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AIBU?

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AIBU to refuse to let him stay?

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OneStepOneStumble · 30/04/2015 19:01

One of my friends tenancy ends this week during his final university exams, so he hasn't got a flat to go to and his only other option is to move back home with his parents (about 45 mins outside the city). He's told me and DP that he's not getting on with them and really wants to avoid it if he can. He then asked if he could stay with us for 10 days...

AIBU to say no, despite his sob story, due to the fact me and DP live in a tiny 1 bed flat, barely big enough for two. My mental health hasn't been fantastic and I really need to have space to relax after work away from people. And my job itself has been quite stressful recently so I really don't want to come home and be "working" at entertaining someone - especially in their stress with final year exams.

I feel like I can't really refuse him but I know the next 10 days will be miserable if I say yes. If I can how can I refuse politely? I feel like such a horrible person!

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expatinscotland · 02/05/2015 13:14

Good on you!

Don't offer even one night anymore, OP. He's a pisstaker.

What a twat.

Has he payed you the money back?

AyeAmarok · 02/05/2015 13:50

Oh he's a cheeky fucker! The brass neck of him Shock

OneStepOneStumble · 02/05/2015 14:07

He did pay it back eventually - but its more the fact he keeps asking. And DP is too silly nice to say no usually.

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expatinscotland · 02/05/2015 14:22

The pair of you need to grow a backbone. Seriously.

ScrambedEggAndToast · 02/05/2015 14:44

You're right to say no. If it's only for 10 days, he could probably get a cheap room at a Premier Inn if he's that desperate to avoid staying with them.

OneStepOneStumble · 03/05/2015 08:25

Working on it expat !

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Fluffycloudland77 · 03/05/2015 10:24

I'm so glad you said no. He's being flakey and you were enabling it by saying yes to him previously.

Good for you!.

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