To be really pissed off with people ignoring my DS

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Ds (4 years), dd (11 months) and myself have been on a couple of trips out this week in the nice weather. I must have met at least four separate people who have gone out their way to say how cute dd is and oh she is gorgeous etc, while my ds is stood there looking and them and not a word to him until i make a point.

AIBU to feel so sad and angry.

Mumyum are you serious
You're setting your children up for a lifetime of entitlement with that attitude. You really live in another world.

Yanbu - might be a lot less sibling jealousy around if adults were a bit more thoughtful and used basic manners.

Ha ha nice one Mumyum you nearly had us for a moment!

I think it's something you deal with as their parent rather than expecting strangers-who are only meaning to be nice-to deal with.

You say something like "yes, thank you, and ds is such a good big brother/just as gorgeous at that age" and move on.

And in conversation with ds at some point you mention that when he was that age he had just as many people stopping to say how wonderful he was.

Anyway people always say nice things about babies even if they're really thinking what an ugly little monster they look. It doesn't really mean that they think she's nicer than him.

Only1scoop... No i wouldnt pull them out of the buggy for a quick hello. Ds is stood next to the buggy when these strangers comment on my daughter, thats why i find it quite rude

I always make sure I say something to older siblings whilst cooing over babies. Something like "how luck she is to have so a kind/handsome/friendly" older brother and try and mention something positive to them as well.

Trouble is people don't always think. Maybe say something yourself to gently remind them like "we are very proud of her aren't we John, he was a lovely baby too"

It was tongue in cheek Op

I didn't actually believe you would

mummyum

I am speechless!!

OP Your older one was fussed over as a baby, now it is the ltlle one's turn.That is the way of teh world .we were all cute babies once but it has a shelfllife!

4 years is still very young though, especially to be left out