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to think that the snobbery surrounding cheap toys is sometimes entirely justified?

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OstentatiousBreastfeeder · 08/04/2015 07:38

I've heard lots of people say that cheap toys are as good as the expensive ones, and to spend your money on the high-end stuff is completely unnecessary.

My SIL, for example, says she can afford to buy her children toys every week - because she buys them from poundland. She says they don't last very long, a couple of days at most sometimes before she chucks them, but they get variety and the excitement of something new more often than they would if she had to save up to buy them more expensive ones.

My parents bought the kids some toys for easter from the pound shop. It was a few cars for DS and a plastic doll for DD. They're crumbling to pieces after a few days, the doll was made with plastic so thin it was hard to believe it had stayed together this long - it's all gone in the bin this morning - It was a choking hazard.

I didn't expect them to last long obviously, but it occured to me as I was throwing them away what a huge waste it was. You can't recycle these materials and the cars and the doll were one of hundreds of thousands that were being (and are still being) produced to such a poor quality. All of these toys will end up in the bin very soon after purchase.

AIBU to think that maybe the snobbery surrounding these poor quality, cheap toys is justified? I don't mean the good quality toys that happen to be cheap to make, so end up in pound shops, bouncy balls, marbles etc. I mean the toys that are made to look like their expensive counterparts (barbies etc) but are made for pennies.

OP posts:
Koalafications · 08/04/2015 07:40

Buying new toys every week and throwing away the old ones is incredibly wasteful, YANBU.

WhoKnowsWhereTheTimeGoes · 08/04/2015 07:42

Not only wasteful but so disappointing if they break after a few days.

waithorse · 08/04/2015 07:43

YANBU. My dd won one of those £shop Barbie type dolls at an event last year. The plastic was so thin it was ridiculous. Think the limbs started falling off after about 5 minutes. Hmm

hennybeans · 08/04/2015 08:24

YANBU but I think you will get many on here to point out that when it comes to a £1 'Barbie' or a £20 Barbie, their budget dictates it will be the former every time.
Personally, I think it would be better to save money and wait for offers and buy the toy that will be well made and last. Or buy the better quality toy second hand which I often do.
But frankly my budget allows me to buy the real thing without waiting or buying it second hand, so I'm not really one to talk. I imagine when you have no choice, saving up or buying second hand is not always appealing. I'm sure sometimes people just want to feel like they can buy a toy when their child asks without having to sacrifice other things, and so the £1 toys will never disappear. Of course buying several toys every week at any price is not doing a child any favours.
It's a bit like everything else in the world- clothing, food, etc.

nochocolateforlentteacake · 08/04/2015 08:29

Pound shop is good for things like paper, crafty stuff, puzzle books - things that arentvsupposed to last.

If you buy 'better' toys they will last, your child will learn that if they look after a toy it (hopefully ) won't break, plus it can be handed down to younger sibling, relation, friend... Even ebayed.

I don't like his consumerised world that we live in these days. It wasn't all that long ago (my parents wartime childhood) when you just couldn't accumulate 'stuff'.

Eminybob · 08/04/2015 08:31

That's actually quite shocking as I thought that all children's toys would have had to be built to a minimum standard so as to be safe?
I have bought a couple of baby toys, rattles for eg from the pound shop for my baby and they haven't fallen to bits but your op will make me think twice about buying anything else. So I think yanbu.

I have recently discovered facebook selling sites for baby toys, I've just picked up a v-tech activity table in immaculate like new condition for £10, whereas it would have been about £35 new, so there isn't really any need to spend £££ on stuff if you don't mind second hand, and you still get the quality.

cookiefiend · 08/04/2015 08:33

I do love a bargain- but not with cheap toys. I am worried about what they are made of and the danger to my child. YANBU. Most children have too many toys anyway- they get the most enjoyment from the simplest things so no need to have loads of toys.

TwoOddSocks · 08/04/2015 08:34

I agree that pound land is good for cheap craft stuff to fill up your craft box but buying new toys every week and throwing them away is wasteful. I'd also much rather my DS learns to appreciate his things rather than just enjoying the novelty of new tat that's totally disposable.

LowryFan · 08/04/2015 08:36

Also worrying that they can be produced so cheaply. Makes you think, someone else's child is probably working in terrible conditions making toys for 'rich' children.

DixieNormas · 08/04/2015 08:38

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bananayellow · 08/04/2015 08:38

Maybe some kids like variety each week, but my kids got attached to their favourite toys and would have been upset to play with something fun and then it break.
I don't think it is a good lesson to learn, to be so cavalier with one's possessions.

hazeyjane · 08/04/2015 08:40

My mum bought a toy plane from a market, that had wires sticking out of it and sharp pieces of plastic, if that wasn't crappy enough the tune it played was OUT OF THIS WORLD awful. Like some euro pop nightmare sung by a woman with a very shrill chinese accent. The dcs absolutely loved it of course, and would play the song for bloody hours twerking around the house to it, until it had an unfortunate plummet down the stairs (slightly aided by my foot).

On the other hand the flimsy plastic ninja sword that ds won at the fair (which 'only' cost £3.99 on the worlds most expensive hook-a-duck) is held together with gaffer tape, but is extremely well loved.

Snozberry · 08/04/2015 08:41

DD has a car track toy which was £10 and falls apart if she breathes on it, she could have had 10 toys from poundland...

Some of her more expensive toys are indestructable but I’d never pay full price, there are always sales, ebay, charity shops, facebook. And it is less wasteful when several children can play with a toy and it’s still decent, what is the point of buying loads of toys just to bin them in a couple of days? That is teaching a child to be greedy, wasteful, and not look after their stuff.

shewept · 08/04/2015 08:43

I think sometimes things are 'too cheap'. I love a bargain, but these sorts of toys are not a bargain. Because they don't last. I would rather save up and buy better quality. Also I don't mind second hand, ds has some great toys that have lasted ages that we got second hand and he plays with them alot. Its not snobbery for me, its a waste of money.

Snozberry · 08/04/2015 08:44

Oh yes poundland is good for crafts, and some of the books and DVDs are good, we just got a 20 episode Arthur DVD.

Mrsjayy · 08/04/2015 08:48

Pound shop tat is fine now and again but everyweek is daft imo its just sending out a message that stuff is disposible and children can get something new whenever somethimg breaks cos its just a pound it doesnt matter .

Birdsgottafly · 08/04/2015 08:49

I don't think "Snobbery" is the right word, tbh.

The production of cheap plastics is rendering local water supplies, unusable in many third world etc countries. This is adding to poverty, hunger and poor health, globally.

So is the increasing Landfills of non degradable items.

My youngest is 17 (I have a GD and Nephews, though), my children (and myself) grew up perfectly well without the need to consume on the level many consider normal or needed.

The Developed societies, do mined to think about our consumerism and not only consider the global effects, but the effects on our own Mental Health.

We certainly aren't becoming any happier because we can shop more often, or own more stuff.

Even children are showing decreased happiness and good Mental Health, especially Teenagers.

nochocolateforlentteacake · 08/04/2015 08:49

We got a plasticy robot toy from China as a gift.

She yells 'OK...shit!' (Not 'shoot') then fires plastic balls at you. She also has other odd utterances, but I forget what they are. It amuses the hell out of all the kids who see it. Not sure if it was cheap, but I'm not sure it would pass EEC safety guidelines.

Iliveinalighthousewiththeghost · 08/04/2015 08:50

I take the point about it being wasteful to keep buying things for £1 that keep breaking. Although I must say I personally find the £ shop very good quality and it goes without saying it's excellent value for money.

Mrsjayy · 08/04/2015 08:51

No it isnt snobbery its a waste.

PeaStalks · 08/04/2015 08:51

Why do people buy their children toys every week? This is how they learn to expect everything they ask for. Cheap toys today, designer clothes and iPhones at 11.
We used to have a neighbour who did this. Every time she went out she bought her young DS a present. It wasn't "hello mum" when he got home from school it was "what have you got me today?"

Delilahfandango · 08/04/2015 08:52

It sends out an awful message! Stuff shouldn't be thought of as disposable! Consumerism has gone stark, raving bonkers!!

QueQuesto · 08/04/2015 08:53

YANBU, that's what put me off ordering any of the mega cheap toys from aliexpress at Christmas when the bargain shopping threads were full of them, it's probably cheap knock off shite that will break after 5 minutes. I'd rather pay more for the real versions of them and get less toys for my money, it's a false economy.

Iliveinalighthousewiththeghost · 08/04/2015 08:55

Sent to quick. But people spend as much as they can or are willing to afford, don't they. It's all very well people chirping away on a facess site saying "Oh yes it's very unreasonable to only spend a pound on a toy. I spend thousands on mine. Well that's great but be mindful not everyone is as lucky as you.

Mrsjayy · 08/04/2015 08:55

And its buying for the sake of buying i cant be doing with that my dds are older but when they were toy age i never just bought every week so they had variety of toys to play with for a few days