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To be really pissed off about this?

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Fanfeckintastic · 08/04/2015 21:40

I was supposed to go to a show tonight with a good friend. The tickets were £65 and my friend booked them on her card ages ago and I transferred the money into her account the same day.

Another good friend of hers (who we'll call Sally) who I have never met seems to be having a really bad time lately, horrible husband (that my friend really hates), money troubles etc among other things. A couple of days ago I said "it really seems as if Sally could do with some time out, do you want to give her my ticket and you two go and make a night of it?"
Friend replied "I don't think she'd afford the £50 for the ticket"
Now we did book the ticket ages ago so it's possible she just forgot the price or something, no big deal, I replied "don't be silly I don't want money for the ticket!"

All good, friend agreed to go.

Sally has just tagged my friend on Facebook at the event saying what a great night etc and also tagged her husband gushing for buying her the ticket Angry

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Marmaladedandelions · 08/04/2015 21:42

It is possible that your friend told 'Sally' her husband bought her the ticket. A lot of people would feel uncomfortable and upset if they thought they'd been invited as a charity case, no matter how well meaning and lovely your intentions were (and they were.)

wanttosqueezeyou · 08/04/2015 21:43

YanbuAngry

wanttosqueezeyou · 08/04/2015 21:44

Ask your 'friend' if what marmalade suggests is true. (And let us know immediately)

SolomanDaisy · 08/04/2015 21:45

I'd assume that your friend was planning to pass the money from the ticket on to you. Have you checked?

TheReluctantCountess · 08/04/2015 21:45

Yanbu.

Only1scoop · 08/04/2015 21:45

Angry On your behalf.

And sorry but spending 65 pounds on a night out to cheer up a relative stranger is a little odd.

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Fanfeckintastic · 08/04/2015 21:49

My friend and the husband are sworn enemies, there's no communication between the two at all after some really strained years between the two and some really big rows. I'm surprised to even see them tagged in the same post.

I'm almost certain my friend has charged Sally for the ticket, it would explain no thanks being passed on (not that I gave it for thanks but that would usually be the courteous thing)

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gamerchick · 08/04/2015 21:49

Comment 'what do you mean your husband bought you the ticket' and then say absolutely nothing further.

But then I like to make people squirm if they've ripped me off.

Penguito · 08/04/2015 21:52

You passed on a £65 ticket to someone you have never met???

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Fanfeckintastic · 08/04/2015 21:52

And sorry but spending 65 pounds on a night out to cheer up a relative stranger is a little odd

No it suited me not to go too, I've had a few out of the blue expenses etc and it was just less of a headache not to go.

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CrapBag · 08/04/2015 21:52

You need to ask your friend if this is true and if it is, then tell her the details to transfer the £65 to you.

I also don't understand why you gave away an expensive ticket that you really wanted to a total stranger. Her having a hard time and no money isn't really a concern of yours. I know you were trying to be nice but it seems a bit, I don't know really.

FenellaFellorick · 08/04/2015 21:54

Message your friend
i read x paid you for my ticket after all. Do you want my bank details or will you give me it in cash?

CrapBag · 08/04/2015 21:54

Ok cross posts.

It does even odd.

Were the tickets £-65? I thought maybe they were £50 and your friend pocketed the difference? And possibly has profited again? You definitely need to follow this up.

Only1scoop · 08/04/2015 21:56

"Just seen fb post. Why is Sally under impression her DH has paid for the ticket....what's going on"?

NotallTravellersarebad · 08/04/2015 21:56

Sounds like she sold your ticket, wow what a good "friend".

Only1scoop · 08/04/2015 21:59

And if your friend has tried to proff out of your good deed.

She ain't no friend ....bin her off.

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Fanfeckintastic · 08/04/2015 21:59

I don't really know where she was going with saying they were £50, either a mistake or wanted to make it cheaper for Sally I thought. But it was short notice so I wouldn't charge anybody for it, she would have probably had to finish work a bit early to go and organise her husband to be home for the children etc.

I'll text her now, I'm afraid of looking money hungry but more afraid of looking like a complete fool, which is how I feel!

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WibblyWobblyHead · 08/04/2015 22:01

What Fenella said!

Dr0pThePirate · 08/04/2015 22:01

Let me get this straight:

You paid your friend £65 for a £50 ticket
You gave this ticket to Sally
Your friend charged Sally/her husband for this ticket

Is that right?

eatyouwithaspoon · 08/04/2015 22:06

Cheeky friendm I would ask for the money as it would really bug me

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Fanfeckintastic · 08/04/2015 22:07

No the tickets definitely cost £65, there's no doubt about that.
I think she mentioned £50 so that if I had been looking for money for the ticket I would have only charged £50.

I'm just going to text similar to what Fenella suggested and assume she intends to pass the money on

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LindyHemming · 08/04/2015 22:08

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Only1scoop · 08/04/2015 22:09

Make reference as to why you are changing the goalposts though....you were happy to accept to money originally.

Only1scoop · 08/04/2015 22:10

'No money originalky" Confused

Dr0pThePirate · 08/04/2015 22:17

Are you going to text her now Fan?

Yes what Fenella said, something like "Oh Sally paid for the ticket then? Great, I'll pick up the money from you. Hope you guys had fun!"

Cheeky!

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