To just bin DSS's stuff?

[evmil]

DSS1(15), DSS2(14) and DSS3(12) all share a room. As it is shared the rule tends to be that it needs to be relatively clean and tidy. DSS2 is very tidy/organised and doesn't really like mess so DH tells them all they have to keep it clear, everything should be in its place etc. This usually works quite well and is quite tidy.

Anyway, it is currently a tip and has been for 4 days. Its all DSS1's stuff. Clothes, books, gadgets, you name it, he appears to have just dumped everything all over the place. I have DSS2 in my ear about it, asking me to tell DSS1 to tidy it up. I have and he's completely ignored me thus far (no surprises there!)

They have both just got home from school, i have reminded DSS1 to tidy his stuff up and he has just point blank refused to do it. Cue DSS2 having a massive strop because it a mess, he can't find anything, stuff is everywhere. His latest line to me was 'if you want it moved, do it yourself'.

AHH, i am so frigging fed up of the whole bloody thing!

WIBU to just shove everything in to black bag and dump them in front of him?

He refused to tidy up?

I would stay very calm and amicable, and tell him anything that's not tidied away within an hour will be confiscated.

I wouldn't bin it...but I would go in with a black bag and collect everything of his that he's refused to clean then lock the bag in a cupboard so he can't have it back. Go in every couple of days and repeat.

When he gets to the point that most of his stuff is missing, ask him if he'd like a bag to sort through and give it back.

teatowel - why should 2 other people have to risk injury to themselves to appease the other? What happens if expensive gadgets are broken because someone tripped over or stood on them?

There's a difference between being a bit untidy and spreading your stuff all over everywhere!