To humanely squash massive spiders

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They're huge, they're in my house, and I'm terrified of them. 3 in 2 weeks. Big ones.

I love animals, I feel really guilty but I just can't live with them. They're massive and they're really unusually fast and I'm constantly on edge in my own home.

So AIBU to squash and remove?

(I'm only squashing because DH away and I am SO scared that leaving them to go through the house to pop up another day is scarier than getting near enough to squash. Although it still takes about half an hour to work up to it)

Really bad form from the spiders that, can't cope with a one on one so gross off and gets his cronies.

squashing is quick. just aim straight as it is worse to have a pissed off spider running about the place on five legs vowing revenge.

oh and do not stand underneath. the feckers fall on your head.

That is why I can't kill or go near them.

Walking up to a fly's head on my pillow is not what I want

I agree Worra 'phobia' is misused like allergic, depressed and OCD.
A genuine phobia is a dreadful thing. Not many people have them though.

. They're hardly endangered. Kill them.
Neither are people. Not ok to kill them.

Get the Lakeland thing or a cat. My cat has been worring at this spider for a while now.

Resurrect That's a big ol' NOPE from me!

Ooooohhhhhh, what a lovely black pussy.
So cute.

I think it is a misused term.

But phobias of spiders are commoner than most phobias - they are not even really like many phobias, because they belong to a class of phobias that seem to be very deep-rooted.

No I have not changed my username.... sierra is the name of my pink toe tarantula. YABU to kill any living creature for no reason :( put a glass over it and use a a bit of card to put it outside.

yabu. don't squish spiders. Spiders are nice.

I'm a recovering phobic (the real type) I never learned to kill them, I just couldn't do it. Well except once, I bought a spray killer. It was the most horrendous death I have ever witnessed and it still haunts me. Poor fucker desperately trying to keep hanging onto the curtains as it died, slowly. I still feel physically sick remembering it. On balance a direct hit is humane.

I did get over the fear though so I'd definitely recommend trying if you can. Start by glass moving tiny ones then work up - at least that worked for me! I can catch most now although my dog loves the large ones which helps (natural death seems more reasonable somehow).

To the pp asking why use a glass it's so I can see it's definitely contained!

Agree with glass and piece of card.
I love spiders!

We've evolved to have a legitimate fear of spiders, however we are civilised so don't kill them. leave them be or move them

I Fucking hate the cretins but I never kill them, just kinda move them along

YANBU at all. Kill 'em all I say!!!

Oh god is it spider season?
The clothes on my floor-drobe keep getting funny looks from the cats. Should I just set fire to the bedroom?

My friend had a spider phobia, and took a CBT (cognitive behavioural therapy) session. 1 hour, no spider contact, very sceptical, she was not convinced how it could possibly have done anything especially as they says she didn't need to come back for more sessions.

A while later, she saw a spider and calmly got rid of it with a glass and card. This from a woman who did live on her own and did ask her next door neighbours to come and get rid of spiders, then sat in bed unable to sleep in case there were more.

Why do you have to kill or catch them at all? Whenever there is a spider in my house I generally just watch it as it moves from one place to another. Most of the time they just go and hide somewhere and if they don't - well, they're not exactly wielding knives or guns are they? (Apart from that mutated one that went for back up )
Just let them get on with it. I've never ever knowingly killed a spider and I've never ever been attacked, hurt or killed by one...

Humane and squish cannot be in the same sentence. YABU.

Get one of the spider suckers or woman up and do glass and beer mat thing.

Constantly I'm reading that grown women are so scared of spiders, that they expect their husbands or anyone else with a penis to deal with them.

Errr, no, I expect someone who is not phobic to deal with them. In my household this happens to be a man. He generally does not use his penis to trap them.

And yes, I did drop the P bomb

My spider phobia is much improved, as I can now write and see the word without sweating and feeling nauseous.

when you squish it, who cleans it up? How can it be nicer to deal with a phobia by creating a squished mess rather than ignore the beast or learn to catch & evict it properly?

I am absolutely terrified of spiders, definitely phobic.

Even reading this thread has made my heart pound and my hands shake.

I'm not scared of anything else in life that I can think of but spiders are just the devil's own bastard scary revolting minions.

SQUASH THEM ALL.

Hellkitty

It seems there are alot of people on here who are misunderstanding what it's like to have a phobia - people saying "I don't like them/they give me the heeby jeebies, but I deal with them so you should too". I'm sorry but that is so different to when you have a phobia. My reaction to spiders is physical - I feel sick, my throat tightens, my heart and breathing rate increases, I sweat and shake, I cry. I cannot rest until that spider is GONE. I have nightmares about spiders. It may be cruel but death is the only way that I can be reassured and calmed down to know that the spider is not coming back. if someone was willing to take the spider 500m from my house, that might work...

spider haters - have you tried Raid? that saved me once from a mega spider that was in an awkward non-crushable position when I was home alone (I sprayed half a tin on it mind). Its also supposed to be a repellent. I doused my whole house in it when I moved in and regularly top up the cracks and crevices. Also conkers are supposed to be repellent, it may be an old wives tale but they help me sleep at night during spider season.

I'm with whoever said they can't face the thought of therapy because of exposure...! but I am seriously thinking of looking into it before September (aka spider month aka insomnia month aka the worst month of the year)

when you squish it, who cleans it up?

It's been on the underfloor heating all night so should be dry enough to safely set the Dyson on now.

I really am feeling so guilty about it though :(

I'm 100% with bean! For the few months they are constantly around I genuinely feels as though it takes over my life I am constantly on edge, only recently have I been able to get close enough to Hoover them up or drop the argos catalogue on them, before that I had to call my sister or dad to come to my house while I stood there making sure it didn't move sobbing and crying uncontrollably. I don't feel guilt because I have a completely irrational hatred towards them for messing up my life! It's not something I can control even though I am a grown woman as much as I would like to!