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AIBU?

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to call SS?

16 replies

CharleyFarleyy · 01/05/2015 18:06

Im unsure whether calling would be the right thing to do, would love other people opinions on this...

Basically my sister has gotton in touch with an estranged family member that we have not been in contact with for years. This family member "paula" was cut off from the family due to drug use and her abusive partner (hard drugs and the partner was not only abusive to her but also to members of our family abd we tried many many many times to help her). Upon getting back in touch with her my sister has found that she is still with said partner, now has 6 children but one has been taken off her by SS. There are no carpets, wallpaper or curtains/blinds at all in the house, all 5 kids share one single bed and evidence of drug use in the house.

AIBU to call SS? would there be any point in calling? would she already be on there radar do you think?

OP posts:

TheoriginalLEM · 01/05/2015 18:10

if she already has one child in care she will definitely be on the radar.

redexpat · 01/05/2015 18:11

Has your sister seen the house first hand? If so then yes she should call. They are almost certainly known to ss but the situation could have changed since her last meeting with ss.

ditavonteesed · 01/05/2015 18:11

she will probably be on the radar, but I would still call, its all pieces of a jigsaw and the more people who look out for every child in the world the safer they are.

ilovechristmas1 · 01/05/2015 18:12

report

Welshmaenad · 01/05/2015 18:14

They will be on the radar but it's worth contacting them with concerns if these conditions have been seen first hand.

CloserToFiftyThanTwenty · 01/05/2015 18:15

Agree with others - report

base9 · 01/05/2015 18:17

If your sister has seen what you described: yes, she should report that.

Thetreeonthemountaintop · 01/05/2015 18:26

She should definitely report. If this family member has moved about SS may have lost track of her. Or she may have got 'lost' in the system. Definitely report.

Babymamaroon · 01/05/2015 18:46

One single bed for 5 children is downright neglect. Please follow your instinct OP and call both SS and the NSPCC. Those poor children need you to be their voice.

MsAspreyDiamonds · 01/05/2015 18:54

Yes report it, it's better that SS receives a duplicate report than none made at all iyswim.

cashewnutty · 01/05/2015 19:04

I am a SW and i would say she should pass on her concerns. Social workers don't have crystal balls and need hard information to work with.

ghostspirit · 01/05/2015 20:08

yes i would report. but how do 5 children fit in a single bed? and if the house/sleeping arrangements are as said then maybe ss have not been about for a while

CupidStuntSurvivor · 01/05/2015 20:18

It's worth a duplicate report if it could keep the children safe.

WhataMistakeaToMakea · 01/05/2015 20:21

Another sw here telling you/her to report. If it's nothing then nothing will happen. If it's something then they can help. If it's already known then it doesn't hurt to have another record of concern.

GobbolinoCat · 01/05/2015 20:24

can I ask why you wouldn't call? what about the things in your OP make it OK?

I would call like a flash. 5 dc in one single bed

AngelWings74 · 01/05/2015 21:12

I'm surprised you are asking this, those children need somebody to look out for them! You must report. Yes maybe they are on radar but I would be surprised that a social worker would have left them in that home with evidence of drug use and neglect!!

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