to want a couple of hours alone to cry and sleep?

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I have a 23mo, twins on the way and work full time. My husband doesn't seem to understand how exhausting this combination is.

This weekend I decided that, since he wasn't getting the hint, I was going to put my foot down and send him downstairs with DS on Sat morning so I could have a sleep in. After lying there for 20 mins listening to him tell off DS and the dog for various trivial things I decided to get up and hope for a sleep in on Sunday. H decided on Saturday afternoon that DS was 'getting on his nerves' because he was acting up (typical toddler behavior, lots of 'no' and 'mine', nothing actually naughty) so went to the pub to escape for a few hours.
Sunday came and it ended up that I was up with DS at the crank of dawn, while H slept until 9am then laid watching Top Gear re-runs on TV until 10:30. Later on in the afternoon I tried to escape for a nice warm bath while DS had his nap, but he woke after about 15mins and H sent him upstairs to find me.
Monday morning, we both got up with DS and H did some house work while I entertained DS, complained that I'd not helped, then once again pissed off to the pub (to watch the football team that I support and he doesn't!!) leaving me to look after a grumpy toddler who is crying for his daddy.
I really just want an hours peace. My hormones are all over, I'm exhausted, I need a cup of tea (that's still warm when I get round to drinking it) and chance to just cry!

If only mummies could escape to the pub too!! Sorry, rant over!

Yanbu, you really need to talk to him about all this, sooner rather than later.

For comparison, I felt my Dh was not very supportive during ds1s early days and my pregnancy with ds2, but he was still way better than this. It took a breakdown from me when ds1 was around 7 months, woke 3 times a night and I was working 50% (Dh worked 50% too)but since then he had EVERY SINGLE early morning with ds1 until he slept through at just under 2. Even the days he went to work - he'd get DS when he woke and keep him till he had to get ready for work. Even if it was only an extra 30-40 mins for me it helped a lot. And once I started sleeping badly at night when pregnant, he has again been doing all the early mornings. I'm still knackered (ds2 sleeps 1-2 hour intervals and I have ds1 at night too), but getting a little extra sleep feels like a bare minimum.

Actually calzart's post was helpful. It gives us an insight into the DH's deluded mindset e.g. the bizarre idea that 23 month olds just learn to entertain themselves somehow if you ignore them enough...

I'm not sure a spa day a trip to the pub or craft activities is exactly what a person carrying twins wants to do. You want to lie on your own bed with lots of pillows, a nice drink, some choccy and either a good book or film In between the lovely sleep you will have.

I think you need to speak to your GP/ obstetrician/midwife and get your husband to come with you.