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to think that the snobbery surrounding cheap toys is sometimes entirely justified?

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OstentatiousBreastfeeder · 08/04/2015 07:38

I've heard lots of people say that cheap toys are as good as the expensive ones, and to spend your money on the high-end stuff is completely unnecessary.

My SIL, for example, says she can afford to buy her children toys every week - because she buys them from poundland. She says they don't last very long, a couple of days at most sometimes before she chucks them, but they get variety and the excitement of something new more often than they would if she had to save up to buy them more expensive ones.

My parents bought the kids some toys for easter from the pound shop. It was a few cars for DS and a plastic doll for DD. They're crumbling to pieces after a few days, the doll was made with plastic so thin it was hard to believe it had stayed together this long - it's all gone in the bin this morning - It was a choking hazard.

I didn't expect them to last long obviously, but it occured to me as I was throwing them away what a huge waste it was. You can't recycle these materials and the cars and the doll were one of hundreds of thousands that were being (and are still being) produced to such a poor quality. All of these toys will end up in the bin very soon after purchase.

AIBU to think that maybe the snobbery surrounding these poor quality, cheap toys is justified? I don't mean the good quality toys that happen to be cheap to make, so end up in pound shops, bouncy balls, marbles etc. I mean the toys that are made to look like their expensive counterparts (barbies etc) but are made for pennies.

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Iliveinalighthousewiththeghost · 08/04/2015 08:56

Faceless not facess

Notso · 08/04/2015 08:58

DS2 had a cheap fire station set from one of his friends for his birthday. He loved it and it looked impressive but the quality was awful. It didn't fit together properly and bits broke off it all the time. I threw it out after a week.

We have had some fab toys from pound shops though. I spent £3 on a set of Sesame St Kush balls for DD as a baby that are still going strong, she is nearly 15.
I buy hot wheels and matchbox cars from there which last forever. One of DS2's favourite toys is a police hat from Poundland.
It's pretty obvious to me which £1 toys will last and which ones won't so I shop carefully. Usually if it's a large item or you get a lot of them they won't last.

YouMakeMyHeartSmile · 08/04/2015 09:00

I didn't know there was any snobbery around cheap toys! I tend to buy DD things on the recommendation of friends with older children but she's only 17 months so not at the pestering stage. I also buy decent ones because I'm pregnant with my second so makes sense to get something that will last. If it was the choice between cheap toys or no toys, id buy cheap toys.

RedButtonhole · 08/04/2015 09:00

Yanbu, I have a very low income but I don't buy cheaper toys that I know will fall to bits.

DS has "real" lego and decent toy cars (hotwheels, matchbox, or even the £1 supermarket ones are ok). I buy him a small toy (car or lego minifigure) every few weeks but bigger, more expensive toys are for birthdays and Christmas, I wouldn't buy him a £20 action figure on a weekly basis so I don't buy him the poundshop equivalent either.

I don't think its a good to teach children that everything is so disposable. DS has to look after his toys and so they last well. If he mistreats them, they are not automatically replaced, whatever they cost.

YouMakeMyHeartSmile · 08/04/2015 09:01

And the toy that has had by far the most use in our house (bought at 6 months and still going strong at 17 months) are the Tomy Hide and Squeak eggs which were £4.00 from amazon.

Birdsgottafly · 08/04/2015 09:08

"Oh yes it's very unreasonable to only spend a pound on a toy. I spend thousands on mine. Well that's great but be mindful not everyone is as lucky as you.""

That's not what is happening, though, the toy isn't being bought, because that's the budget.

It's being bought to be used for a few days and then replaced, so it's a simple case of developing ethics, giving a shit (and being educated about global/societal issues)and teaching your children values by simply changing your shopping habits.

I know many teens and adults would have poor mental health and quality of life because unless their able to afford theme parks, " organised fun" etc and buy things, they think their failing/doing without.

We're losing the ability to just enjoy life, without spending money and owing certain things.

Birdsgottafly · 08/04/2015 09:10

Tomy Hide and Squeak Eggs are brilliant, I've bought these for children for 18 years and they are always well played with.

Like Click/Clack rolling track type toys.

merrymouse · 08/04/2015 09:13

Isn't the problem here more shoddy knock off toys than cheap toys?

Mrsjayy · 08/04/2015 09:19

Birds i agree with you its like an instant hit some new thing and if we dont spend money then we are not happy

Mrsjayy · 08/04/2015 09:20

Jeez my last post was babbled nonsense you get the gist Blush

nochocolateforlentteacake · 08/04/2015 09:21

I think the problems are: cheaply made toys that break/ have sharp bits, and buying into the 'gimme gimme more more' consumer culture. Plastic tat today, expensive trainers and Apple gizmos a few years down the line.

ineedabodytransplant · 08/04/2015 09:24

From the other side....

When I was small my mum would always buy cheap toys. I'd be looking at Scalextrix and she'd buy a cheap version which would be crap. Every.single.time she'd buy a cheap version. And it wasn't the sort of childhood where you could ever allow your true feelings about the toy to be seen.

So bloody disappointing. It wasn't that she couldn't afford the real thin, she spend enough money up the pub.

ineedabodytransplant · 08/04/2015 09:25

thing not thin...

Pointlessfan · 08/04/2015 09:28

I agree about the waste of resources and all the pollution caused in the manufacture, transport and disposal of those cheap toys.
I have found good quality (eg. V-tech, leap frog) toys in the charity shop for £1.50 so it can be just as affordable to buy the better made toys.

MrsMook · 08/04/2015 09:30

I'm trying to steer DS (4) away from magazines with the highly breakable toys on them. He now gets pocket money so two months of saving can get him a Lego kit. If he eyes something up, he is free to buy it, but told how much longer it will take to buy the Lego if he does. There's definitely been a reduction of what he's been getting since we started at new year. We've had some great trucks from the supermarket for £5, but also weak toys that didn't last well and were a disappointment.

Buying stuff just because it's cheap is incredibly wasteful of resources. Workers will be in poor conditions. The child learns the value of nothing.

Mrsjayy · 08/04/2015 09:32

Mil when she was alive didnt have much money but she would buy dds lots of cheap toyd for christmas id rather she bought them 1 £10 thing that lots of tat i know that sounds ungrateful but most of it was broken by new year her reasoning was that it looked like they had more,

duplodon · 08/04/2015 09:37

Just popping on here to shout out for TK Maxx. We have had amazing bargains on great toys from TK Maxx. Just this week, I got a Ravensburger set of four Thomas the Tank jigsaws for 3 quid. We've had lovely Wonderworld, Melissa and Doug and Fisher Price toys from there too. Win win!

Discopanda · 08/04/2015 09:38

I get DD stuff from the charity shop, got her a peppa pig balloon ride toy that is usually £15 for £3, you know it's going to last because it's had at least one owner already, doesn't use up more resources and some of the proceeds go to charity.

Gileswithachainsaw · 08/04/2015 09:41

I don't think snobbery is justified. fir some that's all they can afford.

but I do agree that it's just a waste and pointless. my kids aren't snobs they do t ask for much. But I do try and get what it is they want and the version they want because why pay twice, and why disappoint your child who was so excited at the idea of he to g something then produce some cheap shoddy version of it.

my parents do this. they like to treat them and it's lovely that they do. But they just buy cheap stuff that breaks. I can't leave them.alone to play with it because I need to be there to make sure they do t actually snap off something or loose a part.

I'd rather have a few less things and get better quality ones where I can leave the room without fear components will break because it's so badly made and they don't fit together so you have to force it and it bends or snaps etc

Artandco · 08/04/2015 09:55

I agree. Some second hand stuff is amazing also.

I saw a huge bag of duplo Lego in a charity shop recently, easily £200 worth. Was labelled at £5. Would be an amazing present for any child say 1-5 years.

If people struggle with affording gifts second hand really is the best way to buy good quality things that will last. Then maybe a few new craft things new ontop.

We are fortunate that we have little money problems, but we have a cleaner who works only a few hours and has a 2 year old. We said she was welcome to a variety of our own children's toys they had outgrown if she wanted, and she said it saved Xmas as basically all gifts for child were free, so they had money to treat themselves and family to nice food and trips to Christmas events instead.

MiaowTheCat · 08/04/2015 10:08

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CuttedUpPear · 08/04/2015 10:14

Have a look at the massive island of broken plastic that exists the Atlantic, and others growing in other oceans across the world. Parent birds mistakenly feed this to their young and they are dying in their droves with bellies rammed full of broken plastic.

Lots of our waste is bought by foreign companies that ship it out to sea and dump it.

So no, YANBU. Toys that don't break are better.

Littlemonstersrule · 08/04/2015 10:26

YANBU, most toys from budget shops are tat and fall apart within days. A waste of resources and we then wonder why we have so much landfill. I can't imagine how much there is the week after Christmas as many seem to buy every item for their facebook/website pictures to make the pile look big.

Barbies can cost as little as £5 for a basic one and will last years compared to a £1 doll that will be lucky to see out the week.

Gileswithachainsaw · 08/04/2015 10:49

So how does one say, politely ask grandparents to not buy stuff.

especially when they rave about how good quality something is (well of course played with sporadically at visit a when everyone's there to supervise, it lasts but guess what the point of setting up games and activities is to free up five mins to do dinner etc)

I am by no means ungrateful I have tried to say that their time is plenty and kids don't need stuff bought for them all the time, but I still have a house full of broken tat with pieces missing. and often it's from say lidl where they do the buy of the week so replace v or writing off to say, fisher price for complaints or parts isn't possible.

what does a person do in this situation

nochocolateforlentteacake · 08/04/2015 11:06

Just say that the child has his/her eye on something special - a lego thing or toy castle - and that you are saving up for it, or could they please buy an accessory that goes with it?