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AIBU?

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Original poster

To not offer to pick colleague up?

52 replies

endofmay · 11/04/2015 10:20

Our job is car based. Colleague doesn't drive.

Normally I do pick people up from their home or close to home - but she lives ten minutes away from me. We finish our shift near to where I live. If I drop her off and pick her up, I'm adding twenty minutes to my shift.

AIBU to not offer to pick her up? I feel a bit mean.

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StillStayingClassySanDiego · 11/04/2015 10:27

So have you been driving her already?

If it's car based and she doesn't drive it's a bit of a tit to actually do the job!

ilovesooty · 11/04/2015 10:27

No I don't think you're at all unreasonable.

Bragadocia · 11/04/2015 10:29

Does the work that you do mean this colleague is in the car next to you for the bulk of the working day?

StillStayingClassySanDiego · 11/04/2015 10:29

How has she been getting around beforehand?

jelliebelly · 11/04/2015 10:29

YANBU - how can you do a car based job without a car??

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endofmay · 11/04/2015 10:30

Thanks.

Still, yes I drive her around on the job. And early morning/last thing at night I definitely would. It's just my day is crammed full, and that twenty minutes well, means a lot :)

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endofmay · 11/04/2015 10:30

Brag for the shift, yes.

Jellie in fairness I agree but we're so short staffed the company have employed a lot of people who don't drive lately.

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SweetAndFullOfGrace · 11/04/2015 10:32

Colleague can learn to drive, perhaps? I think an extra 40 minutes a day (10 there, 10 back, morning and evening) is a lot and not something I would feel ok about asking anyone to do for me.

StillStayingClassySanDiego · 11/04/2015 10:33

Shell have to get a bike Bike

Satsumafairy · 11/04/2015 10:35

I'd be a bit fed up about that too. Especially if it was across a particularly busy part of town. Occasionally maybe but not every day.

Icimoi · 11/04/2015 10:36

Suggest she bikes or buses to your house?

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endofmay · 11/04/2015 10:36

It isn't always the same colleague. It just depends where they live and what shift we're on to be honest. If we're on a shift based in town A and colleague lives in town A, it obviously doesn't matter; it's when you're trailing out of your way.

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StillStayingClassySanDiego · 11/04/2015 10:37

*She'll

Bragadocia · 11/04/2015 10:37

That's really awkward. I can totally understand why you don't want to have to drive her home and pick her up - I wouldn't want to be obliged to either. Then again, if you have to spend lots of your day with this colleague, you want to have the best possible relationship with her. YANBU.

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endofmay · 11/04/2015 10:46

Yes, it can be difficult. I don't mind helping but I do find it tricky when I have a busy day squeezing lifts in as well.

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ragged · 11/04/2015 11:05

What is her alternative transport?

AlternativeTentacles · 11/04/2015 11:11

Yes, start saying 'if you can get to mine for 8 then we can leave on time. Cheers'.

YaTalkinToMe · 11/04/2015 11:13

Would it make a difference if you were paid for the travel time and mileage? If it would speak to the company?
Though thinking you may be a home carer, and I remember I did not get paid mileage or travel time at all back in the day...
Even if that is the case I would still speak to the company with my pre planned reasons for them paying both.

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endofmay · 11/04/2015 11:13

Ragged, people who don't drive would usually get to a pre established meeting place and then be picked up. I wouldn't ask her to get to mine as it's off the beaten track, what I would say is "meet you at McDonalds/outside the last call/at Tesco" is usually how it's done.

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endofmay · 11/04/2015 11:14

I would be paid mileage but in this instance it isn't the pay but the timing of it. I'm a home carer yes.

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expatinscotland · 11/04/2015 11:15

YANBU

ragged · 11/04/2015 11:16

The current arrangement sounds fine, then. As a home-carer you aren't paid enough to be a taxi service, too.

bananayellow · 11/04/2015 11:16

She needs to get to and from, yours.

I wouldn't drive an extra 20 minutes, twice a day. That's 40minutes of your day.

It's the companies and her problem to sort out, if they employ people in that situation.
Unless the company pay you for that 40 minutes, as well as wear and tear on your car.

reni1 · 11/04/2015 11:19

Yanbu. Favours are fine, but in everyday life she has to organise her own transport.

FishWithABicycle · 11/04/2015 11:22

YANBU. You are completely reasonable to keep your driving to a minimum, and any non driving colleagues should get themselves to the nearest convenient point on your route from your home to the shift start location so that your time isn't used for their convenience. You aren't a taxi service.