to ask: what makes you want to hoist up your judgey pants?

[butterflyballs]

For me, it's the ignorance on vaccinations and the belief that measles is just a regular childhood disease. Makes me want to beat people with a large stick.

It's ineffectual if it's wheeled out on a thread with the 'Ahem' instead of tackling the asshats who go Oh, playing the SN card!.

Do I mean ineffectual? Perhaps I mean an insult to the intelligence. Possibly both.

Arsenic! How am I supposed to sleep at night now with this quandary to deal with?

Maybe I should take my neighbours stance of not marking my bins at all. Kind of reliant on everyone else marking theirs though, the rebels.

Asshat is a great word

Mango

I suppose if one were talented enough, trompe d'oeil (sp?) number stickers could be painted on?

Anything's better than those bloody kitten stickers.

ours is painted on.
we had paint.....

ours is also painted on, the little fuckers cant scratch it off!

Did you paint a Whimsical Kitten reaching up with its paws?

I reported shrunken's post about 'playing the sn card', asking whether it would have been acceptable if she had said about people 'playing the race card' - I don't think it would have been deemed acceptable by MNHQ, so am a little disappointed to see that they have just posted a link to the This Is My Child campaign.

The campaign does seem to have lacked any momentum. How many people have read the 'mythbusters', for example - it's all very well to link on a thread like this, but the people that roll their eyes at the mere mention of special needs aren't going to bother reading it, they will just post some sarcastic shite and go about their vacuous way.

Maybe I should take my neighbours stance of not marking my bins at all. Kind of reliant on everyone else marking theirs though, the rebels.

I've got this magnificent seven style image in my head now of everyone standing kerbside tensely eyeing each other to see who marks their bins

People who look at my children enjoying a varied extra curricular programme and then say:
"I'd love my dd to be able to do all that but it's so expensive" yet they smoke/drink/go out clubbing every weekend.

can't believe MNHQ are brushing off the ablism in this thread! at least we know who they are for future use, eh?

am I using my card if I say that whilst able bodied people using the accessible toilet doesn't bother me too much, when they leave the place in a mess and I have to clean up before I can use it does? Once waited ages to go in for mum, nan and three kids to come out. Not even joking. that did annoy me! As a crutches user standing that long is painful.

We had Sylvester, sweetie pie, and taz on our bin. Then the fuckers at the council decided to replace all of them with smaller bins. Our bin now has our house number scrawled on in black marker pen. They also replaced our blue bin at the same time ...bye bye bugs bunny :(

I've only skimmed the thread and I see it's full of the usual shite about 'playing the sn card'.

Some really cuntish remarks re: children with special needs on this thread.

But then, given that I work in a primary school and we have some children with complex emotional needs and I've heard TAs talking about not believing the issues and that one girl 'needs a good smack', I shouldn't be surprised at some of the remarks here.

Ignorance and bragging about vile opinions on the internet isn't clever, it's fucking cowardly.

People who live in squalor and say 'there are so many more important and interesting things to do than clean, read a book, do crafts with the kids etc'. Live how you want, I don't care at all. You really don't have to justify it to anyone but don't suggest that people that can be arsed to clean up are somehow missing out on the 'important' things in life.

Parents who say 'as a Mother I hate child abusers'. Being a parent doesn't mean you have some sort of extra insight into how horrific it is. (disclaimer - when I worked with offenders in MH I usually ended up with the child abusers on my caseload because the parents in the team got to opt out of their professional responsibility of showing unconditional positive regard by saying 'oh I wouldn't be able to put my personal feelings aside which wouldn't be good for the service user'). Good job I was able to be professional then!.

Parents who snark on about other people's kids who are too fat, when either 1) they themselves have always had ready access to and knowledge of healthy foods and/or lived in a culture where it's less of an issue (usually translates as "are middle class"), or 2) they happen to have the types of kids who self-regulate their eating and so are naturally skinny.

Beaver if that comment was aimed at me, the 3 children I'm thinking of come from perfectly nice MC homes, with parents who have ready access to healthy foods. There is no reason for these girls to be fat except for eating too much. All 3 were naturally skinny as 3 y olds.

We're really fortunate. My daughter had a bad day, staff get hit and no work gets done. The teacher asks if she's not slept well and is her wobbly tooth stressing her. They've even said they'll talk to the preschool about her sister waking up early as she's the cause of their bad days.

Most children don't behave like that for no reason, even my daughter hates she loses her cool. The reason people mention it is that it's not normal behaviour! far too many idiots think they need a good smack. far too many professionals don't understand. so here, where there are parents who understand you'll get some sympathy! If you've ever had to fight to get help you'd understand! my daughter had to stay in preschool, her YR teachers neglected her and now in Y1 in a new school we're finally getting help to catch up but it's been 3 years in the making. My Y4 daughter has only had help since she moved to this school.

I judged the utter twats who brought their two under 5 year olds and baby (looked about 6/9 months) to an evening screening of the new Avengers film. And quite a few others who brought pre-schoolers too. They were too young to follow the plot, so every few seconds there were shouts of 'look, mummy, Hulk' and 'who is that man?' And the constant trips to the toilet.

They didn't seem to be there with older siblings and the film is too violent for them.

When my kids were too young for the cinema, I had to wait for the dvd to come out or get a babysitter.

People who assume that because my DD is big for her age, she must be fed a lot of junk food.

People who judge the fact that she's normally barefoot while we're out she's 1 and doesn't understand me asking her to keep them on

Benefits bashers.

Equally, benefits cheats.

People who demonise smokers who smoke outside and away from children.

People with large facial blackheads.

People who state opinion as fact.

'Freemen of the land' who are under the impression they can't be prosecuted for anything as they've not 'acknowledged the name on their birth certificate as their own' or something equally fecking stupid

Strangers who hear DD babbling 'dadadadada' and start telling her they're sure her absent father will be there when she gets home.

I'm not entirely convinced the campaign has been totally useless.

My most able child with ASD does loads of the things on this thread he's also rather more comunity visible than my other kids as he is out and about more.

He arrives at school late every day and leaves early (planned to cater for his needs)
He wears onesies all the time unless he escapes just in pants
He wears large shades everywhere inc indoors
He has what looks like oversized headphones
He is rude (or appears to be) every time he opens his mouth
He sits in the priority seat on the bus.

Unless he chooses to tell you,you would have no clue why.

I know why but the only people I really judge are the parents of the type of teenage girls who actually stood in front of him in a shop yesterday pointing and laughing at him and openly jeering at him and being quite precise and loud about why they were.

I have thanked the shop keeper who challenged them and told me that she's a mumsnetter who had learnt a little about children with differences from the campaign and some of the contributions provided by other mumsnetters.

People with large facial blackheads???!

People texting whilst in the cinema so the whole audience can see the light from the phone

OK maybe I misunderstood, and I apologise if I did, but I think the word crappy seemed nasty to me, and liable to misinterpretation if I don't know your backstory, which I don't (remember this thread is on a general forum here, not SN, so i have no idea what angle you are coming from).

I would agree there does not seem to have been as much impact from that campaign as one might have hoped, and would love to see more efective campaigning along these lines. (I am involved in another SN-related campaigning group, so have been focusing on that).

Women putting make up on in cars, I'm actually surprised at the amount of people I see doing this.

People driving like dicks and when they speed past you they have kids in the car

I think this thread,which I imagine was intended to be a lighthearted fun-poke at peoples "judginess" as oppose to real predjudice, ended up way off track!