to have used the c word on MY OWN Facebook page?

[shattered77]

Apparently I am an embarrassment and offensive to have used the word "cunt"on my own Facebook page. AIBU to have done this? I know the word is divisive, but this comment is from someone who uses the word themselves. Do I need to edit what I write?

To be honest I don't recall my FB friends using that word. There's not a lot of swearing on my FB feed, rather more in rl.

If I used the c word I know my DH would have words...but so would I with him. Different people have different standards. I asked a friend to remove what I considered to be an offensive post once....most MN posters said I'd overreacted, but in my FB network it wasn't what I'd expect to see.

Horses for courses.

There are family members on there, but they're not the faint-hearted type. I would imagine that take it with a pinch of salt, and think, "gobby cow", or similar. From the talking therapy that is mumsnet, I've come to realise that my dh is just ashamed of me, embarrassed of me, it's no more than that. Probably why he had a go at me from anger and not a polite reminder about upsetting Aunty mo.

oh thats sad shattered, maybe its time to grab tge bull by the horns and have a serious conversation about what he expects of you and is it reasonable etc?

'I've got sensitive American family on FB who have been known to message us British family members and request that we don't use strong swearwords as it offends their sensitive disposition to scroll down their news feed and see "that word"... but we don't want to unfriend eachother it's a lovely way of staying close to family who live hundreds of miles away. We have toned it down a bit to be considerate to them, but we were a bit hmm when asked!'

I do, too, Mam, but if they 'requested' me to use only language they liked they would be gone from my FB or put on the Restricted list so they saw, but quite frankly I'd tell that they don't get to dictate how I post so are free to make whatever decisions they want to and best of luck.

Well shattered my husband, would hate it, if l used that word on my Facebook page too.
I can't imagine most partners would like it.

My friends contain American family, so l am ultra cautious l suppose?

I'm sorry to hear that this seems to be a just another general/put down from him though.
That must be tiring and hurtful.

I suspect OP that it isn't that the novelty of you having strong opinions has worn off, its that you have been unable to express them without using what to many people is an offensive and extreme word used for shock value. Debate is a great thing, freedom of expression is a great thing. Being able to make coherent arguments and express yourself eloquently without the need to use extremely offensive words loaded with hate and vitriol is a great thing.

I've come to realise that my dh is just ashamed of me, embarrassed of me, it's no more than that.

Would he still be embarrassed if you were in a room with all your FB friends saying it loudly to all & sundry?

I think you're being deliberately obtuse with regards to why many people wouldn't find it particularly acceptable...

Why do people keep referring to 'American' family as a reason not to swat on FB?

Obviously a generalisation, but do Americans not tend to be avid supporters of freedom of speech?

'Swear' not swat

demonchilde I know you can't generalise but maybe it's a cultural thing, sometimes it does seem that Americans are a little more likely to dislike coarse language than the average Brit? My American family are certainly more easy offended by bad language, tasteless jokes etc. than most British people I come across.

Really?

Do they avoid most of their own countries films then?

Very ironic given that many British swear words/ phrases originated across the pond.

I think most of your basic swear words (certainly fuck and cunt) are very old English words

Oh ok.

Maybe I was thinking more if phrases then ie, shut the fuck up. Arsehole! Motherfucker.

Now I think about it, i don't think I've ever hear an American saying cunt, twat or bollocks, it's all fuck this/ that/ you and so on.

So I'll shut up

demon
The average American tends to swear a lot less in general conversation. Much cleaner language.
Obviously, that is a massive generalisation too!
My in-laws are mid-western, never heard them cuss once!
My 'audience' would 'about' faint if l posted what l'd really like to say (sometimes)
During my years there, l stopped completely. My British relatives commented on it.
Makes me wonder what l used to be like.