Diet. Am I being precious/sensitive? *possible triggers

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My boyfriend of almost a year has embarked on a new fitness/healthy eating regime. He is ever so slightly overweight and although it doesn't bother me at all I support the fact that he would like to slim down a bit.

The problem is, he has downloaded this app on his phone that tracks his calories in/out, what he'd have to do to burn more off etc.

I am a recovering anorexic. I haven't been ill for nearly five years now, and although my weight is probably at the lower end of 'normal' for my height it took a long time to get here and for the most part, I have a good relationship towards food.

I'm starting to really find it quite challenging the way my boyfriend is constantly talking about calories. I already know the calorie content of absolutely everything and he remarked that it was 'cool' that I could reel off this information on demand. He stayed over at mine at the weekend and I offered him a (grilled, lean meat) bacon sandwich. He started going on about how much fat and calories that would entail. I wasn't comfortable eating one after that, and felt a bit self conscious for the rest of the day with what I was putting in my mouth.

I know for me that thinking about calories and weight is a slippery slope before all the old feelings come back again . I don't weigh myself for example as I start to obsess about the numbers quite quickly.

My boyfriend knows I spent a lot of time being treated for an eating disorder. After an entire day of him calorie counting (his and mine) I did say can we not talk about it anymore although I really do support him as I don't want to go down that road again. He told me I was being selfish and really unsupportive.

So am I? Am I being totally precious? Would really appreciate some perspective.

I was so upset for you with this twat. I am pleased that your lovely flatmate has gone for wine. Enjoy it, you're better off single.

Well done OP. I'm sorry you've had to put up with him at all, and wish you enormous luck in your future life. You are brave and strong, I'm really impressed at you.

Hurrah !!!!
You won't regret it

I use a calorie counter app and it works -for me. At no time would include or even speak to anyone else about it. I just use it to roughly keep track.

He is not unreasonable to use it but he is v v v v v v unreasonable to include your intake and to to talk about it to you.

Enjoy your wine! I never developed into a full blown eating disorder but was dangerously close in my late teens. Even now I am constantly on edge about my eating. Slim but incredibly unhealthy. Your first couple of posts made me cry. Your boyfriend did not deserve you and I am so happy to see you realised that. Good luck and stay healthy

Keep, have a look at subsequent posts from the OP.

Mouse, well done. I can see where you had the guts and determination to pull yourself out of an eating disorder. This was a really positive move.

I'm really pleased you've put yourself and your hard won recovery first! Well done.

Well done! You're strong and have taken control of your own life. He was wanting to prevent that. You should be really proud of yourself.

Well done

Was almost in tears at your recent posts (have period so that prob explains) at how horrible he was being

He's definitely a controlling arse and you absolutely do not need anyone like him, best wishes and keep strong

Oh, well done! I was reading with my heart in my mouth as I had a severe ED as a teenager and I know how easy it is to feel yourself slipping back, even ten years on.

You took control of the situation, head on. It proves that despite the massive triggers and him goading you, you're winning the battle against Ana.

It's brilliant that you've had enough strength and self esteem not to fall for any bollocks off this poor excuse for a man.

Well done and stay firm, don't let him weedle his way back in, utter cunt that he is!

Well done, OP!!!

Horrible man. And telling you that you need to grow up is all the reassurance you need that you did the right thing. Well done op.

You are an inspiration OP.
Look at you now, years on from your ED and putting yourself first and getting rid of the shithead.
Well done.

Well done OP! You've absolutely done the right thing freeing yourself from this toxic person. Onwards and upwards!

Mouse, you are heroic. For beating anorexia, and for removing that piece of idiocy from your life.
I hope things are already much improved.

I also had an eating disorder that I worked hard to beat, and I'm absolutely on your side.

I am so sorry you had to go through this but so pleased you've dumped the fucker because you can now find someone who's actually good enough, when you're ready. He wasn't.

Thanks to everyone who posted lovely and helpful comments. Quite choked up by some of them!

And to everyone who has struggled in the past or is struggling now with an ED. It's bloody hard but it is possible to get there.

Mouse I have been lucky enough not to have suffered from an ED, and even from a perspective of little personal knowledge I am so, so glad that you have dumped that idiot...! He sounded controlling, bombastic, completely self-centred and utterly unconcerned at the damage that he could do to your health.
Congratulations on your strength and bravery