I hadn't now, it gets a bit aggressive for my liking) for some advice and outside opinion! Which I got and I appreciate.

As a result, I'll speak to BIL and say no extra surprises needed, of course it'll be a fab day anyway. Will remind everyone that Sis said NOTHING to me, or DH. She probably does just want to forget it. It was BIL that waded in to tell me she was a bit upset (she doesn't know this).

DH apologised to me for being so uncaring about it (yes he'd had a few drinks and I do think was being gobby and not thinking). I had every right to be miffed that he spoilt three months of planning but I'm happy to move on now that he's apologised.

So many on here so quick to point the 'get a grip/grow up/bridezilla' finger. It's a bit sad.

I can't possibly judge unless you reveal the surprise. Go on. It's been blown now.

BTW whenever people talk excitedly about surprises, I can't help but think of .

No, that might out me.

But it is a one day thing, quite special, not like revealing the destination but none of the activities. It is the only activity.

I thought very bridezilla.

I got something wrong I thought my DS was doing this morning. I said sorry moved on..I don't buy him a gift , expect him to make a big deal of it or even bring it up again. I am not sure why it is a bride to be it is any different.

FGS, just cancel the whole thing, plan and organise something else.

At least that's you will tell her, then do exactly what you had planned. Surprise!

Yup, she does need to grow up a bit.

Tell your sis to grow the fuck up. She's (I assume) an adult. None died.

No one

Think you, your DS and BIL need to grow up!

You said you were "fuming". That's silly, of course you've been told to grow up.

Nobody has been aggressive either, most people just find it difficult to understand how this is such a terrible problem for you.