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AIBU to be gopping mad at this woman who posted my DCs party invite on social media!?

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VodkaVomitANDPoo · 03/05/2015 14:02

I made some daft invites to look like magazine covers for DCs upcoming birthday to use up a load of old photo paper.

I found it odd that I was getting text message acceptances and requests to bring siblings from mothers of children I had never heard of- when quizzed the same name came up and a mention of a Social Networking site.

It turns out one of the mother's of a child in Dc's class took a photo of the invite (which had date/time/venue)on her wall and posted it on FB under an event (wtf?)

I've hired the venue out privately and am panicking the party will be ruined, we will end up in the local paper because 200 kids turn up wanted to be entertained and fed.

I asked the mother directly and she denied it and I have no proof (screen shot etc) although I am STILL getting texts

DC will be heartbroken if I cancel I just do not know what to do for the best. The last thing I'd want it having to stand by the venue door for 3 hours instead of joining in a celebrating a birthday- It wouldn't be so bad if it weren't for the fact my child will be 7 but this is the first time we've ever held a party.

Any advice on how to handle would be greatly appreciated.

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NightsOfGethsemane · 09/05/2015 16:05

Just read the whole thread. My goodness, the sheer brass neck of some people is amazing!

I hope the party goes well today OP and that your DC has a fab time.

SunsetsAndStarlings · 09/05/2015 16:07

Yep, I can't wait for the party to be over so we can have an update. Was gopping a typo then? I thought maybe it was some kind of already established MN lingo that I just hadn't heard of. It's a cool word!

MissDemelzaCarne · 09/05/2015 16:08

I presumed the OP meant 'hopping' mad, as G is next to H on the keyboard.

DragonWithAGirlTattoo · 09/05/2015 16:12

Any news yet?

SinkyMalinks · 09/05/2015 16:29

Gopping's a word!

RedCrayons · 09/05/2015 16:31

Shamelessly marking place for party update!

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VodkaVomitANDPoo · 09/05/2015 16:37

Hello- we are all really happy. Grin

I cannot wait to plan another kids party- how cool are they. I met some lovely other parents and we snuck drinks in for them to keep them well oiled with their pizzas (which they loved)

DRAMA-
In all my nerves I forgot the bleeding cake that I had slaved over for two days, given the scheme of things and my nerves it's not so bad- DH had to whizz off to the local Xpress supermarket before the party and all he could get were croissants. Ha ha ha , we had a good laugh at the Danish pastries with the REALLY fancy candle that played happy birthday with a huge sparkler jizz effect (pound land, you're welcome)

DRAMA-
We had two children and mum turn up who we'd never seen before, I was ready for a Jeremy Kyle style showdown (I really wasn't except for in my head) She confirmed she'd seen the invite (but not replied)and decided to pop down on the off chance (because everyone does that Hmm) her little one was so upset to be told no party that my dh caved in and said they were welcome to join in. I'm not sure what to make of this lady, she seemed nice enough- she insisted on paying for her two children which she refused but then told her we'd give it to DC for a Bday treat, her children were really lovely and she told my sister some very interesting stuff and confirmed the supposed "joint" party- my sister put her straight. We had such a brilliant time at the venue and the staff looked after us so well.

We drove back home the scenic route joking that we'd stop in every park and throw Danish Pastries at the ducks- (we didnt really it was just a for fun)

DC missed his little mate but seemed fine and loved the day, I'm not worried about the coming weeks but I am wary now someone mentioned bullying.
Thanks for your help.
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ThumbWitchesAbroad · 09/05/2015 16:37

Gopping is a word, yes, and I thought it was what the OP had meant to use for days; but then I suddenly thought "oh she meant Hopping, didn't she"

Doesn't matter. Gopping mad still works.

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VodkaVomitANDPoo · 09/05/2015 16:38

OH!

Most importantly "Gopping" was not a typo.
My grandFather said it all the time as does my dad, it means ugly or really bad. I don't know if it's just a family word- we have lots I use that my friends laugh at.

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PuppyMonkey · 09/05/2015 16:41

Gopping means very ugly round where I live - East Midlands.

Late to all this but glad the party went well. Smile

ThumbWitchesAbroad · 09/05/2015 16:41

Oops, xpost!

HOw far away from the venue do you live then, obviously too far to go back home for the cake! Shame but glad everything else went so well.
Yes, people do sometimes fail to RSVP and then still turn up - it's a bit annoying!
Glad that it was only the one though, and glad your sister had a chance to put your side of the story, maybe it will be circulated!

FB crazymadwoman is going to be mad as a box of frogs when she finds out that this random woman was let in though... Grin

PuppyMonkey · 09/05/2015 16:42

Cross post op!

NightsOfGethsemane · 09/05/2015 16:42

Glad it all went well OP.

TheMaddHugger · 09/05/2015 16:43

I am sure I speak for all of us here.

We NEED that Gossip, lady told Sis about Wink

ThumbWitchesAbroad · 09/05/2015 16:44

Oh yes, if you can tell us the rest of the "interesting stuff" without causing any further risk of outing yourself, please do!

AspieAndNT · 09/05/2015 16:47

she told my sister some very interesting stuff Please do share!!!!

Andylion · 09/05/2015 16:49

Gopping is a word? Shock I will now wait for someone to piss me off so I can say that I am gopping mad. I'm glad the day went well. Vodka. Allowing the mum and two Cs you'd never seen before will bring you good karma.

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VodkaVomitANDPoo · 09/05/2015 16:50

MaddHugger it was SO hard to get too much out of my sister as we all left in such a hurry and I felt like I was handing out bags of plastic cack party bags for hours! She's text me some stuff- apparently she gets her own way ALOT and was the Bridezilla to end all Bridezillas. However, you've got to be smart haven't you. This lady is HER friend, not mine. I don't know her from Adam. She was very nice as were the two kids but frankly she could have been a stealthy,shit-stirring hoofwank.

Jesus, I'm turning all paranoid like Jason Bourne.

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YouTheCat · 09/05/2015 16:53

I think it was really nice of you to let the other woman and her kids in. Shows you in a really good light.

Did the mystery woman not attend the picnic beforehand though?

RandomMess · 09/05/2015 16:55

I wonder if this lady is secretly very glad to see her "friend" has met her match...

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VodkaVomitANDPoo · 09/05/2015 16:57

YouTheCat- no idea as nothing was mentioned, It was awkward for about ten minutes then the children all had such a good time and all the parents seem to mingle and were allowed to have a go also. We were really lucky.

No , the lady really didn't say MUCH. I'm Hmm

It's all ended so much better than I'd imagined. Wine O clock soon, with MASSES of cake.

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VodkaVomitANDPoo · 09/05/2015 16:58

DH let them in, not me. DH is a lovely guy. A big softie.

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LindyHemming · 09/05/2015 16:58

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RedCrayons · 09/05/2015 16:59

Most people would have caved in the face of a crying child. At least she offered to pay though.

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VodkaVomitANDPoo · 09/05/2015 17:00

Hoofwank is one of my Nana's beauts.

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