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Note to Jeremy Clarkson

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Marymaymay · 19/04/2015 09:50

Note to Jeremy Clarkson - I have just checked with my husband who was diagnosed with cancer age 27 and told he had a 50/50 chance of living if he had ever punched someone in the face because of this. The answer was no.

I asked him again if following the operation and subsequent treatment which left him unable to walk long distances or up and down stairs, surf, run or do most of the physical things that he loved so much had ever made him want to punch someone in the face. He said no.

I then asked him if the subsequent stays in hospital due to infection and ongoing treatment now, 8 years later plus the disfigurement of his leg from where a tumour the size if a rugby ball was removed have ever made him even think about punching someone in the face. Again the answer was no.

I finally asked him if having to go through and pay for fertility treatment for a longed for child because of his cancer has made him ever want to punch someone in the face. I'm sure you can guess the answer.

So Jeremy, please think twice before using cancer as an excuse for your boorish, loutish behaviour.

There are people all over the world suffering from a cancer diagnosis who have never even considered punching someone in the face over a cold meat platter. Man up.

OP posts:
Flyinggeese21 · 19/04/2015 10:14

I agree Ptolomy's... I suspect this post is a result of reading a headline in maybe the Daily Mail. Jeremy Clarkkson was not excusing his behaviour. He's said 'everyone has stressful days, and they manage to cope better than I had.’

NewLeaflet · 19/04/2015 10:16

I think it says something fairly negative about a person who uses this 'a similar Bad Thing happened to me and I didn't do xyz' as if theirs is the only acceptable reaction.

That would make some kind of sense if the xyz was one of a variety of acceptable reactions, then xyz is punching someone it doesn't work as punching someone doesn't come in to a range of acceptable reactions.

MarwoodsMate · 19/04/2015 10:16

Yabu. He isn't your husband, why should he react in the same way as him? Why don't you take off your judgy pants and remember he is a human being? Some of the posts on here are vile. Think some people should consider winding their neck in tbh. I am not a JC fan at all either so no axe to grind here.

NewLeaflet · 19/04/2015 10:16

oops, "when" xyz is punching someone...

fattymcfatfat · 19/04/2015 10:18

I had a cancer scare last year. I had a newborn daughter and I wanted to punch people. I didn't but I wanted to. I was just so angry that after having this beautiful baby it could all be ripped away from me. I know that I am very lucky as I got the all clear but the fear of it tore me apart so I do understand his feelings. not for one minute saying he was right to do that, but people react differently to situations

Original poster
Marymaymay · 19/04/2015 10:18

I promise you I don't read the Daily Mail!

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weebarra · 19/04/2015 10:19

Tbh, my post wasn't about JC. I have no interest in him at all. It was pointing out that being in a bad place is no excuse for behaving badly. I feel sorry for anyone who has a cancer scare, but there was no punching in my chemo suite from anyone.

msrisotto · 19/04/2015 10:20

Is bitching about celebrities a problem? On MN??

chocolatelife · 19/04/2015 10:20

actually I think he was drunk, but that excuse wont wash so easily

RedToothBrush · 19/04/2015 10:21

He behaved like an utter twat.

However its become a witchhunt and an excuse to verbally punch Clarkson at every opportunity. Its boring and its pathetic in its own right.

At least he has said he regrets it and admits he was in the wrong. I can think of others who wouldn't.

Its over and done with. Move on and find someone else to try and knock off their pedestal.

chocolatelife · 19/04/2015 10:23

We dont watch the show in my house - yawnsville. I quite like James May's programmes,
I think DH reads JC's The Sun Comments though and he was kept pretty tight lipped about the whole Fracas and subsequent firing.

chocolatelife · 19/04/2015 10:23

Where has it become a Witchhunt?

LynetteScavo · 19/04/2015 10:26

He punched someone. He lost his job.

Let's move on.

I suspect the reason behind the punch was because he was drunk. I've never hit anyone or wanted to hit anyone while drunk, but that's irrelevant.

And he's hardly financially hard up, despite losing his job.

PtolemysNeedle · 19/04/2015 10:27

It's a witch hunt when someone starts a thread with the sole purpose of criticising someone else.

There is nothing else to be achieved from the OP other than people getting cheap enjoyment out of slagging off a celebrity.

Kampeki · 19/04/2015 10:29

Don't kick a guy when he is down.

I think a metaphorical kicking is entirely justifiable, under the circumstances. Physically punching your colleague was not.

chocolatelife · 19/04/2015 10:30

It's a witch hunt when someone starts a thread with the sole purpose of criticising someone else.

JC put it out there Yet Again uk.tv.yahoo.com/clarksons-cancer-scare-top-gear-assault-015621250.html?vp=1

by writing about.
We have every right to discuss it,
No way is this considered a Witch hunt

derxa · 19/04/2015 10:30

This is AIBU. No OP YANBU . For those of us who have actually been diagnosed with cancer or have loved ones diagnosed with cancer, JC's whining self pity is disgusting.

MarwoodsMate · 19/04/2015 10:31

What ptolemy said.

chickenfuckingpox · 19/04/2015 10:31

Here chocolatelife basically he admits its no excuse other people cope better etc but still the abuse goes on by people who celebrate not having him on tv anymore well why are you raising his profile by repeat posts about him then everyone can make mistakes repeatedly if they like its callled being human

chocolatelife · 19/04/2015 10:31

JC referred to it in Sunday Times

Sparklingbrook · 19/04/2015 10:32

When I saw it the news this morning I knew there would be an AIBU, and that people would be queuing up to say he's a twat/nob/arse whatever.

There has been so many JC threads since the news first broke and they do tend to follow the same pattern.

The new story isn't about anyone who themselves or relatives have been diagnosed with cancer. It's about JC and whatever he was dealing with as an individual. We are not all the same.

cleanmyhouse · 19/04/2015 10:33

Witch hunt my arse.

SuburbanRhonda · 19/04/2015 10:34

He has raised his own profile about it, chicken.

Had he kept quiet on such a personal matter rather than sharing the story in the national press, this thread wouldn't exist.

XiCi · 19/04/2015 10:36

Completely agree with Ptolomys. There is just no need for this thread. Just because your husband reacts in a certain way doesn't mean every other person in the world will.

chickenfuckingpox · 19/04/2015 10:36

Face facts it's getting boring going on and on about it all it was a thirty second assault apparently are we all going to have to go over ir again and again forever and ever taking offence to everything he says no matter what he actually says

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