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AIBU?

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Original poster

To not offer to pick colleague up?

52 replies

endofmay · 11/04/2015 10:20

Our job is car based. Colleague doesn't drive.

Normally I do pick people up from their home or close to home - but she lives ten minutes away from me. We finish our shift near to where I live. If I drop her off and pick her up, I'm adding twenty minutes to my shift.

AIBU to not offer to pick her up? I feel a bit mean.

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ActingBusy · 11/04/2015 11:29

YANBU.

She needs to get to either get to yours, or get to a meeting point somewhere along your route.

If she's accepted a job with an unwritten/un-discussed expectation that she'll get picked up from her front door every day then that's her bad luck.

Drivingnovice · 11/04/2015 11:31

YANBU. You are completely reasonable to keep your driving to a minimum, and any non driving colleagues should get themselves to the nearest convenient point on your route from your home to the shift start location so that your time isn't used for their convenience. You aren't a taxi service.

This ^^

EhricLovesTheBhrothers · 11/04/2015 11:33

Transport to and from her place of work is her own responsibility, as it is for everyone. If that means she has to get to a convenient place for you to pick her up then she's fortunate, many people have to travel a lot further than that to get to work.

Original poster
endofmay · 11/04/2015 11:34

Thanks, glad you're all with me on this!

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rosedavo · 11/04/2015 11:38

Id say either she could pay you some furl money or ask your boss to pay travel expenses as its really your boss being a tit for hiring people who dont drive and expecting you to pick up the slack!

Original poster
endofmay · 11/04/2015 11:39

I know, but it isn't really the money today, it's the inconvenience.

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endofmay · 12/04/2015 13:53

She didn't show up for her shift.

Today she wants a lift again.

I'm still NBU am I? :)

just checking Grin

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championnibbler · 12/04/2015 14:05

YANBU.
she needs to sort herself out.
her transport is not your job.

AlternativeTentacles · 12/04/2015 14:06

I want brad pitt on my sofa but it doesn't mean it will ever happen. Not again anyway Wink

No, of course not. 'No can do love'.

rollonthesummer · 12/04/2015 14:12

Is she ringing or texting you asking you to come to her house? What are to replying? Is she new? If not, how has she worked before this?

expatinscotland · 12/04/2015 14:12

Nope, you are soooo not being unreasonable.

And no 'sorry' when you tell her, 'No. that doesn't work for me. You need to make your way to mine if you want a lift. I'm not a taxi service.'

Original poster
endofmay · 12/04/2015 14:19

Roll I've just said "will meet you at

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rollonthesummer · 12/04/2015 14:25

I'm not surprised you are cross. What about my questions?

Original poster
endofmay · 12/04/2015 14:27

She sent a text

I replied saying the above

She isn't new - been there 2 months

I've picked up in the past (I only work part time) but couldn't yesterday. Don't know what she does when she works with others.

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expatinscotland · 12/04/2015 15:08

She is not your problem. She is not your problem. She is not your problem.

She makes her way to yours or no lift.

Basilbrushestail · 12/04/2015 15:27

Ya totally not being unreasonable.

The nature of home care means huge amounts of driving around unpaid that add time to your working day. I would not voluntarily add 40 minutes to my day. I will take non drivers to their next call but won't pick up from home.

slithytove · 12/04/2015 15:29

It's another liftzilla in the making!

tulipbulbs · 12/04/2015 15:35

Have you checked your insurance? if you are carrying a passenger for work, do you need different insurance? Are you then functioning as a company car. I know someone who had to get taxi insurance because she was car pooling with 4 others.

ilovesooty · 12/04/2015 15:43

Just keep telling her to get herself to a predefined meeting point. Her transport issues are not your problem.

ThingummyJigg · 12/04/2015 15:47

Do you get paid more (on top of mileage) for doing the driving?

I would bloody hope so. Not only are you a carer, you are also a chauffeur. Good point about insurance too.

Basilbrushestail · 12/04/2015 15:56

I get mileage which covers my petrol costs but no travel time.

It's stipulated in my contract I have to have business insurance to work. Luckily it makes no real difference to the cost of my policy.

ThinkIveBeenHacked · 12/04/2015 16:01

If you dont have a Base you meet at the start/finish times then the best thing id suggest is meeting at the home of the first client and she travels with you throighout the day and you separate at the house of the final client of the day.

Marmaladedandelions · 12/04/2015 17:17

I can't believe she didn't turn up for her shift? Shock

BuggersMuddle · 12/04/2015 17:41

I don't think YABU at all.

I think your company ABVU by creating this situation.

Summerisle1 · 12/04/2015 17:47

YANBU. Anyone attempting to do a car-based job that can't drive needs to accept that a convenient pick-up/drop off point will be arranged. This can't necessarily be their front door!