aibu to hate seeing kids sitting in shopping trollies?

[mrsfuzzy]

shoes that have walked in god knows what and in the trolley where food goes, never thought about it until i saw a trolley with mud in it at local supermarket !

If I just need a few bits I have three choices

1. Take basket. Let 18mo DS walk. It's like herding cats and he needs carrying after 5 mins (late walker). He also gets in people's way.
2. Get giant trolley and put him in the seat. Put 6 items in bottom of trolley
3. Get small trolley and sit him in it. Only let him hold the bread if he doesn't lick it.

I have a 2.5 yr old who quite often likes to run around the supermarket and its sometimes the only place she'll sit, so I put her there for ease of shopping!

Lost, that's a really easy choice. You take the full-sized trolley

Why wouldn't you put him in the seat of the big trolley - I don't understand?

Toddlers sitting in shallow trolleys... Honestly gives me the standby anxious javelin fanjo. Gravity, force, massive heads...

Stabby

I've never sat any of my dc into the trolley. It's dangerous. It'll tip and they'll fall and be injured. It's dangerous.

I've had small age gaps and bigger ones and never put my dc in the trolley part. I've walked to the shops with a baby in a sling and under 2yr old, gone on a bus and walked with dc, used a single buggy, a double buggy, a car... still never seen the need to put dc in the actual trolley part. I don't get it- why would you do that? Absolutely no need Unless you have someone to push another trolley to put shopping in?

My youngest dc would eat the food in there if I sat them in the main bit- and I need the space, to put the shopping? how can you get food shopping with a child in the space the shopping goes, sitting on eggs, crushing bread, messing with stuff...

I take a buggy- and carry a basket- for bits. Or used to fold the buggy up and put that in the trolley- dc in the seat. OR- two baskets, one on buggy, one carried- and weekly shop done like that. Really, really wasn't difficult.

I'm a great believer in reins for small children- especially in shops- my oldest was a runner when he felt the need and reins were essential, for my sanity and his safety. And also, online shopping for big weekly shops. But I have done it on foot, on buses etc and never put the dc in the actual trolley part- or even considered it- didn't used to see it either until a few years ago. Considering most shopping trolleys have seats I could fit my 8yr old in, I don't see why- harder to lift into the trolley part than the seat. I shudder to think what my ds1 would have done if allowed to sit in the trolley (besides the seats- with seat belts- which have been around a long time, because he's 16 this year!). I also don't let them eat in shops though either...

My 8 year old wouldn't fit in the seat of a standard trolley. He is also 10kg over the weight limit. I got told off in one shop for putting him in when he was 6.

DD is just turned 3. She's very tall & in proportion for her height, many people assume she's about 5. She still (just) fits in the trolley seats. Bloody good job as she's a bolter, escape artist, nosy as hell and likes her fruit - she whipped some off the display the other day, thank goodness it was something she didn't know how to peel. We are going to need to use the reins on her for a while yet. Since she was very young, people have always looked at me like I'm a slacker mum who doesn't discipline her child, I'm not; my child is a lot younger than they assume.

For all the people who think that it would be safer for children to just stay at home - you do realise that far, far, far more accidents occur in the home than in shopping trolleys, right?

As for this: It is lazy to place your child in the food area "for fun"
Children can be taught from an early age that that is where the food/products go.

Really? Because if you don't teach them that from an early age then as adults they'll just go to the supermarket and climb into the trolley and wonder what went wrong? Or they'll stand around holding a handful of onions and a pack of tomatoes and weeping because they've run out of hands to hold stuff?

It's not lazy - I don't put my kids into the trolley to save myself any hassle. In fact, it's far more likely to save YOU hassle because good luck navigating your trolley around my wandering kids if they're not in there (and yes I can control them and they do walk next to the trolley, but kids just aren't as 'aware' as adults about their surroundings. I also let my children ride on the end of the trolley, by the way (standing on the bar and holding on) and contrary to popular opinion I can remember being both in and on the trolley in my dim and distant youth. It was fun. I'm glad my kids get to do something a bit fun during a boring regular excursion. I don't care if you glare at me - nobody ever has, but if it happened I'd feel sorry for you being so sour and then I'd carry on with enjoying my life! It has never occurred to me to worry about germs in the trolley or even on the handle! How has the human race survived thus far?

Quoting me there bluedressing
I think you need to relax.
Why so defensive?
I don't see why one wouldn't use a trolley correctly?
Sour? Sorry, no. I really wouldn't be that invested in you/your kids.
I also would be unaware of your personal situation, and would try not to judge.

Feminine I don't see why someone would be so incredibly judgemental about something that doesn't matter.
Either you don't have children or you just don't remember what it is like to have children and be trying to get the shopping done without causing too much drama for other customers. Quite nasty of you to try and suggest that finding it difficult to control an excited toddler is bad parenting.

guy no sorry.
Not getting your point at all.
I have three children. Youngest is only six, so l think remember what shopping is like.
My opinion is (baring learning differences) children who can walk, should learn to conduct themselves age appropriately when shopping.
It has to start sometime.
What we should be mindful about is letting parents discipline without the snide looks.
I think half of the problems stem from parents being too scared to chastise when out.

And actually, l didn't say anything about bad parenting.
I said it was lazy
However, it is obviously the prerogative if others to disagree.
I don't get the defensive response.
You think it is cool.
I don't.

Anyone read A Child inTime? Enough to make anyone scared enough to put children in trolleys!

Then your a fool.

*you're

guy l have reported you.
You have made a personal attack.
Plus, I think you sound a little over invested.

When she was 6, my dd was sitting on the front of a shopping trolley, gripping the metal mesh on either side. When we stopped suddenly she fell off the front, one of her fingers caught in the metalwork. Her finger was dislocated & also fractured across the knuckle. She had to have surgery to pin it, considerable pain fir a few weeks and a probably permanent enlarged knuckle on her ring finger.

I too hate seeing little kids sitting in trolleys now!

YABU OP. Aside from the people who are worried about kids injuring themselves, which sentiment is fair enough although bluedressinggown may have a point, nobody on this thread who agrees with you has sounded anything other than ridiculous.

Sure. But you can die in the shower too if you're unlucky. Kids are generally fine in the trolley.

Re: dirt, just remember all the birds, foxes and rats in the car park.

Fair enough. I think you are nasty and judgemental and I said so.

Bizarre to suggest I've been oversensitive when you say that calling you a fool is a personal attack.

Don't care either way..
I shove my ds 7 in the trolley as he loves it and I get round quicker. Ds 2 goes in the seat and will go in the main part one hes too big for that..
I have way more to worry about than kids in trollies

I don't allow standing though so ds has to sit down and sit still