Horrendous morning sickness and partner poaching fish

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I am fuming.

I am suffering with horrendous morning sickness to the point I haven't eaten anything in 2 days with the exception of water/vitamin tablets.

I've just been out of the house for around 1-2 hours to sit by the canal at a picnic area to get some fresh air. OH was at home at this time.

I come home and within 5 minutes of me being home he starts to boil fish in milk and make a fish pie. I am literally gagging because of the smell of it. He knows I hate it when NOT pregnant, let alone now when any strong smell is making me vomit. I haven't eaten in two days, I'm doing whatever I can to refrain from being sick and he does this.

Im now sat upstairs with our bedroom door closed and windows open fully but can still smell it.

AIBU in thinking this is so selfish? if he had to do it at all he could of done it when I was out for 2 hours!! Argh

YADNBU
I remember that hellish feeling which lasted the entire pregnancy. I would advise going to the doctor soon. I wish I had.
( Sorry but the double meaning of your thread title made me cry with laughter)

PS: dd was FINE. After hospital I forced myself to eat watery veg like cucumber and lettuce. I used trial and error to find what other stuff worked and you will too. Please have a chat with your GP.

Go down and throw up all over him and his fish, maybe he'll get the message then.

What a twat. Definitely get to the gp, they should give you something if you're not eating.

He's being a teat, but definitely go to the GP, op. Especially in the warmer weather you are at risk of dehydration. Can you give them a call now and see if they can squeeze you in before surgery closes?

If you kill him there's not a court in the land that would convict you.

(Still suffering at 21 weeks here)

He's being a twat. I had HG in pregnancy and it's horrendous. He should be taking care of you not making things worse. I would sit him down and tell him in very clear terms how thoroughly unsupportive he's being and how hurtful that is.

I remember crying because my husband bought peanuts to eat on a car journey. He had to eat then stood in the car park in the rain as I refused to have the smell of then in the car. He then had to brush his teeth before being allowed back in the car. If he'd boiled fish I think I would have actually killed him! You are not being unreasonable LTB!

DH cooked fish last night. The house still reeks of it. I don't normally find it offensive but this pregnancy has been something else sickness wise. 17 weeks today and its improving but I still have iffy moments. I agree that smells can really set it off and people who haven't had pregnancy sickness have no idea. I used to heave when I walked in my office because people didn't open the window and sat there with smelly food and coffee

It doesn't have to be HG to make you feel sick in early pregnancy.Your partner is a selfish pig.When I had what was known then as morning sickness in the 1970's my husband gave up drinking tea,eating bacon and using our usual shower jell just because the smells made me barf.I wasn't being precious and he could see how those smells made me ill Now that's a real man.

Wait till he has D&V. Play the long game.

Fish smells frequently linger, even after cooking is done. Despite a now well practised routine when cooking fish, I can't avoid some smell lingering.

So your OH is a dickhead. And needs a very swift boot up the backside. I have big boots, can volunteer

I am suffering with similar ms and I would kick him right up the arse.

You are absolutely not BU and he is incredibly selfish. When I had 35 weeks of sickness with DC2 I had a colleague that cooked fish in the office microwave most days. How I didn't murder him I don't know.

I know I shouldn't laugh but seastargirl's story is just so evocative that I couldn't help myself.

Well I'm livid and I'm not a) there b) pregnant and c) someone who dislikes the smell of poached fish.

YANBU

When pregnant my DH was surprised to find me yelling 'are you making coffee?' from the bedroom having smelled it through two closed doors. However, he was generally very considerate and really worried about me when I could barely drink.

Is your OH normally so unsupportive? Comments about eating more veg etc are really unhelpful. You are going to need his support over the next year, not his criticism. I really hope things get better for you

I'm totally with you on how furious you feel! Currently pregnant and have been hospitalised with hyperemesis (but fear not, it has eased!)...not only do you feel horrendously awful but I feel that you need everyone around you to be extra sensitive to your needs be that fetching water/lollies and not cooking absolutely stomach wretching concoctions!! My DH made some pork slow cook slop that had me wretching for days but to be fair he was really apologetic!

Also on the HG front, going to hospital was the best thing I ever did in helping to aid my "recovery." Please don't worry you are damaging your baby! From what I understand it's mummy who suffers it all and is left with the scars (v dramatic, I know but I've never experienced such misery!!!) you have my deepest best wishes...I feel anyone who has suffered HG is now a kindred spirit of mine!

That's awful, poor you :(. When I was in the first trimester of my pregnancy DH wasn't even allowed to talk about food around me unless I started the conversation and he only cooked what I could stand that day or if that was nothing then cooked something not strong smelling for himself and ate it quietly in another room.

Fucking ridiculous YANBU

Ha ha! I too thought he was dangling a safety in on a string off a bridge on Lord DooDahs estate and the Ghillie was going to bust him any minute!

YANBU! You poor woman! I feel sick just reading your OP.

Is there anything you could manage to keep down? When I was at my worst I could just about face Heinz tomato soup, toast, sweets and fizzy pop.

Hope you feel better soon. And I hope your DH comes to understand how debilitating ms can be.

I really sympathise with you, how awful for you.

I had sickness very bad with my last pregnancy. It's awful and smells are the worst. I found sucking on mints ( nothing mega strong just something like polos ) really helped. My DH was a bit of a twat as well and did silly things during my last pregnancy too. I honestly think that they just don't think about it and the things he used to do cook that smelt ( I won't tell you ) used to make me vom in the sink at times.

Please do, like pp have said, visit your GP , as they will help you.

Really hope that you feel better soon

KILL HIM. KILL HIM WITH FIRE.

I feel your pain, my DH did the same when I was suffering. He was on some stupid protein diet at the time and was grilling meat and fish daily, just the thought of going home made me gag because I knew the smell was going to be there regardless. It got into EVERYTHING. I spent countless evenings sat in our bedroom with the window open trying not to vomit, even venturing to the toilet was a nightmare as I would inevitably smell it and be sick.

I really feel for you.