Maybe I have just had bad experiences but I have decided that it just isn't worth having friendships with other mums from school anymore.
I have 3 DCs and there have been various things over the years at school that have made me think that close friendships with other mums just are not worth the hassle, but now there is a big thing and it's made me decide once and for all.
Youngest child is year 2. About a month after he had started in reception, the mum of another child in his class decided that she didn't like me due to the fact that my son had started to play with a friend of her son. She is a very loud, very pushy and intimidating, and goes around from person to person at school collection times bitching and gossiping. I think she is the kind of person that people don't like but because she is basically a bully they all just go along with things.
As a result of her not liking me, a lot of other mums have never really had much to do with me. If I chat to any of them they are quite offhand with me and act like they're scared to have too much to do with me. They are all very friendly with this other mum though. At parties they all sit with her. She is rude and intimidating to the teachers but they all let her get away with her behaviour, and she is always in the school helping out at things, and on the PTA, so I cannot help out at any of those things as she'll be unpleasant.
I eventually became friends with a group of 5 other mums that she didn't seem to have much to do with, and they all know about how she doesn't like me as she has made no secret of this when speaking to them, and also because I've told them about her behaviour towards me. However she has now started to try to become best friends with them too. I have always stood with them at school collection and now most days she is there with them before I get there, and if I stand with them she starts making comments about me or about there being a 'funny smell' where I am standing. No one says anything to her, they just all smile. She has also barged into me several times when I've been standing with my friends at pick up, to push me out the way to stand with them all. And now I've found that she is having a big coffee morning next week and has invited all my friends, plus loads of other mums.
So anyway, I have decided that it just isn't worth the hassle being friends with any mums from school. I will still be polite to everyone and have DS's friends round to play, but I'm not going to pursue friendships any longer at the school. Luckily I have lovely friends that I've known for ages, as well as lovely work colleagues that I often socialise with.
Does anyone else not bother making friends with other school mums?
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To think that friendships with other mums from school just aren't worth it?
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FrameMe · 19/04/2015 12:01
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