Sending wedding invitations to guests who will likely be breastfeeding

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Apologies for a wedding related question, but I have searched threads on here and not come up with an answer. We are getting married this summer and there will be some day guests with babies. One with a 2week old, another with a 10 week old and another 12 week old (if all due dates go to plan) Am I right to understand that we must invite the baby along? (for clarity I think we must but I want to check)

Is it a given that nursing mothers expect their baby to be invited?
Given that all of these guests will be travelling over 200 miles to the wedding. In fact 2 are coming from overseas but grandparents are in the UK, so they will be able to leave them with their grandparents (total assumption here) but they will still realistically not be with baby for a minimum of 30 hours.

Also regarding evening guests, we have one with a 16 month old coming from overseas who has no relatives in the UK, I am sure we must invite their child? We have another 2 guests with babies under 6 months (assume still breastfeeding), I guess we really should invite them. But then what will the people with 11 months old think? Oh I am so confused and want everyone to come and everyone to be happy but we were also quite set on no children apart from nieces and nephews. For context the guest list is running at 270 without babies (we originally wanted 130 day and extra 50 at night, but my mother has run away with the guest list and is filling it up like the electoral roll)

Are you channelling Chaos, Shadowfire?

Can't imagine those with the 2 week old will turn up

Just checking, but the two from overseas, how young are their babies? Because they will have a nightmare trying to get passports and flights in time if they are the ones with newborns!!!

Sorry!

On phone and it's all gone a bit overenthusiastic on me

Looserella - I was daft enough that I probably WOULD have attended a wedding 2 weeks after giving birth! I certainly did lots that I look back on and say to myself 'What were you thinking you daft twit??!!'

Is it you that doesn't want children, or your mum? Do you actually know most of these 270 people? The thing is, if you put most of your friends in the impossible position of not being able to attend, will you end up with a wedding full of guests who are friends of your mums? That does not sound fun!

I couldn't express, so wouldn't have been able to come. Be prepared for people to decline if you don't invite their babies.

Mrs Dumbledore and WriterWannabe have it down to a T.

If it were me, and my parents were inviting the world and it's aunt, I'd just add in all the kids too. I love kids at a wedding - yes they can be a bit noisy but they really liven up the dancing in the evening. They're a huge ice breaker as parents get dragged onto the dancefloor immediately the first dance is done.

As a parent, I've had my kids at weddings as babe in arms and walking toddlers-4 yrs old. I'd cheerfully leave my kids at home but at £10 per hour unless you've got a willing grandparent nearby to the venue it makes most weddings prohibitively expensive to attend. Add in outfit, overnight hotel, travel and present, before you deal with the emotional leaving my baby stuff. [I'm over that now ]