Sorry, FB related, I rarely post on FB myself but a friend updated her status to say she was standing on an overcrowded train with everyone pressed up against each other. She then realised the man behind her had an erection, so she turned around to double check this was the case, and he laughed, apologised and patted her on the back.
She gets all the usual "Ew grim" replies from her girl friends, and one of them suggests she phones British Transport Police. A male friend then comes on to say that he agrees it was grim, but that the man probably couldn't help it.
This is what I think; that unless we are talking about a 15 year old prone to reflex boners then I don't really buy the accidental boner thing and that he probably knew exactly what he was doing. In any case, if it was accidental, then you'd something about it - put your coat in the way or think of your dead dog or whatever. No matter how packed it is you'd find a way to move and you certainly wouldn't laugh about it.
Bloke comes back on to tell me that I am 'misguided', that it's not something you can turn on or off like a tap. He does agree that the way the guy dealt with it was creepy though. But that he can't be blamed for being sexually aroused.
He got my back up because I still felt like he was being a perv-apologist whereas he just thinks I don't understand the science of boners because I don't have a penis.
AIBU?