Possibly about to out myself as a massive bridezilla so have donned my flameproof suit ready for a roasting. I'm getting married this year, it'll only be a small wedding and we're trying to do it as cheaply as possible. My dd is flower girl and I've asked my sister and best friend to be bridesmaids. Ds's dress is bought, as is mine, and both are ivory. I thought I'd like the bridesmaids in shades of ivory too. The difficulty here is that my dsis is away at university and my friend lives a good three hours away and getting them both together is a challenge to say the least. My dress is secondhand but beautiful, and neither bridesmaid objected to having second hand dresses, as they know we're trying to keep costs down and I'm not comfortable asking them to pay for their own dresses.
I've bought three good as new dresses, all different styles that haven't cost a lot at all, and with the intention of selling them back on if they're not right. My friend managed to come a few weeks ago, tried them all and loved them all, didn't mind which she wore. So far so good. My sister has come home from uni and has insisted that they're not right. She is as far from a diva as you could get, very bookish and, dare I say it, a bit dowdy, but she's decided she wants a very fitted dress, and in burgundy because she's so pale. I love my sister but I'm a bit thrown. I didn't mind the bridesmaids having different styles of dress, but burgundy is a no. It's a summer wedding and I wanted to keep it quite 'light' I suppose. Fake tan apparently isn't an option, and nor is a different bra, which I suggested might make one of the dresses look better.
We don't have a lot of cash but now my dad has said he'll pay for a new dress for dsis. I'm wondering if the issue is really that she doesn't want a secndhand dress, which is fine I suppose, my friend and I spent most of our uni days in one charity shop or another so it's not an issue for either of us. I want both of them to feel comfortable but I also don't want my friend to have to buy a new dress, which she's said now she will if she has to.
Where does this nudge into bridzilla territory? I want them both to feel and look great on the day, but I don't want to have to have dark dresses and I think that's what my sister is nudging for. Friend has similar colouring, looked great in the paler colour and honestly isn't fussed, though does have her heart set on one of the Ivory ones. How can I resolve this? I just can't get over my complete aversion to the idea of burgundy dresses!