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To be really pissed off about this?

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Fanfeckintastic · 08/04/2015 21:40

I was supposed to go to a show tonight with a good friend. The tickets were £65 and my friend booked them on her card ages ago and I transferred the money into her account the same day.

Another good friend of hers (who we'll call Sally) who I have never met seems to be having a really bad time lately, horrible husband (that my friend really hates), money troubles etc among other things. A couple of days ago I said "it really seems as if Sally could do with some time out, do you want to give her my ticket and you two go and make a night of it?"
Friend replied "I don't think she'd afford the £50 for the ticket"
Now we did book the ticket ages ago so it's possible she just forgot the price or something, no big deal, I replied "don't be silly I don't want money for the ticket!"

All good, friend agreed to go.

Sally has just tagged my friend on Facebook at the event saying what a great night etc and also tagged her husband gushing for buying her the ticket

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BackOnPlanetEarth · 13/04/2015 23:00

Blimey, she's a right one . Did she say anything about charging for the ticket?

lunar1 · 13/04/2015 23:09

Wow, she really didn't think this through did she!

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Fanfeckintastic · 13/04/2015 23:18

No she just acted really insulted because I once mentioned a very slight and admittedly ignorant objection to the grand national.
I don't believe it for a second, she's an opinionated enough person to have it out with me straight away if she believed I was getting on any moral high horse

I think I will probably just stop making any effort to communicate but might send on a "Hiya can you pop that money in my account when possible, cheers!" Type message in a few days, purely to wind her up! Yes I'm getting as bad as her now!

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SmillasSenseOfSnow · 13/04/2015 23:21

I would be telling the friend going through hard times about the whole situation, so she can make an informed decision about whether she wants/needs to allow that kind of person to continue taking up space in her life, tbh.

Theycallmemellowjello · 13/04/2015 23:25

I would assume that Sally insisted on paying or your fried suggested that some kind of contribution might be in order. Her husband gave her the money which she gave to your friend. Your friend is going to give you the money next time she sees you. It would be a bit weird if your friend let you know immediately - there was no urgency since you weren't expecting the money back in the first place. She was at a concert so not exactly about to start calling/texting you right then. Yabu for immediately assuming that your friend is ripping you off - give her a chance!

LondonRocks · 14/04/2015 00:22

What a weirdo! Make sure you get that money. Even if you don't need it, you don't deserve to be conned.

CrapBag · 14/04/2015 11:23

Wow. She has definitely received the money for it and doesn't want to pass it on. What a cow. She seems a tad too defensive. Send that text OP. I wouldn't let someone like this get away with it.

RealHousewifeOfSheffield · 14/04/2015 13:16

I'd comment on the fb post "thanks Sally, there was really no need to pay for the ticket as I was happy for you to take it. I'll grab it from friend when I see her next. Glad you guys had fun x'

Dr0pThePirate · 14/04/2015 13:35

Fan so has she actually admitted charging Sally for the ticket yet?

I think you did a really kind thing by offering the ticket for free but this "friend" has used your kindness as an opportunity to profit for herself. Please don't let her get away with it. You're a nice person, not a push over.

She'll come up with every excuse in the book from now on so just adopt the broken record technique and keep saying "Yes, just put the money in my account. Thanks".

Let us know how it goes.

Tokelau · 14/04/2015 14:24

I have experience of the MRI thing.

A few years ago DH collapsed in the garden. He was on his own, so we don't know if he fainted or had a fit, but he was extremely disorientated when he came round. He was acting strangely so we called an ambulance. He had a CT scan that night and a lumbar puncture the next day. He had to have an MRI scan, but we had to wait for that. He wasn't allowed to drive for six months.

So, the MRI thing may be genuine.

ApocalypseNowt · 14/04/2015 18:28

I'd say 'can you put the money in my account by x date'. Soon or whenever you can will mean never to this person.

Only1scoop · 14/04/2015 18:48

"Hi 'friend' hope you feeling better shall I just bill Sally for the most owed then? Seems to be some confusion here....thanks ever so"

IHateStampysVoice · 14/04/2015 18:58

It's simple.

Ask Sally via PM or text and send 'friend' a screen print. She sounds like a prick anyway.

Satsumafairy · 14/04/2015 19:22

Blimey Fan! That's incredible! Definitely try to get the money back though. How underhand of her.

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