AIBU to think if your well enough to drink then your well enough to have sex?

[Millymoosmolly]

Dp and I have been having issues with our sex life for over a year now! We basically haven't had sex at all other than two failed attempts which was basically no foreplay, just sticking it on for a few minutes before declaring it wasn't going to happen!

So we have discussed it at length and he agreed that he would stop being lazy and put some effort in, things actually got so bad that we nearly split up over it and we talked and agreed that we would make time not just for sex but to just get the intimacy back with kisses/cuddles etc.

So just after this convo he had a health issue that he is waiting for a hospital appointment for and since then he is basically using this as a excuse not to have sex! Yet he is still well enough to go about his normal life, go to work, gym, golf weekends and drink etc.

This weekend he got hammered out of his head Friday as we were at a wedding and spent the whole of Saturday and Sunday in bed hanging! Today was the first day he has felt better and I mentioned a early night to him but instead he has chosen to drink..... Now on 6th pint meaning sex isn't a option.

So AIBU to think if your well enough to drink like that then your well enough to put the effort in to get your sex life back on track?

[whois]

Sorry OP :-(

No advice but he's obviously upset/worried about something and could do with talking to the GP or a therapist. Easier said than done tho!